Husband touched a kid to reprimand them on school trip

[ToddlerIs2]

Husband went on school ltrip with yr 6 dc as our DC"s 121 so only responsible for him. Yr 4 girl in front was being annoying all journey. Husband asked her to stop several times. He dozed off and she banged the seats again (so banding onto her knee) and he lent over and tapped her on the head and told her to stop. Off the coach the teacher spoke to him and he said sorry, didn't think etc. now head wants to see him. What's the likely consequences? We have a lot going on and I'm not holding it all together very well so at home so don't know how irrational I am. He's never smacked out kids so I know it won't have been a smack to the head etc and it was only when she got off she told the teacher. I'm absolutely fuming because how did he forget to never touch someone else's child? And obviously there's an angry parent there that there's a grown man who's touched their daughter so school will probably have to make an example of him. Any ideas what's likely to happen?

He tapped her on the head to get her attention to tell her to stop.
He did nothing wrong

They don't! I'm beginning to wonder where this school is maybe just in her head.

Whyy are you getting quite so worked up and sweary on your posts? You really are not coming across like a professional teacher working in schools.

Teachers annual leave is the school holidays. We don’t get any annual leave apart from those days, and it’s term time now.

I’m supply teacher who’s not had a booking today, which is why I’m here.

Yr 4 isn’t secondary school, though?

Are you ok?

This is why I don’t help out where other people’s kids are concerned. There’s always at least one wee shite who is a pita.

i appreciate your DH was not there as a parent helper op but to supervise his own child, so you have no choice but to go. Obviously he shouldn’t have touched the child and had a teacher deal with it, but it’s too late now. I guess the Head will ask for his side of the story, give him a slap on the wrist and maybe say he can’t come on any future trips. If the parents do decide to take it further I’m not sure. If it were my child I’d be embarrassed another parent had needed to tell them off, but that’s just me.

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notacooldad · Today 14:24
*nocoolnamesleft · Today 11:28
So he went as a supervisor, went to sleep instead of supervising, then hit another child on the head?
No. However that is such an amazing spin that Alistair Campbell would have been proud of it back in the day!!!

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Really no need to twist the story🤷‍♀️*
Im assuming you are addressing 'nocoolnamesleft' and not me!!

He needed to tell the school staff about the y4 child, not take matters into his own hands. He was there as a 1-1 with his own child, not to be responsible for any other of the children.

I'd be more cross that my child couldn't be trusted to sit still in a moving vehicle whilst trying to get a reaction.

"Absolute twaddle that there are national guidelines that teachers should be sacked for hugging a child"

Are you for real? I am actually worried that you do not know this.

Even though teachera have come on this thread and said that there is a no touch policy in their school.

You are still saying that they are wrong?

I thought we had agreed there were differences between Primary, particularly Early Years, and Secondary.

Well I'm glad you don't work in my child's school! Teachers at my kids school hug, high five etc, I wouldn't want my child in a school where the teachers 'back away'

I am not a teacher.
Plenty of people, other than teachers, work in schools. Obviously you know this, from working in a school.

not sure what kind of prison you work in @Booneymilbut there is absolutely no blanket law or policy regarding hugging or high fiving. Schools may enforce their own but ultimately majority of primary schools recognise that students will need comfort or a gentle approach and hugging is very normal! 4 year olds asking for a cuddle is fine, and teachers are allowed to do that! Some might choose to do a one armed round the shoulders hug. My daughter spent circle time on her teachers lap as she wanted that comfort, and teacher was fine with it.

Seems way out of proportion to me. He tapped someone on their head to get their attention, he didn't smack or hit. Yes, you don't touch a kid, but he hardly abused them. I used to parent help on trips and 'someone' lost a kid in a London museum - obviously the kid showed up but I don't think the parent was reprimanded (and she was a parent who'd go ballistic if someone lost her child). To me that's much worse than a tap on the head, but I'm not a teacher, so...

Schools have just started back. Or are u in another country

If it was my child and they were being annoying in that way, I would expect her to be told off. I wouldn't expect the adult to be remonstrated with - he's learnt his lesson

But then I'm old fashioned

Then I have no advice but I am sorry that we live in a world where this is an issue for you and for your husband. Complete non issue and I personally dont think he did anything wrong. Im a mother of 2 school aged children and have been on many a school trip, I would not think twice about tapping a child to get their attention, especially if I didn't know their name.

I am in the camp that thinks things will be fine and your husband will just get a telling off - it for clarity, was the child looking at your husband when he tapped her on the head?

YABU to have put something like this online in the first place.

Speaking as a former teacher, there's no way they'll have your husband back as a parent helper. They would probably prefer to cancel a trip completely if they don't get enough adults, rather than ask him back.

I dont know why you are coming at me, like its my personal choice. I have no choice in the matter. I have to do what i am told to do or else i get fired.

however, I also personally agree that it is not good for an adult to touch children. It can scare them. I am mindful of how children feel

Yes we did.

I think the chances of him ever volunteering again are zero.

I don't think that poster is a teacher, must be the Safeguarding Lead for an academy or something.

(or not 😂)

Yes he was silly to have tapped her on the head

he should have got up and spoken to a teacher

but hindsight is a wonderful thing

hope chat goes well

I’m sure the head will chat and say not appropriate behaviour but can’t imagine police will be called