To say DH needs to stay home next weekend?

[Mediocrewife]

Arguing with DH. He's come back from his hobby and told me he's away hillwalking next weekend. No discussion which is not like him. Just I'm away with my friends for the whole day. Again.
The last two weekends he's been away for most of both days doing sporty thing/hobby, weekend after next he's away training for his work. Weekend after that he's something else on again.
So next weekend I was actually looking forward to having some help and time with him.I've broken my arm and its still really sore so I've been struggling with housework, running around and picking up kids and looking after our dogs. He's just got a new dog so more work.
Except its me whose bloody doing the work. Or it feels like it! I'm bloody knackered! I need a bit of help!
I've had no time to do any of the billing for my business this weekend or clean my van or you know.....relax! I'm supposed to be resting my arm.

Probably being unreasonable but I'm sore and tired and cannot see a compromise. He's not usually like this.

I actually would have packed my bags by now. Or his, and told him to stay in the hills for the foreseeable.

Tell him that if he is not home at the weekend to take care of his dog, it will be taken to the local shelter.

And/or as soon as he's in bed on Friday, go away for the weekend.

You know a divorce would mean you have two child free weekends a month! So many men are selfish and useless!

Sounds like it. She's the proverbial nanny-with-a-fanny. Marrying her was the cheaper option. The shared child was to tie her to him and stop her leaving. These type of men are all the same, they only love themselves.

I'm so sorry OP, but could you be more of a mug accepting this.
You are being used.
The fact you are injured is particularly disgusting.
Unbelievable what somd women accept on MN.

It sounds very suspicious to me ! I'd absolutely not be putting up with it at all , I'd also be telling him the dogs his responsibility or you're rehoming it .
What's the point in being with him when you're already doing everything alone while he's jotting off like he's single and can do as he pleases !

He’s taking the piss and he knows it. He’s not even treating you like a friend or a colleague, let alone his wife. Why has he been away so much recently and still expects to go away more? He’s not pulling his weight in the slightest. Marriage isn’t 50/50, sometimes it’s one of you giving 90 and the other giving 10 and then it changes but he doesn’t get to opt out of family life like this. Especially when you’re in pain.

Just so fuckin disappointed and angry!
Oh and I'm going out next weekend with friends anyway. My turn. But he thinks its ok for us both to be out and no one to do the grunt work.

We used to get caught up in the ‘my turn’ matches, it achieves nothing in terms of the relationship and the kids feel like you’re running away from them (one of my sons actually commented on how he wished we could all be together on a Saturday night- the guilt!!!!)

Maybe it’s a once off two weeks in a row, maybe he needs to hear that he’s not young and single anymore, but either way you both need to have a sensible chat

It's not his arm that's broken, he should be able to sort himself out....!

I can’t believe people always blame the guy. He might actually want to just relax as you haven’t stated what he’s been doing in the run up, people should think about it more fairly. What happened to men’s rights?

gosh we really need the laugh reaction back.

What happened to men's rights? absolutely nothing. They still have them all. And more of the money, power and influence

It sounds like now the DC are teenagers he thinks the parenting's over and you and him can go off and leave them. It's strange that he's become selfish about going out just at the time when you're hurt and less able to do anything- is he having a mid life crisis op?

"Oh really? I'm not available to look after your pets and your kids so you'll need to organise a dog sitter and childcare for the whole weekend. I might go away too. Have fun."

Have you read a different thread to the rest of us?

The OPs husband is being selfish and thoughtless.

This saved me from typing anything here.

Has he got a mistress?!! Seriously tho, why isn't he taking the dogs with him? He's on walking holidays!

I know you're adamant that he isn't cheating OP, but if this is uncharateristic behaviour then I'd personally start to wonder. I wish I had £1 for every woman who was unshakeably convinced her partner wasn't up to something. And that includes me! I'd keep an eye on his "hobby" if I was you.

@Mediocrewife ( which you certainly are not! !)
From this moment I honestly would just do nothing! No cooking, no cleaning, no dog walking etc….. let it all go….. trust me nothing major will happen. Just say… it’s all caught up with you….. you just can’t continue as you are…….

You can’t be serious @Mum1120 .

Your instant response should have been
”well who is looking after the kids as my hotel is already booked “

This would be it for me. It's contempt. You've broken your arm and he thinks it's more important to go hill walking?

You always find out how people feel about you when you really need them.

I’d be checking he is where he says he is and who he is with.

if it’s not an affair he is still a selfish c£&@t

DH “I’m away with friends the whole day, next weekend”
OP “Me too! So, I’ll let sort out house stuff, dogs, kids etc as I did it last eleventy billion times”

Well the OP’s DH did choose to have both children and dogs.
His own children and dogs.

So if he shouldn’t be expected to spend weekends with his own children and dogs, who should?

There's probably a good reason why he's spending so much time away. Home life there sounds like a ballache. How's your relationship?