Random drunk stuck his head through my open living room window and scared me senseless

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I know I’m not being unreasonable but just need to say this somewhere as I’m a bit speechless. I live on a road either just a few houses and a golf club. No pavement on the road and it’s a bendy country road so very rare we get people walking it, but it is just a few hundred meters before you get to the pavement and streets heading into the little town.

I’m up late working and there’s obviously some event on at the golf club that must have ended around 1am as I heard drunk people walking up to the town, happens every so often after an event at the club. It’s warm here so I’ve got the living room window open, and I was writing so looking down when I heard laughing outside and a noise, which was my window being pulled further open. I looked up as a man put his head through the window whilst making stupid laddy drunk noises and a gurning face. I did actually scream and jumped up. It all happened in seconds and I actually went towards the window, where there is a table by the window and it had some kid’s toys on it so I grabbed one of the plastic chuck and swung for the guy as he ducked his head back outside. I saw a him run back to a few other lads and they then ran off up the road.

It was obviously a “prank” by some drunk idiots but it’s really shaken me. I think I’ll be popping down to the golf club in the morning to have a word and see if I can find out whose party it was but it’s not like anything will come of it even if I can track down whoever had the invite list.

I’m just shaken and quite angry about it, not really sure what else to say.

I can understand you needing to get that out and tell someone!

Yes, quite a shock and potentially scary in the moment. But also quite funny.
Hope the toy wasn't damaged.

I managed to pull my swing once his head disappeared, otherwise I’d have hit my window and probably ended up with broken glass!

It will be funny tomorrow when I tell someone in real life, but it’s not quite funny yet for me. It’s just a bit… odd really.

I don’t think that’s funny at all! How awful for you.

I think it’s shaken me because I’m a single parent, so it’s just me and the kids. There isn’t another adult here. It’s not the drunk guy gurning at me that’s upsetting; it’s the thought of what would have happened if that had been a not drunk/idiot guy but something more serious.

That would have scared the crap out of me. Not funny at all.

Horrendous!! Poor you - I bet your heart was beating out of your chest for ages after that. I’d be freaked out too. Hope you’re getting some sleep now. Not a murderer, just a common or garden twat 🙄

Men aren’t free to physically abuse us for fun anymore, but they still get their jollies through intimidation — by brandishing a threat of violence at us.

That's awful and I can imagine your adrenaline is still coursing through your body. Even more crap is the only suggestion I can give is to install window locks - the type with safety feature that incorporates it can't be manoeuvred more open than designated - and that is absolutely shite that a woman may have to consider that. I hope you get some rest.

P.s absolutely do report to Golf Club re their contribution to anti social behaviour. I'm sure they will be fully aware on how tenuous their license to hold events is dependent on local residents grace .

Sounds scary. I would pop down to the club in the morning. Failing to se any humour in this.

That would have been very frightening. Can you get some sort of netting screen on the window or a restrictor on opening the window fully. I think the restrictors are really quite easy to install.

I'm also failing to see any humour in this.

I hope you're okay OP.

How awful, not funny at all. I hope you are okay.

That's a good idea. I used to be a licensee, then a DPS, somewhere comparable. Write to the licensing officer at your local council, and to your ward councillor.

Mention what time it happened, as accurately as you can. My premises were in a residential area, and we were required to close the bar at 11pm, and have everyone (including staff clearing up) off the premises by midnight.

IMO a letter to the managing committee of the club should be taken more seriously than a chat with the bar manager.

(If you don't complain in writing, and get a reply, they can pull the "I'm not aware of any complaints" trick.)

Not funny at all. I’m sick of male behaviour like this. Absolutely complain. Would you recognise him again? I would try to identify the male and take it further before he does worse the next time.

This is why it’s a good thing we don’t have guns readily available in this country. I’d have shot quite a few idiots by now.

I'd be dropping a line to the golf club and copying in the licensing authority

I think you also need to think about your security though. If you like an open window could you get one of those systems where it can only open a few inches?

That would have scared the ever-living whatnot out of me. Also, it's beyond rude and invasive - you were in your own home, the very place you should expect safety and privacy. The golf club should be made aware of it - a reminder that they don't hold their alcohol licence by right could be in order.

Im surprised no-one else has suggested reporting it to the non- emergency police line. Very unlikely they’d catch with tosser who did it, but it is evidence of anti social behaviour caused by the golf club’s event,

if I’m really honest, I would have dialled 999, but I have a history of being attacked/rape/violence from men.
Aware not everyone would react that way.

I used to live somewhere quite similar but without the golf club. One summer I was home alone in the evening with the French windows open to the garden. Someone elsewhere in the village was having an event. At about 8pm some random drunk dude wandered into my house. I made an inarticulate noise and he said sorry (!) and wandered out again. I never felt safe in that house again. Totally get how you feel.

Sorry this happened, OP. Not funny at all. An invasion into personal space. Don’t be persuaded to minimise this. Report both to the golf club and the police. Doubt he’d have done it if was a 6 ft burly bloke was in there. He crossed a very important boundary. What if you’d have had a young daughter sat there?

As an 8 year old, I was scared of a drunk man in the play park. He never came near me and even though my mum was there, the unpredictability of this adult made me wary enough not to leave her side.

Oh blimey, that’s horrible. I also think you should complain to the golf club. But I think you should also consider reporting to your local non emergency police number. They didn’t just poke their head in your open window. They trespassed on your property and physically opened your window from the outside. Yes it was a stupid prank but that doesn’t excuse their actions. I see no humour in this at all.

Im not suprised you are shaken up! I hope you are feeling calmer and this is just a one off by a drunken clown!.

Funny?

No wonder we have such a problem with men when people are minimising this kind of thing for them. I would have been terrified. There is nothing remoter funny about such invasive behaviour.