Old-ish man on the route to the Co-op who keeps saying hello

[RogueFemale]

I moved house last week and already have noticed this man. He lives on the short (7m) walking route to the local Co-Op. He's maybe mid 60s, tall, heavy build. He is always standing outside his front door, and he loudly says hello every time I go past. I ignore him.

I'm 60 and am used to being invisible.

So it's not a leering hello. I also thought maybe it was accidental he was standing outside before, or something, and just a cheery 'local' hello.

But I went past twice today (to Co-Op) and he was there both times, hello-ing, and I'm finding it quite weird, that he's always standing outside his front door.

I'm going to be going to the local Co-Op a lot, so what do I do?

AIBU to continue to ignore him and just doggedly go past for years pretending he's not there?

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Monsters is the right word. To discriminate against certain groups by withholding basic manners is a fucking disgraceful way to behave. Even if they are <gasp> men. And I’m a hardened feminist, but I’m not rude.

Do people not realise that anyone’s life could change tomorrow and they could be the “creep” with “mental health issues” or a disability?

You have a point. Some men can think that replying to them is giving them the green light to... Maybe bother you.

I had an older disabled neighbour who was always in his front garden and said hello to everyone. He was a lovely man, everyone on the street knew him and said hello, some stopped and chatted with him for a while. He didn't get many visitors other than carers, I imagine his life would have been lonely if everyone just walked on and ignored him. Say hello to him OP.

You maintain you’re not wrong and that your stance is valid. The vast majority on this thread see you as unpleasant and cruel. You made a throwaway comment at the start of the thread about trans identifying men and won’t clarify what you mean by that. You just sound like you’re throwing mud. You’re entitled to feel weirded out, those are your feelings. We’re all entitled to feel that you’re a bit of a twat.

Is every feeling valid? Even discriminatory feelings?

Yes I do. There is a very sweet man in our village with special needs. He will stand on a steet corner for hours at a time. Everyone knows him and most will wave or give him a cheery hello. Why would you be so rude and judgemental?

What was the random trans post about then?

If he's saying hello to you then he's saying it to everyone else. Bit rude to ignore him.

All of them?

OP won’t clarify. Sounds to me like they’re hoping to start a bunfight.

Of course she's not wrong to feel the way she feels.

But what's the point of the post then? If the OP feels like she's right in not saying hello or in thinking the man is creepy or whatever, why ask what she should do? And then only thank those who agree? If you think you're right you don't need validation do you?

You're a match made in heaven OP.

He stands on his doorstep seeking attention from strangers.

You start ridiculous threads like this, seeking attention from strangers.

You have more in common with him than you think.

Why not stop and say hi? It might be good for the both of you.

So you didn't really post to explore whether you were BU. You're only interested in validation.

& based on this short span of a time & a fellow human bean just standing at his door saying hello - you felt strongly enough to rush here for opinions.....& then didn't like those either.
Odd.

I wouldn’t be so sure his penis doesn’t work OP….. Bernie Ecclestone had his last kid when he was 89! This guy is a spring chicken, comparatively. 😂

My neighbour sits outside his front door all day, every day. He’s just very lonely. He tries to engage people in conversation. It’s sad.

This thread is a load of bullshit, i wouldn’t waste your time posting anymore everyone, shes clearly just trying to provoke arguments and get reactions out of everyone, firstly with the mental health comment, secondly the men comments and random trans comment its a thread designed to just piss people off.

You're beings weird coming online to slag this man off. He has done nothing to you.

Ooo, I do, I do!

There's an old guy near me who sits in his front garden all day in a deckchair and has a little chat or just nods hello to everyone as they pass. I think it's rather sweet to be honest.

How can you tell he is mentally ill and will get creepy?
Just say hello to a friendly man.

My god, you’re one bitter and miserable woman.

I can't find or remember why I mentioned trans. I'm gender critical and whatever it was I then mentioned it. Feel free to find the context and quote and challenge me.

I find it interesting how much shit has been rained upon me for suggesting I felt uncomfortable with a creepy local bloke. Are all these mothers happy for their young daughters to go along with the man near the Co-Op and make him happy because it's just kind and so nice to be friendly to him?

He might have a mild learning difficulty. I think this is far more likely than being mentally ill or having dementia. I don't think he sounds creepy at all. Unusual, yes. I feel more sorry for him than I do you.

Do you know what, I’m a really staunch gender critical feminist. But I’d be polite to a trans identifying man, if he said hello, I would say hello back. You don’t have to make everyone your enemy, it doesn’t help.