Why why why are they like this!!!

[Hellofrances]

My boyfriend stayed overnight at my house for the first time on Wednesday.

We both had yesterday off so had a lazy morning watching tv in bed.

He broke wind really loud and grabbed my head and forced it under the covers, I couldn’t move from under them for about 10 seconds.

He thought it was hilarious, I told him I’m a 37 year old woman and don’t appreciate that.

I think it’s the fact we’d not long been intimate and he was being really jokey.

I told one of my friends who found it amusing and said it’s a sign he’s comfortable around me which is good, but I don’t agree!

Yeah i agree with this. I'd make it 100% clear it's gross and not to happen again, and as a woman dont find it funny being grabbed/forced for obvious reasons! But if it's fully put you off then of course leave!

Completely disgusting and immature. What a massive lack of respect. He sounds like he’s 14.

Fuck that. I’m all for having a laugh, but that’s not funny, it’s gross.

I would be seriously re thinking the relationship.

This is a big red flag. I would be concerned about abusive behaviour in the future. He may find it funny or get a kick out of humiliating you or making you feel uncomfortable, bad etc. RUN!!!!

Ugh. That is really, really gross.....🤢

Agreed.

Thankfully no one has ever done this to me and they would be dumped if they did!

He's not a teenage idiot who has never had a girlfriend before and still thinks jokes from his footie /rugby team mates are hilarious to women.

To do that to a 37 year old woman is just so disrespectful, especially as you say it was done with force.

Massive ICK.

If my partner ever physically forced me to do anything at all it would be the end.

He's disgusting and juvenile.

if anyone even attempted to do this to me they wouldn't have an asshole left.

GRIM.

It’s disgraceful he used his power over you to force you to do something.

It would be the end of the relationship for me.

Nope, but I’m hella creative in getting my revenge 😂.

It blows my mind that you didn’t dump him on the spot. How can this possibly be better than being single? If it is, then what you need to work on is how to be happy being single.

What a delightful man child you have found yourself with. Tell him to fuck off. Farting stops being something hilarious when you're about 12.

If this was a long standing relationship and a "one off", I'd probably have very strong words with him, and give him another chance. At this stage, I'd bin him off, it won't improve.

I've never spent any time around someone who would do this and I can't really understand how it would work?

He grabbed and physically forced your unwilling head under the duvet while you were sitting up? Or you were lying down and he pulled the covers over your head?

What happened afterwards when you jumped out of bed and asked him if he had lost his mind?

Wow - that’s harsh to assume that about me. One might say you’re not emotionally or empathetically mature, simply by dint of the fact that you feel it fine to pass judgement of strangers online with very little information - and then try to belittle them to make them feel small.

Especially as I made it very clear in my post that if he didn’t apologise now he knows she didn’t appreciate it, it shows that he has a lack of respect for her and would be a major red flag.

He sounds so weird. He'll do it again.
Your friend sounds every stranger. Why would that be even a bit funny? It's gross.

He has absolutely no respect for you!!

Please, please, dump him and raise your standards.
This will only get worse if he's acting this way at the very beginning of your relationship.

That's disgusting, I've been with my husband for 20 ish years and he's never done that to me. Really gross. That would put me off ever being intimate with him again.

Such a turn off. I had an ex who used to do things like this and then he'd wonder why our sex life wasn't what it used to be 🙄. I wouldn't immediately dump him but I would make it very clear that this is gross little brother behaviour and you don't want to have sex with a little brother.

Please dump him, citing this as the reason.

If this is what he does in a new relationship, when he is on his best behaviour and trying to impress you, gawd only knows what he'll be like in a year.

The first time you’ve ever let him stay over as well? I’d never see him again OP. He’s pathetic

She's obviously going to stay with the manchild. Any normal person with healthy boundaries wouldn't think that this is a remotely acceptable way for an adult to behave.

I'm looking forward to the post a few years from now "My DH smashed cake into my face at our wedding, why why why are they like this"