"Can I take you out for a meal"?

[RachelTopliss]

Would you find this odd? It sounds like it's come from the 70s. What's a meal anyway? It sounds creepy. Lunch or dinner maybe yes but a meal?

I said I was busy.

What's a meal? If you don't know the answer to that I'm worried about you.

"Meal" is fine and normal, but I'm fascinated that it gives people the ick.

"Picky bits" people will be first against the wall come the revolution though. Anyone saying it is B extremely U.

If hearing the word ‘meal’ makes you feel sick, you need professional help, which hopefully you are already getting.

Meanwhile, other people should feel free to continue using this absolutely mainstream word.

It’s not that deep!

Are you ok, OP? This is a deranged thread.

It’s the ‘take you…’ for me. I don’t need to be taken anywhere.

I assume you had the choice of breakfast dinner or lunch and this person wanted to see when you’re free.
however if this person is not paying then they are bvu to say ‘take you out’ a man did that to me before and I was fuming

Was my FIL asking you out?

How odd, that wouldn't even register with me. It's such a normal phrase, like going out 'for a drink'. It isn't creepy at all, it's everyday language. And saying 'take you out' is him letting you know it's on him. Maybe it's a bit traditional, but it wouldn't put me off a man.

I didn’t think it was deep, @Plastictreees, I thought it was fucking bonkers

A bit old-fashioned maybe but can’t see why you’d have such an issue. Sounds like you just didn’t fancy him, nothing to do with what he said or how he said it.

It depends, but I do sort of know what you mean.
I think it sounds a bit wet. The “can I “ coupled with a non specific food date.

I much prefer something more direct or enthusiastic really.

Odd

I'd fucking love us to go for dinner.

It’s fine if it doesn’t bother you but it’s equally ok to not like it too.

Personally, I’m not looking for chivalrous, traditional, old-fashioned. If someone wants that then we’re not compatible so it would make me second guess them.

Wow..some people make a drama out of anything...this has to be a joke.

couldn’t agree more “a bite to eat” - somehow just awful! And the word meal is very unappealing to me. Don’t know why, just is. Not sure I could ever be attracted to anyone who used these words!

Got to ask, what on earth is uncleish?

Are you able to buy a meal deal or happy meal?

Would be totally normal thing to say here!

Oh god. No. Just no. I’m with you OP. Something weird about that phrasing. Very off putting. Can’t quite put my finger on why.

It’s a bit like when we visit my dad. He asks “do you want feeding??” (As opposed to “would you like to stay for dinner?”) There’s just something off about it.

Totally different imo. Can I take you out for a meal = normal, nice invitation. Get some picky bits in = delete and block.

You sound like hard work. The person who invited you has had a lucky escape.

Men who want to take you to restaurants tend to be more genuinely interested than those offering coffee,walks or other low investment date activities.

Needs more context.

A stranger sitting behind the bus whispers this into your ear… That would be very creepy.

Although I think I’d find it odd phrasing on a dating app tbh. It doesn’t feel like natural conversational flow.