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Which country will you move to if Reform win next election?

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Krenonges · 15/09/2025 20:21

Faced with the prospect of NHS being sold off, ICE-style immigration raids and deportations, emboldened bigots, changes to the school curriculum, public services dessimated, leaving EHCR, I honestly think I'll have no choice but to leave. I don't want to but I couldn't bring DC up in fascist state.

Luckily my DH, DC and I are all dual nationals of an EU country so we have an escape route if needed and this country goes to the dogs.

Where would you go?

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Runssometimes · 16/09/2025 07:45

Falseknock · 15/09/2025 23:13

I have Irish roots through my grandparents. I could move to Dublin or the countryside. I have spoken to my partner about it. He needs to marry me first so we can go together.

He can’t get an Irish passport through marriage. If he’s a British citizen he can move via the CTA. However, there’s no universal free healthcare in Ireland. Most people have private health insurance. Unless you are very low income and then you can access but it’s very long waiting lists.

The rate of net migration in Ireland is double that in the UK and has been for years. The infrastructure cannot cope with it. Poor and in rural cases often inexistent public transport and a chronic housing shortage. Much worse than here. Housing in Dublin is basically London prices. The increase in pressure on housing especially has caused a lot of issues similar to here.

As a British or Irish citizen you can access state benefits in Ireland but I’m not sure you’d be better off as the cost of living is higher.

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.POP.TOTL?locations=IE

I am Irish born and bred and came over here in my 20s. I would like to go back and it would be really easy for me to culturally integrate since we have all our friends and family there but the housing and healthcare situation really put me off. I have a long term health condition and treating that in Ireland would be at least €1500 a year whereas it’s totally free here.

Snorebor · 16/09/2025 07:51

Holluschickie · 16/09/2025 07:44

Sometimes it is. There was a pp upthread who said not wanting to live next to cultures who treated their women badly is perfectly reasonable. Which are these cultures? Anyone non-white? Anyone who dresses differently? The same pp said children deserve to go to a school to learn and work hard. I might point out that it's white working class boys who perform the worst in school, not PoC.

Makes me wonder what my neighbours think of me, a highly educated PoC woman from a family of highly educated PoC women. Perhaps they think I am being treated badly and feel the need to save me from my culture. Not needed.

It’s just a dog whistle and excuse for
bigotry. The irony is many of the men for example saying they are against cultures who treat women badly treat their “own” (white) women badly and racially abuse POC women. Did you hear the recent case where a Sikh woman was allegedly racial abused and raped? Or the fact a significant proportion of the August 2024 rioters had domestic violence or other criminal records. As someone who doesn’t drive (learning now) I actually get the most bother from large groups of drunk English white men
on public transport. They are often abusive to women whether it’s sexist or racist stuff they’re spewing directly or indirectly to people or just leering at women going past and I feel nothing is done about it. It’s just almost an accepted cultural thing people including train staff turn a blind eye to. Let’s face it a lot of these men are the exact ones screaming about “protect ARE women and children” it’s farcical.

re. People not following through on moving I don’t know anyone on this thread but speaking for myself I’ve handed in my notice at work, I leave in December and I just got back from Spain last week and was doing my research there to figure out where I wanted to live. My Spanish friends are going to help me find accommodation for the new year.

I have American friends who have left because of Trump. I’m sure many people who are claiming they will leave because of Reform will do just that if they get in.

The way I see it though even if they don’t get in the ugliness I’ve seen in the recent march for example has put me off so much that I’ll gladly take a long or permanent break from here.

PauseOMen · 16/09/2025 07:52

I want to stay in UK but things need to change for the better. I would rather vote Conservatives than Reform. Better the devil you know and all that. One thing is certain, Labour need to go!

citygirl77 · 16/09/2025 07:52

Krenonges · 15/09/2025 22:20

What do you mean I chose to live here? I'm British by birth, just have Italian passport

There you go. You have chosen to live here rather than Italy. Plenty of corruption and fascism in Italy, which you will be aware of. My friend moved to Calabria and the area is full of mafia.

KindLemur · 16/09/2025 07:56

Runssometimes · 16/09/2025 07:45

He can’t get an Irish passport through marriage. If he’s a British citizen he can move via the CTA. However, there’s no universal free healthcare in Ireland. Most people have private health insurance. Unless you are very low income and then you can access but it’s very long waiting lists.

The rate of net migration in Ireland is double that in the UK and has been for years. The infrastructure cannot cope with it. Poor and in rural cases often inexistent public transport and a chronic housing shortage. Much worse than here. Housing in Dublin is basically London prices. The increase in pressure on housing especially has caused a lot of issues similar to here.

As a British or Irish citizen you can access state benefits in Ireland but I’m not sure you’d be better off as the cost of living is higher.

https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.POP.TOTL?locations=IE

I am Irish born and bred and came over here in my 20s. I would like to go back and it would be really easy for me to culturally integrate since we have all our friends and family there but the housing and healthcare situation really put me off. I have a long term health condition and treating that in Ireland would be at least €1500 a year whereas it’s totally free here.

My family member had to fly her child across to alder hey for surgery because it just wasn’t available in Ireland. People moan about the NHS but people from other countries still come here to use the facilities (paying!) because they’re so good

Gladysknightgottogetaholdofmyself · 16/09/2025 07:58

PauseOMen · 16/09/2025 07:52

I want to stay in UK but things need to change for the better. I would rather vote Conservatives than Reform. Better the devil you know and all that. One thing is certain, Labour need to go!

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Fair enough,I'm on the opposite side probably SNP for various reasons.
The Reform council's are a joke,one of them suggested officially painting mini roundabouts white with the red cross... really people want bins emptied,pot holes fixed,real local issues being tackled.
Painting roundabouts won't be top of the pops for the majority of people.

Sherbs12 · 16/09/2025 07:58

Gingernessy · 16/09/2025 06:59

The real rot started under Labour in the 90's with tax credits. Allowing couples to work 16 hours a week and be topped up by other taxpayers was never going to be a good idea.
I'm sure Labour thought people would use the system as intended - a stop gap whilst for looking more or better paid work but they didn't. They happily worked the minimum and took the government money.
Socialist public services rely on those who can pay in doing so and we have to many not doing so.
It's embarrassing that our work ethic is so bad we have to be told by the DWP how many hours we should work and how much we should aim to he earning.

Quite a lot to unpack there. The New Labour (definitely not socialists) tax credit policy aimed to incentivise work and was also targeted at families with children - I’m sure I’ll be considered a bleeding heart lefty, but I think striving to improve conditions for children living in poverty is a positive (and benefits all of society in the long-term too, in fact). Was it costly and exploited in parts? Yes, of course.
But it’s also far more nuanced and complex than merely being about poor work ethics - zero hour contracts, fire and rehire and other employment issues also contribute to this.
There are clearly issues within our current welfare system and economic forecasts on it are concerning, but we need an informed, pragmatic approach to this not finger-pointing.

Likewise, we also need strategies to close the tax gap - £46.4 billion in 2023-2024. I wonder why the right wing politicians and media don’t highlight this more?

Regardless, none of this explains the Conservative’s irresponsible and disastrous approach to the NHS.

WhereIsMyJumper · 16/09/2025 07:59

SpottyAardvark · 15/09/2025 20:49

What a load of hysterical nonsense.

As a pro-European centrist I certainly won’t be voting for Reform, but I won’t be panicking about them winning the next election either. Farage isn’t a budding dictator or an unhinged psychopath or even a narcissistic orange moron like Trump. He is a legitimate mainstream democratic politician with whom I happen to disagree on most issues. Just like Margaret Thatcher was. Or Jeremy Corbyn. The fact that Farage absolutely refuses to work with or share platforms with Tommy Robinson or allow him anywhere near Reform speaks volumes.

Finally, a voice of reason.

The histrionics around this are a little over the top aren’t they?
Im not a Reform voter either, by the way.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 16/09/2025 08:03

Canopop · 15/09/2025 20:37

This is scaremongering I don’t know anyone in real life who supports reform I really hope it isn’t a thing 😢

Reform did get over 4 million votes in the the 2024 election. 😳

NapoleonsToe · 16/09/2025 08:10

KindLemur · 16/09/2025 07:56

My family member had to fly her child across to alder hey for surgery because it just wasn’t available in Ireland. People moan about the NHS but people from other countries still come here to use the facilities (paying!) because they’re so good

The UK has far worse outcomes for most cancers than many developed countries across the world. We expect, and get, so much less than elsewhere.

R0ckandHardPlace · 16/09/2025 08:11

Dorisbonson · 15/09/2025 22:52

Your Marxist communist labour party has policies which are destroying the UK. Destroying the economy, employment levels, investment and not bothering to prosecute crime.

Those who can are leaving.

Italy is transforming it's economy by welcoming millionaires from the UK who are creating jobs and investment there. The same thing is happening in Dubai.

Multiple Nobel laureates have left the UK.

Your quasi communist government which loves criminals and immigrants is turning the UK into the worst place to live in Europe. Your answer is to tax the rich - guess what? They are leaving, you can't tax them because they are going, but they are making other countries rich, they are creating jobs in those places.

Your Marxist communist energy minster who refuses to be interviewed has created a situation where our energy bills are three times higher than the USA. Our manufacturing industries are dying. People are losing their jobs.

Your Marxist labour government don't care what happens to people, you just want to take everyone to pay for criminals, scroungers and immigrants.

People like you won't be happy until we have achieved equality by living in net Zero mud huts.

Your keyboard appears to be autocorrecting ‘Thatcherite’ to ‘Marxist Communist’, Doris.

SirHumphreyRocks · 16/09/2025 08:11

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 16/09/2025 08:03

Reform did get over 4 million votes in the the 2024 election. 😳

I despise Reform, but suggesting that anyone knows nobody who voted for them ever indcates that they don't know many people or haven't had many elections. Where I live at the last local elections they swept the board, and a know lots of people who voted for them. Ignoring what happened in May is foolish - they are a real threat.

kinkytoes · 16/09/2025 08:14

RhododendronFlowers · 16/09/2025 07:35

This is interesting. British people wanting another passport, somewhere else to live.
Meanwhile, every day thousands of people risk their lives to come to the UK, and the British passport is highly prized for them.

It's really telling isn't it.

These are the uber privileged champagne socialists that Mumsnet is famous for!

frozendaisy · 16/09/2025 08:17

Dual-nationals here as well.

Initially Frankfurt because H can get work there and speaks German, unless he just moves across office to Amsterdam until retirement, then northern Italy to live out our days sipping wine and painting pictures of olive groves!

Teens are looking at Germany and Canada.

frozendaisy · 16/09/2025 08:18

kinkytoes · 16/09/2025 08:14

It's really telling isn't it.

These are the uber privileged champagne socialists that Mumsnet is famous for!

But how many British passports want to move to where the people coming in are from?

Swiftie1878 · 16/09/2025 08:20

Krenonges · 15/09/2025 20:38

I think Scotland could be a safe haven still as they are much more progressive up there. Although I think Reform also want to concentrate more power back in Westminster, not sure what that would mean for devolution.

I actually live in Wales right now. For the Senedd elections in 2026 I'm voting Plaid Cymru. I'm not a Welsh nationalist but they're only party that cares about Wales

😂😂😂 the irony!
And the Scots hate the English.

kinkytoes · 16/09/2025 08:22

frozendaisy · 16/09/2025 08:18

But how many British passports want to move to where the people coming in are from?

How many of these very same places are being skipped by immigrants?

My point stands.

RhododendronFlowers · 16/09/2025 08:27

kinkytoes · 16/09/2025 08:14

It's really telling isn't it.

These are the uber privileged champagne socialists that Mumsnet is famous for!

Yes, I was recently talking to an Eritrean woman at my church. She actually cried with joy when she got her British passport. She's not an idiot, she knows it's not perfect, but she also knows what it's like for a woman to have no rights, and for people to have no freedom of speech and to live in fear and experience the worst of humanity. She can practise her faith. She feels free. I think if you just want to sip sangria in a warmer climate that's fine, but other countries have bigotry and serious economic problems.
Even Europe.

RhododendronFlowers · 16/09/2025 08:28

frozendaisy · 16/09/2025 08:17

Dual-nationals here as well.

Initially Frankfurt because H can get work there and speaks German, unless he just moves across office to Amsterdam until retirement, then northern Italy to live out our days sipping wine and painting pictures of olive groves!

Teens are looking at Germany and Canada.

I don't know much about Canada. I do know that AfD are doing well in Germany.

TheColourOutOfSpace · 16/09/2025 08:29

Krenonges · 15/09/2025 20:38

I think Scotland could be a safe haven still as they are much more progressive up there. Although I think Reform also want to concentrate more power back in Westminster, not sure what that would mean for devolution.

I actually live in Wales right now. For the Senedd elections in 2026 I'm voting Plaid Cymru. I'm not a Welsh nationalist but they're only party that cares about Wales

What makes you think Scotland is radically different from England? 😂

We have enough of our own problems and many people are already concerned about mass immigration and drastic demographic changes.

Politicians in Scotland will say anything to appear 'progressive'. If Westminster said water was wet, you can bet Holyrood will claim water is dry. They put little thought into their policies as long as it's 'different'. Improving the country for Scots is at the bottom of their list.

Foragingfox · 16/09/2025 08:30

chaosmaker · 15/09/2025 22:33

Private Eye

Thanks @chaosmaker will check it out

Foragingfox · 16/09/2025 08:32

@TheColourOutOfSpace remember
those delightful people holding fuck off back signs during Covid on the Scottish border?

Scotland’s brilliant but a large influx anywhere will cause repercussions

Foragingfox · 16/09/2025 08:34

You could make a strong argument that the post war economic liberal consensus is broken in France, Italy and that German reunification is on the verge of failure. Most countries are now three horse races with the third party being characterised as either far right and fascist or ‘a return to common person’s sense’ depending on which side you’re on.

frozendaisy · 16/09/2025 08:47

kinkytoes · 16/09/2025 08:22

How many of these very same places are being skipped by immigrants?

My point stands.

But many aren't depends on language to a large degree, English is the most widespread second language, there are a huge number of immigrants in France from French speaking African countries.

TheColourOutOfSpace · 16/09/2025 08:47

Foragingfox · 16/09/2025 08:32

@TheColourOutOfSpace remember
those delightful people holding fuck off back signs during Covid on the Scottish border?

Scotland’s brilliant but a large influx anywhere will cause repercussions

Yes, it's a very human reaction that any kind of drastic change or large influx into areas will cause tensions and prejudices to flare.

It doesn't matter if the demographic change is within a country (like city people moving to rural areas) or cross border movement.

In the past 5 years alone I have seen big demographic changes, and I've lived in Scotland for twenty years. I can only imagine what it's like in England. Things are going to get ugly when the political establishment refuses to listen.

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