"Can I take you out for a meal"?

[RachelTopliss]

Would you find this odd? It sounds like it's come from the 70s. What's a meal anyway? It sounds creepy. Lunch or dinner maybe yes but a meal?

I said I was busy.

I thought you were offering there, OP, and came on here to accept...

Totally normal!!

Sounds like a perfectly respectable way to ask someone out on a date!

Are you more used to Netflix n chill types?

That’s a perfectly normal thing to say. A meal is exactly that, either lunch or dinner. Don’t really understand what you find so odd about it tbh.

Yeah I agree too but also can’t really verbalise why.

Would you like to go for dinner/lunch/a meal? Fine.

Take you out for… Sounds a bit eurgh to me. I don’t need to be ‘taken out’ or treated.

Op, I agree with you.

I think it's quite old fashioned language that is dated. Depending on your ages it would weird me out even more.

No one under 40 talks like that, but then I also get the ick when men talk about enjoying watching box sets like it's 2002.

Old , stuck in the past and I take as a sign we are not a match.

I’m with you here OP. Winds me up. Not sure why, probably the implicit indecision. I’d say it’s easily as bad as ‘picky bits’ which is also atrocious.

I’m prepared to be called out as odd.

This

What’s a meal??? Do you not know? Jeez he had a lucky escape didn’t he?

If this was for a date, you could find yourself single for a while if you keep pushing people away for no good reason.

I think you’ve got some harsh responses, I know what you mean OP. The word ‘meal’ gives me the ick for some reason. I would always say ‘going out for lunch / dinner’. I also hate the term ‘a bite to eat’.

The words themselves are perfectly normal so unless he said them while fondling his cock and making sex noises, Yabu

I would be happy with a ‘meal’ or ‘picky bits’.

I dont think it's a normal word. Ive not heard anyone say that since about 1985. People say ' go out for dinner/ supper '

Maybe it's a north/ south thing?

Hummmm why is it weird ? How old are you ?

He’s imagining you with a horsebag

I say it all the time, I often offer to take my friend or DC out for a meal or my DH and I go out for a meal.

I think it might be. Although I now live in Scotland and I don’t hear it here either. Maybe it’s a generational thing too, as my parents say it.

Up North lunch is dinner & dinner is tea 🙂

This is it I think. I can't explain why it put me off. It feels like my uncle Fred saying it. I'm 36 for those asking.

I actually despair. How the fuck have we got to the point where a man asking a woman out for a meal is seen as weird, creepy, giving the ick.
Poor guy sounds like he's had a lucky escape.

Are you mad?.I'd love that. Good old fashioned chivalry.

Its dated.
If you run it through chat gbt it reviews it as dated language. Awkward and stiff.

Thats why it feels off, because it's out of step with the here and now where conversation tends to be more fluid and relaxed.

Its not you op.

I’m the same age. Definitely an ick. I remember one of my friends was asked out ‘for a meal’ a few years ago, the same guy then went on to say that he felt ‘as big as a house’ after having ate some pancakes. There was something so old fashioned and off putting about it 🤣 very uncle-esque.

Agreed, how have we as a society come to this.