To say DH needs to stay home next weekend?

[Mediocrewife]

Arguing with DH. He's come back from his hobby and told me he's away hillwalking next weekend. No discussion which is not like him. Just I'm away with my friends for the whole day. Again.
The last two weekends he's been away for most of both days doing sporty thing/hobby, weekend after next he's away training for his work. Weekend after that he's something else on again.
So next weekend I was actually looking forward to having some help and time with him.I've broken my arm and its still really sore so I've been struggling with housework, running around and picking up kids and looking after our dogs. He's just got a new dog so more work.
Except its me whose bloody doing the work. Or it feels like it! I'm bloody knackered! I need a bit of help!
I've had no time to do any of the billing for my business this weekend or clean my van or you know.....relax! I'm supposed to be resting my arm.

Probably being unreasonable but I'm sore and tired and cannot see a compromise. He's not usually like this.

Are the children his?

If no, then he's being a crap husband. Potentially acting suspiciously like he has checked out.

If they are his kids then you can add crap dad to the list.

YANBU.

Tell him for every day he's away at the weekend, he has to put all the dogs into kennels/with a dog sitter. It's not fair to leave it all on you when you've a broken arm!

Unbelievably bad/selfish/entitled behaviour from DH.
You need to lay down the law here because he's treating u like a fool.
Thank goodness Mumsnet is here to shine some light onto this.
Selfish selfish self centred man. Unbelievable.

You broke your arm and he’s been away most of the last 3 weekends? I’d pack a bag and tell him (via phone once I’ve left) my arm is hurting as it is taking a lot of load because your children’s dad is a selfish entitled uncaring asshole, and I’ll be back after next weekend hopefully feeling much better and if the house isn’t beautiful the kids cared for and he’s not grateful for the family load I carried with a broken arm then I will leave again.

I'd make it clear you'll be rehoming the dog while he's gone. Even if it means shelter.

Has he always been so selfish?

Baffles me that you would actually have to spell this out to him? He is taking the piss and you are letting him. Some days I am so glad I’m a lesbian because my wife would never ever leave me with a broken arm, my kids and a new dog.

What’s the point of being married to someone who just fucks off being selfish every weekend?

You have a broken arm, kids and dogs. What a selfish twat he sounds pleasing himself every weekend.

You are being a MUG and not at all unreasonable.

Agree with a PP, if you have a broken arm he needs to be there full time! I broke my wrist (radius and ulna) last year, and was completely incapable of much for months!

Unless you have strong teenagers (who can drive) at home he shouldn't be going anywhere. What a selfish git.....

Of course you can go darling. BUT you take kids & dogs with you, or arrange for them all to be looked after because I will not be here from 5pm Friday until late Sunday.

Given he is going to be away for the following 2 weekends, not only does he need to stay home this weekend but you need to be able to go out. On your own. For as long as you like.

While he manages everything and also preps some freezer meals for the next 2 weekends.

And the dog needs rehoming. If he wants a dog then he needs to be available to look after it. He's shown he is not willing to do that so it needs to go now before it becomes harder to do so.

My husband currently has a broken collar bone. I've not left him alone with the kids for the last 2 weeks other than to work. Have cancelled any evening and weekend plans away from the home. He is being incredibly selfish, your arm with not heal properly without rest x

Organise to go out very early and leave him home with the kids.

Oh, and hill walking might be code for having sex with another woman. Check all his devices, particularly as he is getting more and more rude and entitled about his demands for freedom, which you say is unlike him.

But even if he's just being a lazy, rude entitled pig with his friends, he's still a lazy, rude entitled pig. Time to stop being a doormat, or this is your life for as long as your marriage lasts.

He needs to stay home all weekend. You're needing help, how can he not see this ?

Hobbies are great but not when occupy every weekend leaving you on your own with kids

even more so with a broken arm

Keep the dog.
rehome the man.

YANBU, he sounds awful OP. Does he not care about you at all?

I've broken my arm and its still really sore so I've been struggling with housework, running around and picking up kids and looking after our dogs

This is appalling. And has he always been like this? I am assuming not if you agreed to have children with him as well as own pets?

Completely agree. I would be on alert for another woman or the potential for one soon.

And as you say even in “best case” scenario where he is truly is just with platonic friends and there’s no affair - it’s still terrible behaviour.

Last line in the OP: “He’s not usually like this.”

This is probably the closest to unanimous voting I have seen on AIBU.

I think its good to have time apart, but its also good to spend time together.

Last line in the OP: “He’s not usually like this.”

Ah I missed that.

Well OP something is going on IMO. He is either feeling fed up and frustrated of family life and/or someone else has his attention.

So literally every weekend he is away? That is ridiculous and YANBU. Have you told him you need help and how does he justify leaving you to deal with everything at home? I would not have agreed to a new dog and would be rehoming that pretty quickly. Selfish man.

leave him