DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

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DD 27 and her boyfriend (also 27) are proper home bodies. All they seem to do in their free time is go for country walks with their dogs, meals out or Sunday markets 😂

When I was in my 20s I was partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

Last weekend they baked cookies and went on a long country walk with the dogs with a pub lunch. DD spends a lot of time reading and crocheting bits here and there. The boyfriend has started furniture restoration as a hobby. They’re like an old couple honestly!

DD got annoyed with me because I said to them they need to be out enjoying their 20s (and soon 30s) and not acting like a couple in their 60s. DP says leave them be but I just don’t want them to regret not living life to the full. You’re a long time old as they say.

AIBU?

Precisely.
You sound like my bloody sister who’s opinionated to the Nth degree and thinks I should be out and about every day not having a perfectly happy life now I’m retired. She didn’t work once she had children, I worked beyond full time because I had to and she’d sneer at the fact that I couldn’t drop everything to go out for coffee or ‘pop into town’ every day!
She’s tried interfering in my adult DCs’ lives too; thankfully they gave her short shrift.
’Living life’? They are clearly happily living the life they want, not what you want. Be very careful, you’re heading to right way to alienate them; I rarely speak to my sister because of her behaviour.
Mind your own bloody business ffs!

Did you expose your dd to experiences growing up op
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so according to you, alcohol, drugs and STD for the ones with one night stands is the real life. You are to be pitied dear woman

You need to learn to mind your business. Leave your daughter to live the life that she wants to live, not one that you think she should be living.

I’d be really upset if I was happy with my partner doing what I wanted to do in my spare time and I read that my mum thought I was boring and would rather me be doing things that I’m not interested in.

It is so sad that you are so judgemental about them. You sound an absolute cow.

Perhaps they are happy.

I don't think late 20s is 'youth' is it? I think they are a bit past that stage and probably doing fairly typical things for a couple in their late 20s. That said, do they go out with friends or is it just the 2 of them all of the time?

It's Regina George's embarassing mum in Mean Girls. 'I'm not like a regular mom, I'm a cool mom'.

Is this a joke?
I think they are smart and mature enough to understand how to enjoy the real little pleasures of life instead of getting their livers smashed with alcohol at the local pub.
I think this must be a fake post, it can’t possible be true a parent would say these things

Did you never notice there are many really lovely and fascinating places within the UK? Including the Peak District!

I think it's lovely that your dd seems to be so happy and content with her life and not doing lots of things she may regret later just to fit in with other in thier 20s.

I do partly understand you OP.

I had a wild early 20s, moved abroad, then thought I was ready to settle down, came back to the uk bought a house, had a quiet life, and then covid happened and it made me realise how small my life had become in my little village at 25 years old. I realised it wasnt out of my system so I went travelling for six months and moved to London, quit my job and became self employed while I had the chance and no responsibilities.

It was great tbh, I have a baby now and have ‘properly’ settled down, i’m so glad I got it all out of my system.

Obviously different people like different things, and I dont think you should say anything to her, but i understand your view point.

In what way are they not living a little? Sounds like they have a life many dream of.

I love that they've found each other and a lifestyle that makes them both happy. I'm assuming their way of life is just as they like it, otherwise they'd make different choices.
Just because you made different choices and had different experiences doesn't mean what they're doing is wrong!
My mum is very much of the "if you're not doing something the way I did/think it should be done, then you're wrong". It's infuriating. I'm a very different person to her, plus times have changed. In her 20s, 30s & 40s she spent every weekend hosting/going to parties whilst I was just left to my own devices. In my 20s I partied (but to be honest would rather have been at home), but in my 30s and 40s I choose to spend all of my time with my DH & children.
Leave them to their (somewhat idyllic sounding) lifestyle choices, it doesn't affect you and if you interject your opinions you stand the liklihood of them withdrawing from your company.

exactly, not everyone wants to know their mother was an alcoholic and lose pants in her 20s and a brag about it. It is actually really shameful and low class

AI, you don't have any kids. You're just a machine.

I think the op is trying to be “wacky”, hence all the irritating 😆 emojis at the end of every judgey, boring post.

I think her lifestyle sounds ideal.

I’m an introvert, I’ve never been into parties and drinking.

Also, if you call her boring and keep pushing her to do things she might not want to keep in contact.

Those fucking emojis!

They sound happy and content. Isn’t that what we all want for our kids?

We can now only afford the big far away holidays in our 40’s. They are living! Just because they are drinking and clubbing doesn’t mean they aren’t living. It sounds a lovely fulfilled life.

So because they aren’t wasting money clubbing and sleeping around - you have a problem with their lifestyle?

Conservatism is the new counter culture. They are living their lives and being responsible.

I think you’re being ridiculous.

They are living the way they want to. Being drunk/slutty/wrecking health etc is not something any parent should encourage their daughter towards.

If this is genuine you are being unreasonable.
If this is a wind up you are being unreasonable.

HTH