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To say school went too far suspending him for a vape

334 replies

Abdican · 25/09/2025 12:17

basically DS14 has been suspended for 3 days cos he was caught with a vape at school and I just feel like that’s too harsh for a first time he only had it in his blazer pocket he wasn’t even using it in class or anything it was at break time.

I know vaping isn’t good before anyone says it but loads of kids are doing it and I’d already told him off and taken it off him when I found it before so it feels like he’s getting punished twice. He’s gonna miss lessons and he’s already behind.

I rang the school and they were really rude to me saying they have a zero tolerance policy and if it happens again he could be permanently excluded. I get rules are rules but I don’t think chucking him out for 3 days is going to teach him anything except to sit at home on his Xbox.

sorry long post but I feel like they’re making an example of him cos he’s a bit cheeky in class sometimes. do schools really suspend for this straight away? or am I right to think they’ve gone too far?

OP posts:
Sadworld23 · 29/09/2025 04:14

Justwingingit2005 · 25/09/2025 12:27

I cannot believe the amount of children vaping. My boys are all teens and all their friends are vaping.
Mine have had rules laid down, if I ever find one they will loose phones xbox and pocket money.
Vaping is for people coming off cigarettes why are kids vaping?!?!

Hrft but my teacher friend says it is a massive problem

PloddingAlong21 · 02/10/2025 19:45

This is a wind up. This post cannot be real.

SunnySideDeepDown · 02/10/2025 19:47

Smoking vapes at school break time is 100% worthy of suspension. Time you stood behind the school and taught your child some respect.

Makemineacosmo · 02/10/2025 21:15

I work in a secondary and we have Y7s bringing vapes in. It's a huge problem.

MeAndTheDoggo · 04/10/2025 08:02

What have I just read? This is why many kids are confused about boundaries and rules. He broke a rule. He had a vape underage. Good grief! I think 3 days is lenient!

LassitersLegend · 13/10/2025 11:55

@Makemineacosmo Wow, really? My eldest has just started year 7, I'm going to ask her about this when she gets home from school. I've already given her a warning about vaping and the consequences, so hopefully that will be enough.

BeachLife2 · 13/10/2025 13:40

PloddingAlong21 · 02/10/2025 19:45

This is a wind up. This post cannot be real.

I don’t see why.

DS1 was at secondary in the early 2010s and at that time, smoking was very common. There were no consequences at all, never mind suspension.

Makemineacosmo · 15/10/2025 08:31

BeachLife2 · 13/10/2025 13:40

I don’t see why.

DS1 was at secondary in the early 2010s and at that time, smoking was very common. There were no consequences at all, never mind suspension.

Well I suppose it depends on the school. My DS was suspended for smoking in 2012. Served him right as far as I was concerned. They were told what would happen if they did it, he thought he was Billy Big Balls and they wouldn't actually do it. They did, lesson learned.

I have no problem with schools following their own rules.

SmashingMunchkins · 15/10/2025 08:36

Good on the school. He broke the rules and the punishment fits the crime.

Haven’t read the full thread but I hope you’re outwardly supporting the school’s stance and not telling your CHILD that the school are being too hard on him/it’s ridiculous etc. as that would be the right way to set him up for yet more rule breaking.

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