Random drunk stuck his head through my open living room window and scared me senseless

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I know I’m not being unreasonable but just need to say this somewhere as I’m a bit speechless. I live on a road either just a few houses and a golf club. No pavement on the road and it’s a bendy country road so very rare we get people walking it, but it is just a few hundred meters before you get to the pavement and streets heading into the little town.

I’m up late working and there’s obviously some event on at the golf club that must have ended around 1am as I heard drunk people walking up to the town, happens every so often after an event at the club. It’s warm here so I’ve got the living room window open, and I was writing so looking down when I heard laughing outside and a noise, which was my window being pulled further open. I looked up as a man put his head through the window whilst making stupid laddy drunk noises and a gurning face. I did actually scream and jumped up. It all happened in seconds and I actually went towards the window, where there is a table by the window and it had some kid’s toys on it so I grabbed one of the plastic chuck and swung for the guy as he ducked his head back outside. I saw a him run back to a few other lads and they then ran off up the road.

It was obviously a “prank” by some drunk idiots but it’s really shaken me. I think I’ll be popping down to the golf club in the morning to have a word and see if I can find out whose party it was but it’s not like anything will come of it even if I can track down whoever had the invite list.

I’m just shaken and quite angry about it, not really sure what else to say.

Not remotely funny at all and I agree with telling the club and reporting it to the police, with a description of the man.

Ignore the posters talking out their arse.

Some of the responses on here are unbelievably like “awww boys will be boys”
We don’t have to put up with this shit!
I’d be making a complaint to the golf club and reporting to the police.

Yes it would have shocked me at first yes i may have been annoyed for a few minutes then I would have moved on, I dont see why there is any need for the dramaticness

Nor this 'cool girl' trope, it seems if you dont pile on the dramatics we are not doing it right and not just this thread

You poor thing. I would also have called the police and reported criminal assault (which includes making someone think they are about to be attacked). It's not too late to do that if you'd like to.

I wouldn't expect him to be prosecuted but it would be a very good thing for it to be known in the community who has done this to a single mother while her children were in the house, and ideally for him to receive a police visit about it, even if they don't have enough proof it was him.

Fear, shock and social shame are likely to be the only tools that have some effect on these sorts of nasty little idiots.

Good for you.

OP feels differently and is very reasonable to want to take this further.

This wasn't a mate playing a prank on someone they know, it was a strange man in a drunken power-play. He knew he was scaring someone (that was what was "funny" about it to him) whom he calculated couldn't do anything about it.

If he'd looked through the window and seen a man twice his size with face tattoos sitting there at the window, do you think he'd have done the same thing? If we had Texas Castle doctrine in this country, and he knew he could have been shot with impunity, do you think he'd have done this?

No, because in both cases there might have been physical or even fatal consequences for him rather than a feeling of power and "fuck you" over someone more vulnerable than him.

As well as being perfectly free to deliberately scare someone with impunity at the time, he also has the bonus of people like you excusing his behaviour too. I despair.

Assault.

It's not funny. Sadly you need to consider your security, you were so vulnerable. It's nothing to do with the golf course.

Op would be doing him a favour. If he did this round here he'd have likely got a smack in the mouth or a baseball bat wrapped round his head. He needs to know this isnt ok for his future safety.

What part of being shocked and upset at a drunk man trying to climb in your window at 1am is 'dramatics' @PollyBell ?

Am I the only one surprised it was warm enough to have a window open at that time?

That sounds really scary, I feel for you.

Well you're not the only one to pedanticaly focus on that, rather than the dickhead being a dickhead.
Why is that the focus of the thread for you @Redburnett?
So if he'd actually got in, it would be the fact that the window was open that was the main issue, not his actions?

No, i have my window open in the bedroom.

And my response to that sniffy question would be: I'd like you to comply with your alcohol licence (and the Licensing Act in general) or risk its removal because I'm copying this complaint to the council who issues it.

Didnt mean to put no but cant edit now.

And a lot more calmly than I'd have managed. I think my panic instinct to something intruding through my window would have been to slam the window down hard - though it's just as well you didn't or you could have had a decapitated head on your floor.

Hope you feel better this morning.

Yeah this is awful. I would have felt very threatened and scared.

That sounds terrifying. We have casement windows, but never have the downstairs windows open after dark because I would feel too vulnerable (and the house would fill with moths and daddy longlegs).

I always close my curtains for the same reason.

How shocking.
I would report it to both the police and the golf club.
He made an attempt to get into your home.
God but MN is so toxic.
Of course this was shocking.
Could you describe him?
Did you get a look at him?
Because I would report it.

I wondered that too.
I mean where's the line here where women are allowed to complain about feeling unsafe and be taken seriously? Obviously this drunken stranger had no ill intentions but the OP didn't know that.

If he'd broken in and threatened the OP it'd be "well at least he didn't sexually assault you". God forbid if that'd happened then the OP would likely be told "well your still alive aren't you, don't be so dramatic". And if she'd been murdered in her own home there'd be tuts of "well what did she expect, leaving her window open at that time".

I think i would have been frightened if that happened to me.

I wouldn't report it if it was the first time.l it happened. I would assume it was a one off, and from the ops response it sounds like it hasn't happened before so I would put it down to a high jinx mood.
Im not saying its ok because its clearly not.
However if it happens again I would be escalating things.

You forgot the 'what were you wearing op?... I mean pyjamas, in your own home at 1am?..🤨'

Never the fault of the arse home invader is it?

I’d be really shook up too, I don’t see anything funny about it. When I was a child a drunk neighbour wandered into my house and passed out on our spare bed. I was terrified and my poor mum had to ring the police as he wouldn’t wake up and leave.

It's not surprising you were scared, but I was about to suggest a restrictor too - next time it might not be an idiot.