Old-ish man on the route to the Co-op who keeps saying hello

[RogueFemale]

I moved house last week and already have noticed this man. He lives on the short (7m) walking route to the local Co-Op. He's maybe mid 60s, tall, heavy build. He is always standing outside his front door, and he loudly says hello every time I go past. I ignore him.

I'm 60 and am used to being invisible.

So it's not a leering hello. I also thought maybe it was accidental he was standing outside before, or something, and just a cheery 'local' hello.

But I went past twice today (to Co-Op) and he was there both times, hello-ing, and I'm finding it quite weird, that he's always standing outside his front door.

I'm going to be going to the local Co-Op a lot, so what do I do?

AIBU to continue to ignore him and just doggedly go past for years pretending he's not there?

So what's the point in your thread, nothing we say makes any difference, you think your right.

How is he a danger when he is just saying hello from his own property? I don't get it.

Great point!

Read https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights?order-by=newest

And there you go bringing a witch hunt to his door, all you have to do is ignore him not gather an imaginary community to condemn him

OP, if you thought you could get away with it, would you kill him?

Just say hello back. It's not hard!

We can’t find the context OP because you are literally the first person to mention trans people on here.

How can you not find where you said it?! Are you a simpleton? Plenty of people replied to it

I find it interesting how much shit has been rained upon me for suggesting I felt uncomfortable with a creepy local bloke.

No evidence he’s creepy except your hatred of men.

Why should anyone be polite to you when you’re so stingy with YOUR politeness? You can’t have your cake and eat it too

Are all these mothers happy for their young daughters to go along with the man near the Co-Op and make him happy because it's just kind and so nice to be friendly to him?

Well my 12yo DD and her friends chat to the widower 3 doors down who sits in his front garden all day every day in summer. I raised her primarily on two points

1. Know your boundaries especially with non family members - so for example don’t go into the widower’s house
2. Don’t be a cunt to people

He'll be mentally ill whether you say hello or not so why not just say hello

Yeah I’m beginning to think that. OP sounds more and more man hating with each update.

Im a regular visitor of the FWR sex and gender board thanks . But if a trans identifying man said hello, I wouldn’t scream and run, I’d say hello back. Because I’m not a lunatic. I can be gender critical and have basic manners.

Behaving like women are delicate Victorian maidens who can’t cope with a man opening his mouth and saying one word, doesn’t help anyone OP.

Seriously ? !!!

So someone saying hello is mentally ill?

Dont move, stick with whatever city it is you live in , where its perfectly acceptable to class someone who is not as totally fucked up as you

Nobody is negating your feelings, simply the justifications you’ve created for them. Here’s the comment you made in response to someone asking you are you always miserable, I’ve attached a screenshot. No context whatsoever to your reply.

Don’t encourage her 🤣

How do you know he's standing out all day long, are you spying on him?

The old fashioned equivalent of internet forums.

@Beachtastic What a weird question to ask.

What relevance has linking the feminism chat got, other than to try and say “see, there are lots of women just like me - look here at all the feminists!”

I’m calling bullshit on this… You seem to be pretending to be a parody of a bitter and twisted feminist, in a bizarre attempt to discredit feminists!

I'm still waiting for you to tell us how you know that he stands there all day, every day.

@RogueFemale And whilst I can’t speak for everyone else on this thread, I teach my DD to trust her gut and not put herself in unsafe situations. I don’t teach her to diagnose people she passes on the street with mental health issues/dementia like some backwater quack.

Christ, I'm ready to throw in the towel to all these women hating blokes posting here.
OP ignore your instinct, and just make that old geezer happy, and stop for a cup of tea.
😂🤣😭

No weirder than diagnosing someone with a mental illness for standing in their garden saying hello to passers by.

I believe that most people are good, that saying hello is polite and generally harmless and I want my daughter to grow up in a community not a lonely host of zombie indivials who find any excuse to be wary of others and considers all men suspicious.

When we're out and about, I encourage her to say hi when people smile or say hi to her, and we often stop to chat if we/she/they want. Yes, even lone older men. I'm teaching her to trust her instincts too and as she grows older to be more aware but generally casual interactions are a positive in my day.

No one has suggested she stop for a cup of tea, and the OP hasn't said he's suggested it.

Who are the women hating blokes who are posting here?

Or she could just, you know, say hello back