DD and boyfriend are wasting their lives

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DD 27 and her boyfriend (also 27) are proper home bodies. All they seem to do in their free time is go for country walks with their dogs, meals out or Sunday markets 😂

When I was in my 20s I was partying, clubbing and getting up to all sorts, I fear they are wasting their youth!

Last weekend they baked cookies and went on a long country walk with the dogs with a pub lunch. DD spends a lot of time reading and crocheting bits here and there. The boyfriend has started furniture restoration as a hobby. They’re like an old couple honestly!

DD got annoyed with me because I said to them they need to be out enjoying their 20s (and soon 30s) and not acting like a couple in their 60s. DP says leave them be but I just don’t want them to regret not living life to the full. You’re a long time old as they say.

AIBU?

Sounds like she's found her person. Be happy for them.

Each to his / her own I say. If they're happy let them get on with it.
She may have an almighty mid life crisis in years to come and go all Patsy and Edina . For now, I'd let her live her life the way she wants.

Ok I think calling me a cow is a bit harsh.

I am if course glad she’s happy (and found the male version of herself!) there’s just more to life than the 5 odd miles around your house isn’t there. I know people are hanging in my comments about clubbing but it’s not just that it’s just the amount I’d seen and done by her age I just don’t want her to regret it.

And yes I have a dog but I’m old and it was a comment about his all young couples seem to have dogs and it ties them down.

Anyway I guess I’m being unreasonable so I’ll be quiet.

I don’t understand why you’d want someone to do something they don’t want to do. Some people just don’t want to travel. There’s plenty to see here in the UK.

They sound happy and sweet together. Adorable!

Gen Xers were the last real hedonist generation. What we got up to was rarely recorded and stays a happy memory for us. Actually, if you were doing it right, you probably can't remember it all anyway.

Millennials grew up under the watchful eye of social media and camera phones, and started the NoLo (alcohol) movement (probably because they didn't want a video of them puking in a bush going viral and destroying their job chances)

Gen Z are taking it even more seriously, still. Health conscious, alcohol-free, conscientious, quality of life, mental health and wellbeing are priorities now.

You're just not keeping up with the trends for this generation!

(And yes, this Gen Xer still has a few drinks and laughs with her Gen X and some older millennial mates - although a lot of them are menopausal now and can't drink like they used to either!)

Your attitude is truly awful. 'Living a little?' How pathetic.

Mind your own business! You do you as they say, and let others be themselves.

You appear to be wanting to live your life through them. I have news for you. They don't want to do what you want them to do. Your idea of the life you think they should be living do not coincide with theirs. Your DD is not you. She is an individual in her own right, with different likes and dislikes, and her own opinions. She does not want to go globetrotting or clubbing.

They are both very happy as they are, so shut up, stop saying they are boring, and be happy for them.

Anyway - I call reverse.

You’re a long time old as they say.

No they don't. Dead. You're a long time dead, is the saying. Meaning enjoy your life to the fullest, whatever enjoyment means to you - rather than obey your mother telling you to live her version of an enjoyable life.

I am sorry that you miss your wild crazy youth, but you cannot expect your daughter to relive it for you.

I was married at 27. We loved country walks, would go most weekends. Enjoyed a nice glass of wine at the weekend, enjoyed eating out and seeing our similarly like-minded friends.

First baby at 28, second at 31.

Now I’m 46 and have enjoyed my very sedate life thanks very much.

Did all the mad stuff at university. That was plenty!

Yes you are being unreasonable and yes, be quiet!

I look back and wish I'd spent my 20's like that OP. They sound lovely. Hopefully they'll reap the rewards of their healthy lifestyle, physically and mentally, in years to come.
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My friends have children all around the same age and what they’re doing and what DD is doing seems worlds apart so not sure how generational it is. Maybe more of a sub culture within a generation.

It's really not what you want that matters, you are being ridiculous. Just stop complaining that you didn't get the daughter you wanted....she sounds lovely.

You sound insufferable, to be honest. Who are you to say how they should be living their twenties and that they’ll regret it?! It’s their lives - and they seem pretty satisfied with their life choices.

Id butt out if I was you. You sound really difficult to be involved with.

“As boring?”
Wow, what a supportive, loving mother you’re coming across as here.

But you were being a cow 🤷‍♀️

Agree it’s ridiculous

You're being very unreasonable because you have a daughter who is happy, with a boyfriend who is happy.
So many young people have anxiety or other issues, be grateful and appreciative of your situation as a parent.

Seriously I thought it would say they did nothing and had no jobs. This must be a joke.

Massively unreasonable. I always hated going out to "party", just because it is part of your idea of a suitably spent youth doesn't mean they have to like it too. They sound perfectly happy - good for them.

Are you the mother of my son’s gf? (No but you sound similar). We (my son and I) both think his gf’s mother is a jerk as she can’t accept her dd just likes a quiet life.

What a very odd mindset.