Random drunk stuck his head through my open living room window and scared me senseless

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I know I’m not being unreasonable but just need to say this somewhere as I’m a bit speechless. I live on a road either just a few houses and a golf club. No pavement on the road and it’s a bendy country road so very rare we get people walking it, but it is just a few hundred meters before you get to the pavement and streets heading into the little town.

I’m up late working and there’s obviously some event on at the golf club that must have ended around 1am as I heard drunk people walking up to the town, happens every so often after an event at the club. It’s warm here so I’ve got the living room window open, and I was writing so looking down when I heard laughing outside and a noise, which was my window being pulled further open. I looked up as a man put his head through the window whilst making stupid laddy drunk noises and a gurning face. I did actually scream and jumped up. It all happened in seconds and I actually went towards the window, where there is a table by the window and it had some kid’s toys on it so I grabbed one of the plastic chuck and swung for the guy as he ducked his head back outside. I saw a him run back to a few other lads and they then ran off up the road.

It was obviously a “prank” by some drunk idiots but it’s really shaken me. I think I’ll be popping down to the golf club in the morning to have a word and see if I can find out whose party it was but it’s not like anything will come of it even if I can track down whoever had the invite list.

I’m just shaken and quite angry about it, not really sure what else to say.

What exactly is funny about intimidating a woman in her own home?

It’s one thing if it was a friend doing it to you to scare you. Would be scary still but also funny. A random guy is just scary.

No, this is not remotely funny.

Definitely complain to the golf club. They need to be telling the organisers of events to make sure guests leave quietly, without disturbing others. If need be, contact your local council as well.

It happens.

You can complain to the golf club but they’re not responsible for people once they leave their premises. I can understand why it would be scary in the moment but once you’ve had a chance to calm down I think you need to chalk it up to a drunken idiot and move on. I doubt the man was thinking at all (he was drunk!), and no harm came of it.

Reporting to the golf club? The police?

It was a drunk idiot, the sort of stupid prank that has been played for decades by stupid drunk idiots. Obviously it was a fright but reporting it to the golf club and the police would just be mental. Do we really want police time spent investigating drunk hijinx?

Hopefully you feel better this morning and can laugh about it (and maybe don't have a window wide open post 1am!)

I am not surprised that you're shaken

I think I would be too

I am sure the club would be polite about but I would have ro ask 'what would you like ua to actually do about it' if i worked there

It seems no whatever happens to anyone on here the replies are always 'report it'

They're not responsible but their licence might be at risk if events on their premises are deemed to be causing a nuisance - so they should take it seriously. A one-off wouldn't lose them their licence, but if it kept happening it might.

This, and include a statement to the effect that you will be objecting to the renewal of their licence to sell alcohol.

He crossed a line.

Antisocial behaviour like that is why we have licensing laws, so the behaviour can be moderated. If OP complains then the golf club may be restricted (eg as some have suggested, bar closing at 11).

If people can’t behave themselves, then the boundaries have to be put in place for them.

Actually, the golf club have a responsibility to make sure their events aren’t causing a nuisance to neighbours - so they may very well be interested.

I wouldn’t report myself but it’s not as straightforward as them no longer being responsible once no longer on the premises.

But this is a one off?

I do have to say, a lot of people are overreacting on this thread! Yes it would shake OP up, but it doesn’t really go further than that.

OP also doesn’t actually know whether the person came from the golf club or not! She’s just assumed - she says that people walk from the golf club to town along her road. That implies that they could also be walking from town to their home!

No, there is literally nothing else here.

We’re down a country road with no pavement. There are 4 houses dotted along and then the golf clubhouse. We are surrounded by fields out the front and to the side, then the golf course down the back. When you head along to leave our road, you get to the road into our tiny little town with a pavement. If someone I walking past my house and running off in the direction of town, then they’ve come from the golf club. Especially on a night when I know there’s been an event on as others have walked past throughout the night, when usually we have zero foot traffic.

Yes, so it is in the club's interests to do what they can to keep it that way.

But again, OP doesn’t know they’ve come from the club. Despite her insistence that they have - she doesn’t know that. They could easily be drunk, wandering in the wrong direction and be lost. OP needs to move on from it and accept it was a drunken idiot doing something silly.

Needs to move on from it? Bloody hell. It happened late last night. I’ve just come back in so am replying. It’s hardly like I’ve been banging on about it for a week.

You ever had a strange man just half climb his way into your house in the middle of the night? While you’re a single woman with two kids in bed. Why don’t you just move on from it. So easy.

I totally get how you’re feeling.
When we moved into our house, we had works that had to be done and had scaffolding all around the building. One night, we had gone to bed we heard a load of noise outside on the street. I went to the window to have a look out and when I pulled the curtain back there was a person the other side of the glass inches from my face… It frightened the life out of me (and probably them, too because I screamed my head off.) We called the police and they were here very fast - I think in hindsight it was someone drunk with their mates - thank god he didn’t fall when I scared him - but it was terrifying and a massive shock to see someone‘s face peering into my first floor bedroom window.

As I type this, I also remember a time when I lived in a converted Victorian house and my flat was right at the top of the building. You could only get in via intercom and no one had buzzed me so when I heard the knock at the door, I thought it must have been a neighbour - didn’t even look through the spyhole. I opened the door to a middle aged drunk man swaying and incoherent. It completely freaked me out as so unexpected - it was about 10pm on a Friday night and my partner was out and the flat next door was vacant at the time so it dawned on me how vulnerable I was in that moment. With hindsight, the bloke was out of it and no real threat to me - he was just confused and in the wrong building. But these things are really upsetting at the time. I was less mad with this drunk bloke and more furious with whoever had buzzed him in.

Hopefully this shock will pass. I totally understand your fury.

Did he stick his head in the window, or “half climb” into the house?

I’d be terrified too OP. I like the suggestions of reporting it to the club committee and the licensing authorities (and frankly, if you live in a small place and they were walking home then someone at the club probably has a pretty good idea of who they were).

That's awful, I am so sorry OP. Why people are minimising this, I really have no idea, the growing lack of emotional intelligence and willingness to stick the boot in on this forum is quite depressing. I would complain in writing to the golf club (mentioning you heard the noise of drunken people walking past at chucking out time and then the incident happened so you can only assume they came from the club). The club might then push the point at events that people should consider neighbours and not be a nuisance etc: they should take it seriously as down the line, if other incidents happen, it would affect their licencing.

I hope you're okay, he's lucky you didn’t whack him over the head.
I would report the idiot. He cannot be doing that.

Not funny!

How is putting his head through a window climbing half way in?

And where are you that it's warm enough to have a window open at 1am?

My window was open about an inch, He’s pulled it open, put his hands onto the inside ledge and pulled his body up so his head and shoulders could get up “into” my house, with his arms then fully on the inside ledge to hold himself in (because it’s too high up to be able to stick your head in with your feet on the ground). His head, shoulders/upper body and arms were fully on the inside on the window, in my house.

The window is one which the bottom length is the part that opens and swings out so he was underneath it and inside my home.

At 1am, having a man pull open my window and pull himself up under it to grab my interior windowsill, it is quite frightening. I made a post on here simply saying I was quite shaken and then you come on and tell me to just get over it as if I’ve done something wrong?

Whats wrong with you?