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Are all of us foreigners just going to be told to pack up and leave if Reform win?

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Onegingerhead · 26/09/2025 16:03

I might be totally unreasonable here (or not), but please hear me out.
(Bloody) foreigner here — I’ve lived in the UK since 2001. Built my whole life here: house, husband, DC, the lot. Worked the whole time in a field that requires the highest level of qualification.
I’m getting increasingly worried about the talk of Reform winning in 2029. Some even say it could be sooner if Labour are pushed into early elections. This week (as we all heard) our beloved Reform suggested rescinding ILR or even settled status from Europeans. God knows what else they’ll come up with, I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if they went after naturalised Brits next and started revoking citizenship, just to please the voters.
I know a lot of foreign-born women — some married to born-and-bred Brits, some to other Europeans (not always from the same country), some to men from overseas. All sorts of combinations.
So what do you think lies ahead for us? Will we be politely asked to leave, or will things just get so hostile that we’re pushed out anyway? And how likely is it that people who aren’t very white, or who have an accent, will face more discrimination in work?
I’m meeting my foreign friends tonight and we’ll be talking about it. For most of us, moving now would be incredibly difficult. We’re late 30s to early 50s, and starting over in a new country isn’t exactly easy. Some of us are married to men from different countries entirely, and we don’t even speak each other’s languages well enough to get proper jobs there.

AIBU and should think we will actually be allowed to stay?
AINBU sorry but you’d better start planning your move now

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Goldenbear · 27/09/2025 10:05

moderate · 27/09/2025 08:45

Who gets to decide what constitutes “bigoted”?

if you have a better political system than liberal democracy, I’m here to listen.

I used to be like you — assured of my own place on the right side of history, ready to dismiss people who disagreed with me as simpletons taken in by charlatans.

Then I found myself branded a bigot for daring to believe that sex matters in various areas of law and society. And I started to wonder who else’s voices might be being shouted down by loud people with luxury beliefs.

So yes, the Overton window is moving to “the right”, because “the left” have abandoned good governance. Farage et al are the effect of that, not the cause.

(Scare-quotes around “the left” and “the right” because they’re increasingly meaningless terms.)

There is no better way than a 'liberal democracy', unless you think this way of running things - politics as entertainment, profits as the Telos, forgetting about civic duties etc. etc. is going to not mean the end of our freedoms?

People can be cynical and hate the government but the government are citizens, people voted for the government and they should take personal responsibility for harmful laws and failing institutions/policies. Forgoing our freedoms isn't going to improve any of this.

certainlycertain · 27/09/2025 10:09

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 26/09/2025 18:41

In theory, the US doesn’t allow dual citizenship. In practice is a different matter. My DSis took US citizenship(largely for tax purposes) after her American dh died, and at the ceremony the officiating dignitary said in his speech that they knew perfectly well that a lot of ‘new Americans’ would be retaining their old passports.

In any case, even if you very publicly chucked your UK passport on a bonfire, you could apply for a new one the next day, no problem.

The US and UK do allow dual citizenship, in both directions, and, as part of the process, both countries are aware.

What dual citizenship (with these two countries) does not do, is absolve you of your US tax responsibilities, so there's no tax benefit at all to US citizens in the UK, although there might be in the opposite direction.

In fact, for Americans in the UK, it makes figuring out your taxes extremely complicated. So, for that reason, some people then renounce their US citizenship, but the government doesn't make that process easy and it's quite expensive.

MaurineWayBack · 27/09/2025 10:10

Someone mentioned resilience, saying they couldn’t imagine starting afresh in another (or their original) country. That’s exactly it for me too. I’d feel foreign in the country where I was born.

once you’ve lived into a country for a few years (as in live in, not the expat type that stays with expats), you change.
Even a coupke of years is enough to make you feel out of sync with your ‘own country’. After 10, 20 years? Your original country will feel like a foreign country you dint fit in anymore.
Its the consequence of being resilient enough that you’ve fully integrated in the country you’re currently living in.
Not lack of resilience to start again in another (or your own) country

lessee167 · 27/09/2025 10:11

hattie43 · 26/09/2025 16:23

It’s 4 yrs away a bit premature to be thinking about something that may never happen .

It really isn’t. If you are not British born you need to plan and be prepared

StandFirm · 27/09/2025 10:12

Muffinmam · 27/09/2025 08:52

This isn’t the 1930’s/40’s.

Scaremongering isn’t helping.

Ok, let's not live in the past. The 2020s are shaping up to be bad enough in their own fucked up way.

Goldenbear · 27/09/2025 10:13

CallMeEvelyn · 27/09/2025 09:49

Who is this, sorry? I have a strong feel in the opposite direction here, actually.

FWIW, I am 100% not left leaning and if I were voting in this country, it would not be for Labour or the Greens for sure. I don't think I would have anyone to vote for, which is why I will not pay £2k for citizenship where there's a total lack of centric, sensible representation.

Lib dems

StandFirm · 27/09/2025 10:15

lessee167 · 27/09/2025 10:11

It really isn’t. If you are not British born you need to plan and be prepared

But plan for what and how? That's the whole point. I think the fear that is seeping through society right now, spread by pseudo Nazi fucks like Musk and co is so toxic because no one knows what will actually happen, when and how.

RasaSayangEh · 27/09/2025 10:15

I think the real casualty here is the English language itself, courtesy of Nigel and his patriotic band.

"Fair play" means "Changing the rules after you've jumped through the hoops".

"British values" means "Pretending your only concern is illegal immigration, then being relieved when you can expand your concerns seamlessly towards legal immigrants who don't contribute 'enough' or haven't enough gratitude".

"Indefinite" means "Nah, just until we move the goalposts and retrospectively render you illegal, but we'll put it in weasel words because we're squeamish and cowardly".

CharlotteRumpling · 27/09/2025 10:16

Immigration is a really complex issue. There is so much middle ground between " Get all the foreigners out" and " Let everyone in". I wish we had better discourse. We will need it.

FallingIntoAutumn · 27/09/2025 10:20

StandFirm · 27/09/2025 10:12

Ok, let's not live in the past. The 2020s are shaping up to be bad enough in their own fucked up way.

It certainly feeling familiar.
Replace Jews with immigrants and you’re not far off it.
replace black shirts with blue 10 football shirts
the finger pointing from the press blaming one group for societies issues.

CharlotteRumpling · 27/09/2025 10:21

RasaSayangEh · 27/09/2025 10:15

I think the real casualty here is the English language itself, courtesy of Nigel and his patriotic band.

"Fair play" means "Changing the rules after you've jumped through the hoops".

"British values" means "Pretending your only concern is illegal immigration, then being relieved when you can expand your concerns seamlessly towards legal immigrants who don't contribute 'enough' or haven't enough gratitude".

"Indefinite" means "Nah, just until we move the goalposts and retrospectively render you illegal, but we'll put it in weasel words because we're squeamish and cowardly".

All this! And then we pontificate about how great British values are.

CallMeEvelyn · 27/09/2025 10:23

Goldenbear · 27/09/2025 10:13

Lib dems

Not quite, either but in some ways closer than others.

StandFirm · 27/09/2025 10:24

FallingIntoAutumn · 27/09/2025 10:20

It certainly feeling familiar.
Replace Jews with immigrants and you’re not far off it.
replace black shirts with blue 10 football shirts
the finger pointing from the press blaming one group for societies issues.

Oh I agree - I was being sarcastic here... I think sadly our decade will soon be a point of reference in its own right.

certainlycertain · 27/09/2025 10:27

Onegingerhead · 26/09/2025 20:11

I do, but many of the people who posted afterwards don’t.
And honestly and you do disagree here , but I don’t think Europeans with settled status are necessarily immune to whatever Reform has brewing. My advice has been the same for my friends and colleagues: apply for citizenship.
Most of them aren’t low earners and can afford it (but on below than 60K) yet that’s not the case for everyone. £2k is a lot of money for many people. If you don’t have an easy escape route , no family left abroad, or a spouse/kids who couldn’t follow then saving for the application is something that really should be taken seriously now.
Someone further up the thread mentioned Scotland. I absolutely love it, the nature, the weather and I’d move there in a heartbeat if the opportunity arose ☺️

yet that’s not the case for everyone. £2k is a lot of money for many people.

Yes, and it's at least three days off work or having to juggle partial days off work, 2 biometrics appointments and the ceremony, which is difficult to manage for a lot of people.

ColourThief · 27/09/2025 10:28

CallMeEvelyn · 27/09/2025 09:42

I hear you (and agree with you on the other matter you mentioned).

I think there is a line to be drawn in political discourse.

In this case, nobody is bringing an elephant into the room, painting it black and pretending it's a seal (unlike in your comparison).

We are the group that is painted evil and we are trying to tell you why doing so is not factually correct. And why we should not be victims to Farage's rhethoric. We are not a bunch of illegal criminals coming over here stealing your jobs, or worse, benefits, like he would have you believe.

It is bigotry to stir hatred against us using such rhethoric and to misrepresent the facts when they really matter - in a political debate. Because people vote on that basis and they have the right to be informed, not misinformed.

There should also be no space for racism or xenophobia that are illegal - and yet some people on here dress them up as democratic. They are not.

There are plenty of immigration issues in this country. They need to be discussed - factually and respectfully.

The problem you have is you have two major political parties unable to do so for decades. And then a rogue newcomer like Reform - raising some valid issues on the face of it, but spouting many lies and division. The latter cannot be supported.

Another issue is putting all immigrants into one basket. You cannot give valid consideration to this because each group is diverse with completely different background, prospects, abilities and legal status. To label all "immigrants" as bad for even "coming over here" is extremely inaccurate and damaging to all involved and the British people who are deciding on the basis of this misconception, frankly.

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But it’s okay for you and the poster you responded to to spread transphobia?

No.

Racism and xenophobia are not okay, but neither are transphobia and homophobia.
You don’t get to decide if you’re a bigot or not by cherry picking what you think is okay to discriminate against.

I’ve always been inclusive to everyone, I don’t judge, I make a point to step up and strike up a conversation with anyone that I feel may be feeling excluded and uncomfortable.
That goes for everyone, not just those I deem “worthy” of my support.

FallingIntoAutumn · 27/09/2025 10:29

StandFirm · 27/09/2025 10:24

Oh I agree - I was being sarcastic here... I think sadly our decade will soon be a point of reference in its own right.

We seem to have fast forwarded the history after the pandemic and skipped the roaring 20’s before the depression and rise of racism.

EarthlyNightshade · 27/09/2025 10:32

It's depressing that within a week, the "oh, I don't mean you" rhetoric has morphed from "oh, I don't mean you, I mean the boat people" to "oh, I don't mean you, you're white, earning over 60k ... you can stay, so long as neither of those things change and you don't claim any benefits."

I am Irish (not earning 60K), low on Nigel's hit list but on it nonetheless. Will he try to deport me before he goes for SEN kids and disabled adults? It doesn't even matter if he does. He has changed the discourse of the country for it to be ok for the general public to be questioning my "value".

CallMeEvelyn · 27/09/2025 10:33

ColourThief · 27/09/2025 10:28

But it’s okay for you and the poster you responded to to spread transphobia?

No.

Racism and xenophobia are not okay, but neither are transphobia and homophobia.
You don’t get to decide if you’re a bigot or not by cherry picking what you think is okay to discriminate against.

I’ve always been inclusive to everyone, I don’t judge, I make a point to step up and strike up a conversation with anyone that I feel may be feeling excluded and uncomfortable.
That goes for everyone, not just those I deem “worthy” of my support.

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What transphobia? Sex is a legally defined concept and it is not transphobic to say an elephant is not a seal, thanks.

NurtureGrow · 27/09/2025 10:34

APTPT · 27/09/2025 09:36

Not Aussie but v similar circumstances @MookieCat. We are leaving in November and I am damned if I ever set foot here again.(husband and kids can). Keep giving to this country but scratch the skin of more than half the people here and they think all foreigners are pisstaking dolebludging criminal scum.

So sad to hear this too.

RasaSayangEh · 27/09/2025 10:39

EarthlyNightshade · 27/09/2025 10:32

It's depressing that within a week, the "oh, I don't mean you" rhetoric has morphed from "oh, I don't mean you, I mean the boat people" to "oh, I don't mean you, you're white, earning over 60k ... you can stay, so long as neither of those things change and you don't claim any benefits."

I am Irish (not earning 60K), low on Nigel's hit list but on it nonetheless. Will he try to deport me before he goes for SEN kids and disabled adults? It doesn't even matter if he does. He has changed the discourse of the country for it to be ok for the general public to be questioning my "value".

Exactly this. With a heft dose of patriotically self-righteous "If you were a proper good immigrant, you'd have used your crystal ball to apply for citizenship already, so you deserve everything that our Nigel has lined up for you."

Anyway, Nigel & The Patriots already proved that they were lying about only being concerned about illegal immigrants, back in 2016 when they retrospectively changed the rules for legal EU migrants.

AngelicKaty · 27/09/2025 10:45

Livelovebehappy · 27/09/2025 08:13

Meanwhile, the supposedly ‘intelligent’ amongst us are happy for the current status quo, ie, a system that’s not fit for purpose. A system where you can’t access a basic need like an nhs dentist, or you have to be in a queue of 30 people on the phone just to get a GP appointment, or a wait in our A&E for 8 hours due to the knock on effect of people using it like an extension of their GPs because it’s impossible to get an appointment. Yep, let’s applaud the great NHS in its current format. Brilliant isn’t it? Or just maybe, let’s have a government who is brave enough tackle 5he NHS, and if difficult decisions need to be made about how or if it’s funded, then so be it. It’s a money pit, and successive governments can’t ‘fix’ it.

Really? You think anyone is happy with the status quo? And you think Farage has the answers to fix it? Wow.

certainlycertain · 27/09/2025 10:51

Twiglets1 · 27/09/2025 08:30

It’s not whether individuals are happy with Farage being given a platform.

It’s true what @Livelovebehappy said which is that because Britain is a democracy the media will give airtime to all the main political parties.

Of which Reform has become one, despite being very divisive.

Yes, but they can (and should) call out the lies, instead of pretending there are no facts. If some of the lies around Brexit had been called out - 350m into the NHS, for example - things might have gone differently.

Giving airtime doesn't mean you have to pretend that an Oxford economics professor and Isabel Oakeshott have an equal knowledge base and equally valid points.

ChattyChicken · 27/09/2025 10:59

1 year after getting ILR you can apply for citizenship right? Just apply for citizenship.

CharlotteRumpling · 27/09/2025 10:59

ChattyChicken · 27/09/2025 10:59

1 year after getting ILR you can apply for citizenship right? Just apply for citizenship.

Sigh. Read the thread.

ChattyChicken · 27/09/2025 11:04

It costs money? Okay. Pay for it. Especially if you consider the UK your home and want to build your life here.

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