DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

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DD 27 and her boyfriend (also 27) are proper home bodies. All they seem to do in their free time is go for country walks with their dogs, meals out or Sunday markets 😂

When I was in my 20s I was partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

Last weekend they baked cookies and went on a long country walk with the dogs with a pub lunch. DD spends a lot of time reading and crocheting bits here and there. The boyfriend has started furniture restoration as a hobby. They’re like an old couple honestly!

DD got annoyed with me because I said to them they need to be out enjoying their 20s (and soon 30s) and not acting like a couple in their 60s. DP says leave them be but I just don’t want them to regret not living life to the full. You’re a long time old as they say.

AIBU?

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I think young people have a much more balanced life these days - my 29yo (who was president of her uni cocktail society and very involved with the freshers' squad) runs Scouts because she got so much from it as a teenager and loves camping and hiking with her bf. She does macrame too! To be fair, she can still party (all my kids can) but it's not her day to day life.

This is a horrible thread. I just want to give her DD a huge hug and tell her that she is perfect the way she is.

My DS and his GF are the same, they don't live together as both just finished university. They prefer visiting a castle or baking cookies and reading. She does craft things and he walks and photographs things (not for social media but for himself). If he drinks it tends to be real ale or red wine!

I was pissed in a club or a field and travelled all over.
I think people are more insular these days

I did… mine hated that I wasn’t the blonde petite daughter she wanted and boy did I know it

All that eye opening clubbing and travel has made you really judgemental and closed minded though. You don't seem to be able to comprehend that your daughter has different likes and interests to you - ones that sound brilliant for her mental and physical health - and just write her off as well boring😝.

Tbh even if they were into clubbing, I think they've missed the boat a bit by 27. Most people I knew were retiring from the club scene by that age.

If they really do regret it in a few years, they can always have a midlife crisis that involves binge drinking a drug taking - that's the other cohort of people out and about ime. I'd say 30s is the main age group of people not clubbing (other than children or the elderly). Probably as a lot of people are either building careers or families at this stage.

Ignore the cow comments OP, I understand you want the best for your daughter but people enjoy deliberately missing the point on here and being harsh.

I also think it’s a bit odd. Booking a walking holiday when they walk every weekend 🫩 I’ve no idea why a young childless couple wouldn’t want to explore the world together, providing they have the finances to do so. They’ve not even lived potentially a third of their life yet and they’re already acting like they’re retired.

I’d be so upset if my Mum had written this about me

You keep finishing all your posts with a laughing face...but only you is laughing. Everyone else thinks you're horrible.

You aren't talking to a bunch of teenagers here, we're not going to chuckle along with you. One good thing about mumsnet is that it is full of educated, mature women who give will call out bad behaviour. You are showing yourself up as pretty silly, uneducated, gossipy and nasty.
You certainly don't sound like someone who has travelled the world, you Sound like someone who has spent her life getting pissed and having a 'mad time'.

You joke along with your friends about how boring your daughter is? Truly awful.

They are living. Just not in the way you deem acceptable. People can have different likes and interests to you

That's just so sad. I count my blessings every day with my DC (now adults).
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Apparently not.

There's nothing more boring than people who constantly go on about drinking and think they're original going travelling and that it somehow makes them interesting.

I do think it depends on the kind of 'tribe' she's in OP, your DD would fit with people i know who would call themselves 'cottagecore girlies' who love a country walk and a cosy vibe! the going out on the lash gang are more idolising Charli XCX and going to raves. All valid but different!

What’s this got to do with the OPs thread? 😂 All of you stop with the melodramatics and guilt tripping the poor woman.

You're not only being unreasonable, you're being ridiculous. Their lives sound healthy, creative, interesting and productive - much better than wasting time and money going out clubbing etc. They ARE enjoying themselves and it's really none of your business.

Op you must be heading for 60 are you not crocheting and going to the pub for lunch yet or is that just for your "cosplaying" Dd

They sound lovely, but you come across as rather immature and self absorbed. Why do you want them to do the things that you are interested in rather than the things that they are interested in? Walking holidays, hobbies, reading, none of those things are wasting their lives, and they don't make them boring. In my experience, people who are well read and have a wide range of interests tend to be a lot more interesting to talk to than those who only have stories about getting wasted every weekend, and think that this makes them fascinating...

You are though. All the laughing emojis after saying what they like doing.

they are not boring just because they like different things to you. For some people travel would be boring if they are not interested in it. Some of my best holidays have been in the UK. We have such a lovely country with nature and history and there is so much to see. Maybe when they have explored the UK they might want to venture further afield, maybe not. They obviously enjoy baking cookies, walking and reading. Just let them be happy as they are.

They won't.

You've been horrible about your lovely daughter. Called her boring repeatedly, said she's acting like she's 72 not 27, compared her unfavorably to the children of your friends. You've basically said she isn't sufficiently cool for you.

Aren't you ashamed of that?

A large number of young people don't drink, smoke or do drugs like previous generations. They are less promiscuous. They exercise more. Cottagecore lifestyles like traditional crafts and outdoorsy holidays are hugely popular. They are healthier, more ecologically conscious and financially careful, and good for them.

You sound stuck in a 90s mindset. Open another bottle with Patsy and leave Saffy alone.

Maybe they care more about the environment than you so don’t want to travel extensively. Must say when you see all the delays, cyber attacks etc going for a country walk with dogs to a pub sounds much more appealing.

At least your DD has travelled when younger.