Day of Dad’s funeral; Council demand Mum sell her house day after

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Buried Dad Tuesday.

Mum, 88, Parkinson’s, lost her DH of 60
years. She’s shaking with terror today.

I had hoped Social Services would give Mum 24 hours after her husband’s funeral before calling and demanding she sell her house and be moved to a care home asap, house money to be controlled by council, but it was not to be.

SS want permission from her DC (me and DB) to move her asap - we’ve got a month left of private carers. Mum & Dad have spent £650k of their and our money on care. DM is horribly, painfully disabled and needs 24hr care. There’s £0 left.

I told the social worker before funeral that we wanted DM at home for a while before any more major life changes, in case the shock kills her.

SS know Dad died. They know his will is wrongly written and we can’t do equity release as a result.

SS know we can’t pay for more private care, and that they’ll have to fork out for a couple of months respite care with round the clock carers if she at home.

But they rang DB the morning after the funeral to say they wouldn’t provide any care beyond a toilet break once every eight hours.

DM ran a charity for our part of London for 40 years. She worked tirelessly for locals and newcomers alike for a tiny salary. As net contributors to society go, she’s right up
there.

We all know councils lick their lips at the prospect of getting the cash from a London house.

But AIBU - are these social workers being cruel, greedy and dangerous?

A Solicitor we met via age uk.

OP - again if you’re still reading, here is a case where family successfully challenged a local authority on 24/7 care at home rather than going into a care home. If it can be shown that it’s in your mother’s best interests and that the 24/7 care at home is safe, then it is possible to challenge refusals based solely on the cost of the care. https://www.ms-solicitors.co.uk/community-care-law/planning-and-paying-for-care/case-study-successful-challenge-to-inadequate-social-services-funding-offer-for-24-hour-care-at-home/

I still think it’s very much worth exploring a continuing healthcare application - you can take a look at Beacon https://beaconchc.co.uk/

I have to point out that it's not the Social Workers forcing this, it's the Council Finance/ Debt collection department. Of course, SWs usually get to share the bad news...
Wouldn't it be a shame if the papers heard about this? And local MP? It would be pretty bad optics for a council.

Out of interest, who pays for the 24 hour care at home? Or am I reading thr post wrong? (Could be its late!)

Who would pay for it? Im sure plenty of people would like 24 hour at home care paid for.

How Much Does 24-Hour Care at Home Cost in the UK?
Most families pay between £1560 and £1700 per week for 24-hour professionally managed care at home in the UK. That works out to approximately £62,000 to £83,000 per year.

For individuals with complex needs such as advanced dementia or palliative care the cost may rise to £1,800 or more per week, especially if night care or double-up carer is required.

Nope many solicitors dont do 30 mins free, as there are too many freeloaders

Im going to say that the op came in with some half facts, and then didn't answer questions about the will that magically stops them doing equity release or selling the property, and possibly is only here to rag on SS?

I'm so sorry, I'm shocked they wouldn't give you a few days at the very least.

It is credible, believe me. It is far from usual.

I think there is a place for this in investigative journalism.