Best friend has accused me of being stingy.

[YourWorthyBee]

My best friend left a relationship a year or so ago and got himself a new girlfriend a few months back. I am genuinely pleased for him as in his previous relationship he was cheated upon regularly but his new flame is really nice.
His new girlfriend has a son and it was recently his 21st. I was invited to the party. Having never met the boy before, I turned up with a bottle of prosecco and a card with £50 in it. My best friend told me that he was really disappointed in me and that I should have given more. I'm not exactly Jeff Bezos in terms of money and as I hadn't met the boy I thought I was doing good. AIBU?

It’s definitely not you. You were being very generous.

I wonder if this has come from his new flame in some way? Only you know your friend. Either way, keep on the lookout for any more strange behaviours because I think there is more to this from your friends side of things. If he isn’t usually this type of person then something is definitely going on.

Honestly I would have taken a card and the bottle in that scenario. You were very generous and I'd rethink the friend!

I think a card and the bottle of prosecco was ample tbh. Your friend sounds like a prick.
@YourWorthyBee

Blimey - my brother in law had a 60th birthday party recently and all he got from us was a card and bottle of champagne.

£50 plus a bottle of Prosecco for someone you don’t know was very generous.

With (rude) friends like those, who needs enemies?

He’s not your friend. Ditch!

OP you should have replied “Alright, you silly goose” :)

Could he possibly be joking / sarcastic and actually implying that the gift was over generous?

Tell your "friend" to get to fuck! I've never heard such nonsense!!

Did he aye?

Send him a link to this thread

You were very generous. My long term friends we only spend 15.00 on kids birthdays and 20.00 for special bdays. Stop when 21.

This 🔼
how rude, I would not expect any of my ‘ friends’ to speak to me like this!

Was he being sarcastic? If he's Irish that could be a dry compliment

Your former best friend is using you (and others?) to impress his new girlfriend and in his eyes you’ve let him down as he was clearly expecting you to cough up a much bigger monetary gift.

It’s like someone using their friendship with a celebrity to gain kudos with others and is both sad and pathetic. I think you need to take him aside and tell him how disappointed you are that he’s trying to use your friendship to score brownie points and that’s not how genuine friends treat each other.

Card and a bottle of fizz was fine, you were extremely generous to give that much cash,

I wonder how generous this man would have been if he'd been invited to your wife's nephew's 21st. What was the last present you got from him?

Was your friend being sarcastic! Does he have a dry wit?
as I'd think £50 and bottle of prosecco for a boy you don't know is way too much. I'd probably have just put £10 in a card!!

Does your mate know you also gave him £50 or has he not opened the card so thinks you only gave the bottle?
to be honest he would only have the bottle from me!

He’s not your friend! Horrible comment.

Did your friend make this comment over text or in person? As if by text id probably think was a joke and he was being sarcastic

This!

You gave 50 to a stranger . Who you will probably not see again anyway .
Your friend is being ridiculous.

This has to be a joke.
I would have shown up with the booze and nothing else. And been dumbfounded if more was expected.

I hope there has been a miscommunication somewhere along the line. I would be tempted to contact your friend and ask what gift they think is appropriate for a birthday celebration for someone you have never even met, since a card, £50.00 and a bottle of fizz didn’t touch the sides.

You were very generous, I’d have just taken wine and that’s it!