To be fuming DH forgot school shoes AGAIN?

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Right so I sent DH into Clarks yesterday because DS2’s school shoes are literally falling apart sole coming off flapping around and I said PLEASE just get him black school shoes any black school shoes that fit his feet I don’t care what brand

He comes back smug as anything with… black TRAINERS 😑 like proper sporty ones not even pretending to be school shoes says “it’s all they had in his size” and now of course DS2 thinks they’re amazing and is buzzing to wear them

Except school are super strict and will 100% say no trainers allowed then I’ll be the one trying to explain it Monday morning and DS2 will have a meltdown because he wanted to wear them and I’ll look like the crap mum who can’t get it right

DH is now saying I’m being dramatic and “they’re basically the same thing” 🙄 and if school say anything he’ll “have a word” but he won’t be the one stood in the playground while the teacher side-eyes me

AIBU to be absolutely fuming and tempted to just go buy the right ones today even though money is tight and I’ll have to drag all 5 DC with me because DH has now “gone to watch the match with his mates” 😩

Any thoughts on having no. 6?

No, men do. There’s no reason men aren't in charge of all that except that women protect them.

So if she's on mat leave she will have had time to get the shoes during the week?

I’m not defending him going straight to the pub tomorrow either that has wound me up

So put your foot down. Tell him the shoes need to be sorted tomorrow. By him. And if he doesn't? tell the school to call him not you. If they do call just say "oh i know my husband is a twat, but what can you do, eh?"

I just know if I wait for him to sort it DS2 will end up wearing the wrong shoes Monday and then I’ll get the call from school

I had sympathy. Now i just think you're a bit silly and i really don't know why you're posting here at all. just to annoy the rest of us?

You have to ask yourself why he doesn’t care enough about your DS enough to make sure he doesn’t go to school in the wrong shoes

Aww throwing away 3 points right at the end is nearly as good.

Apparently, he does "a lot when he's here". Baffling. Dude has it made.

Surely the shop will recognize their own stock and will be able to look back on their receipts, to match your bank account.
Put DS in old shoes/trainers and explain to teacher you are on the way to the shop and give her your DH’s phone number.

He has to do Monday morning, no excuses, he makes a decision against what everyone tells him, he, not you has to face the music not you- that will knock the smug look off his face. Going to watch the match with his mates when you have to sort out a mess he has made AND look after 5 children is just NOT acceptable.

This. He’s an AH.

Send dad to school with him and email the school before they go and advise if any issues in next few days can they call dad as your busy. Then see if he will defend his decision.

Is there a reason why you couldn't have done it yourself in the 1st place whilst husband made himself useful watching the rest of the kids? I dont know if im just being dense or is was this not the obvious thing to do in the 1st place? Especially since you mentioned how useless he is with things like this. I dont think I could go mad about this Especially if its something I could have just done myself.

You have this problem as you seem to laugh off his incompetence. If he had to go in Monday morning and deal with it, he wouldn’t do it again.

I would be full of rage

Not making excuses but Clarkes have been really useless lately. I buy my grandchildrens shoes and their stocklevels sizes and choices are non existent in my local branch for all three children. They just say we can order some in for you to try expecting me to make another trip with the children. Considering the cost of their shoes I would expect their service to be much better like it used to be.

Our Clarks shop was useless twenty years ago. I bought startrite, better quality and lasted longer.

Hrft because he doesn't care to find out how uniform policy works and thinks him having a word will fix it all.

It's not just weaponised incompetence, it's arrogance.

How old is DS? Was he with your DH because he should know the rules.

I think the reason you end up sorting stuff is 'weaponised incompetence', if you left it to him he would have to step up.

YANBU, but I agree that if the schools just let them wear trainers it would be better all round. However there's no sense in staging a one family revolt. But overly picky uniform rules just cause grief for no real benefit. I wear trainers to my office job.

Bath and bedtime and football and swimming are not necessarily fun.

Eh? Most of us replying are on the school’s speed dial for our DC as being female we are the default parent. So yes, we are familiar with schools and dealing with uniform disagreements.

This!
If you don't, I'd start implementing it OP

He didn't want to queue/wait.

Like a lot of people on here l started off with a fair amount of sympathy. But with all the drip feeds and updates then that's all gone. He's lazy and wrapped up in his football nonsense which you let continue. Why have 5 children with someone so uselesss, you will always end up being the default parent. You seem happy to let that continue so l am not sure why you are posting on here really

Order online and get them delivered. Then send back the ones that don't fit. Get DH to hand over money for them or pay for them when ordering online.

All sounds way way too complicated for a pair of shoes.