to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

So if a 5'2 woman was filtering for a 6ft man, she would never know that he was actually 5'10 because she was shorter anyway. I think this is more realistic that men think they can get away with it

Yeah I can kind of get the logic of why a man of a certain height might try and pull a fast one with a short woman, because she might not know the difference if he’s several inches taller than her, but it’s weirder when the 5ft 10 inch guy tries that on a woman closer to his height.

Or in my case a 5ft 2 woman, a man more or less my height lied he was 5ft 7.

Not wanting to date a liar is considered a high standard now?
Gosh is the bar really that low?!

When I tried online dating some years ago I put my own height on my profile (Five foot three) and said I didn't care much about heigh provided he was at least taller than me. Enter Phillip, who was about 5 foot tall, and certainly shorter than me.

I think there's something wrong with men who do this tbh. It is really really weird behaviour.

No weirder though than Mary, who I knew years ago. She was chubby and about 5 feet tall and a red head. She answered a lonely hearts ad (this really was years ago before the internet) for a man looking for a tall, slender blonde. I asked her what her plan was when she met him, she said she'd sit on a bar stool and wear a short skirt and distract him with her legs (which were pretty good to be fair) and he wouldn't know what height she was till she went to the loo, by which time she reckoned she'd already have seduced him 😂

What about the hair colour I asked, I'll tell him I'm a natural blonde and dyed it for a change. I guess she didn't realise she wasn't passing for slender in any light.

It was funny, but also so puzzling to me. Just - why?

People are weird, is all I have.

Not trying to start a bun fight, but all the women saying they were expecting someone 6 foot and then the man was only an inch or two bigger than them, at 5'1...

YOU are short, so why are you looking down on other people being short? Your sons might be short!

I am a tall woman 5'9 with a 6'1 husband. He would look completely ridiculous with a 5'1 woman, as or more ridiculous than a 5,4 woman with a 5'3 man. Shorter men seem to look for short women, so I'm not sure why you are appalled by it.

My husband and tall brothers have said they wouldn't go for a shorter women as then they may have short children. There's not enough 6' men to go around all women, so it makes sense that the shorter women are attracting the shorter men.

if it's aa disadvantage it's a disadvantage to men AND women, stop acting like you are a 5'1 super catch who should have pick of the tall men. If it's genetics and nature, then being short is a disadvantage that YOU also share, doesn't matter how slim or well dressed you are.

(disclaimer: I don't see it as a disadvantage or inferior, variety is what makes us great. But it's like obese women with a BMI of 40+ moaning that a man turned up obese with a BMI of 40+....)

YOU are short, so why are you looking down on other people being short? Your sons might be short!

Having short sons is a real fear for some women apparently.

Irrelevant. Women are entitled to fancy or not fancy anyone for any reason at all, just as men are. Their dating pool is not your concern.

Liars are not attractive, at any height.

I would never ever think someone claiming to be 5'8 was as tall as that.

It's basically the lowest height they can get away with admitting to without sounding way below what is acceptable. So they are admitting to being one inch below average. In reality you need to deduct another three or four.

Even those who claim to be 6 foot are probably more like 5'10. It's so cringe but so universally well known they lie. I think you'd end up reporting 90% of the men on OLD. Which is no bad thing I guess!

Fuck me,.i hope there's not women out there thinking im really 5'1"

That's not what I said.

I said lying would be a problem for me, not that he wasn't tall.

My DH is very tall, he was the first tall guy I dated, I've always been more attracted to confident shorter men. I'm 5'3.

You're limiting your options, plus your time poor, this is like shopping, take the time to join a club, cycling, running, or move to a country where the men are taller.

the issue is is that if I up my filters to 3-4 inches, which would make filtering out anyone shorter than 5'10 (their stated height). I may miss honest men who are truly 5'7-5'9 which I would be happy to date if their height is stated correctly.
I would rather take 5'8 man who states his height as 5'8 than 5'10 man who says he is 6'

That's exactly what I wanted - to limit my options to have less dates but with people who are truthful. I dont want those 90% who lie on their profile(as per previous poster), I want to get to know the remaining 10%. It is just tricky to identify them without meeting

OP isn't demanding all other women stop dating short men ffs 😂 😂

I'm with her, why waste everyone's time and money by lying about something objective that is easily observable at first glance.

From a selfish POV for the men it's nonsensical as you're just setting yourself up to fail.

And then anyone else who wants to date short men or ones with dad bods and all the men want chubby women or stocky women are free to do so

Yes but the issue seems to be that short women are setting their filters to tey and get men who are at least 5'8, despite being 5'1 themselves. So any man 5'2-5'8, who is still taller than her, has no chance. While men over 5'8 are less likely to want someone much shorter. So I can mind of see why the men are doing it, to be included in a weird arbitrary exlcusion criteria.

i think a lot of short women areactually wanting tall men, not just trying to exclude the short ones. And most tall men I know don't want short women, especially if they have kids as they want tall kids like themselves...

It's sad that one group is deemed better than another, when actually it makes fuck all difference to anything. But I think some short women should be more honest too: it's not about attraction, they are trying to remove their own shortness from future generations

I do understand. I'd probably throw a napkin at him, the door idea is a good one.
It's shit that dating has come to this.
In all seriousness, I'd spend my precious weekends away sightseeing in Europe, where the men are taller. 🥂

Yeah, I know what you mean. It leaves genuine 5'8-ers in an awkward position!

why do they match then with a woman whose stated height is taller than him. I could see the logic if 5'4 man puts 5'8 and then swipes on women 5'4 and shorter in a hope that they will overlook their height criteria as long as he is their height or a bit taller. But why target those who are taller than him by pretending himself being taller. It is quite know fact that very few women attracted to a guy shorter than themselves. Very few want to bend to kiss a man.

I said nowhere that I care only about height. height is one of the things I care about but there are others

If that is what they prefer, then surely its best to make that clear at the start rather than waste everybody’s time meeting someone they aren’t going to be attracted to.

Would it be acceptable if men filtered for cup size?

I imagine because 1. They aren't as bothered about height or 2. They want to have taller children.

What I'm saying is it is bizarre to see shortness as a huge flaw that makes someone undateable, when you are short yourself. You are the female version of the short men, and your children will have the same short genes. If you hate it about yourself and want to breed it out then that's very sad, but you meed to be honest about that instead of pretending it's about attraction. And also be realistic that you are also at a dating disadvantage if shortness is a massive flaw that makes someone undateable, and be a bit more realistic when looking for a partner

yes, it would. I am pretty much sure they do it already. Surely you can estimate that by looking at pics in most cases.
Also acceptable to filter by p size if that would be the next thing on your mind to ask. Though this one is more challenging to measure by pics itself haha.
People are entitled to have preferences. what is not clear why people think they are entitled to lie about themselves to trick someone into a date with them

i am not short I am above average female height in the UK.....
I dont see it as a flaw. I see lying as a flaw.
Re shortness I am not attracted sexually to a guy shorter than me.

I can't imagine having the confidence to lie about something so obvious as body type, height, shape, and actually turn up meet the person in RL. 😳