Husband touched a kid to reprimand them on school trip

[ToddlerIs2]

Husband went on school ltrip with yr 6 dc as our DC"s 121 so only responsible for him. Yr 4 girl in front was being annoying all journey. Husband asked her to stop several times. He dozed off and she banged the seats again (so banding onto her knee) and he lent over and tapped her on the head and told her to stop. Off the coach the teacher spoke to him and he said sorry, didn't think etc. now head wants to see him. What's the likely consequences? We have a lot going on and I'm not holding it all together very well so at home so don't know how irrational I am. He's never smacked out kids so I know it won't have been a smack to the head etc and it was only when she got off she told the teacher. I'm absolutely fuming because how did he forget to never touch someone else's child? And obviously there's an angry parent there that there's a grown man who's touched their daughter so school will probably have to make an example of him. Any ideas what's likely to happen?

It would depend on the circumstances, I certainly wouldn't call the police if that's all it was.

As i have already written,
If you bother reading,

nurseries OBVIOUSLY have different rules to schools.

They have completely different safeguarding guidelines.

How utterly miserable. Won't they even clean a child up if they've fallen down and scraped a kne? How about when they have an EHCP that provides for them to have hands-on help of various kinds?

When my children were little, the teachers/TAs would regularly hug an upset child or have them on their laps at story time or whatever. The concept of standing back and leaving a distressed child to cry seems abhorrent.

Some of the replies on here are ridiculous and just highlight why so many kids cant behave and the woke society were are developing. The child was misbehaving they had been told to stop they didn't. They were tapped on the head. This is a non issue. If it were my child that had misbehaved they would be made to apologise to your DH and I would thank you for providing an appropriate response to correct their behaviour. He didnt smack them round the head for goodness sake it was a tap on the head. As for being banned on future trips total over reaction. Sounds like more parents like him are needed. Imagine if the child's behaviour had caused an accident what would you all say then?

Was the child screaming to be a shit or screaming because they were a baby and upset? Did they have an adult with them?

Screaming to be a shit and no adult around managing their behaviour, absolutely tap them on the head and advise them to amend their behaviour

Screaming because they’re upset and there’s no adult around, nurture and support them and if that involves hand holding, stroking an arm or cuddling (with their permission), so be it.

You’ve done a course, we get it, you know the policies, fine. Real life and human development don’t always fit the course outline.

I agree with the poster calling nonsense on your post, or at least it's simply not true in all schools

SCHOOL Nursery in a SCHOOL.

So why does something deemed utterly safe in nurseries suddenly become unsafe a week later when the child goes to school?

The child was being an annoyance to everyone around them. I still would never dream of touching the child

How can you fall asleep on a school trip?!

Because the young child in nursery has to be helped physically.

There is a legitmate reason to touch the child. Helping with feeding, changing nappies etc

I wouldn't like to be told by a man to go to the loo before the bus is due to start, or to remember my water bottle,

so I am not quite sure what your point is and how it's in any way relevant?

Neither me or my children would deliberately annoy someone that much in the first place

It still has different guidelines!

desperation? 😂

FFS.

GlastoNinja, why on earth are you bringing capital punishment into this? No one has suggested anyone should be put to death.

No one likes to be touched by a stranger. If you would not like it, do not do it to a child

🤣my mistake! I’m multi tasking is my excuse

I’ve been on lots of school trips.
I’ve had to tell kids off when they’re misbehaving. Including kids right in front of me on the coach. I’ve swapped kids around cause they egg each other on and just better to separate.

I’ve never once touched a child to get their attention. I wouldn’t say there’s anything wrong with this, I’d touch their arm etc if I needed to get their attention and was struggling. A tap on the head is such a weird thing to do. I think it probably was a little slap - tapping on the head to get attention doesn’t even sound like a thing a person would do. Though slapping them is, though obviously wrong. It’s much more plausible. It’s just too weird to tap someone on head.

I’ve seen grandparents on trips and they manage not to fall asleep on the coach despite their old age. It all reflects very badly on him. It looks like in his very entitled manner he fell asleep, then woke with a start and slapped a girl on the head for being naughty / mucking around. It’s certainly the most plausible scenario.

I doubt they’ll ban you , but I expect he won’t be permitted on school trips or allowed on school grounds.

But is the range of views/expectations that means an adult is foolish to make any contact with someone elses child, you only need one crazy parent and a compliant sucks up time. You can't just brush it away as the view of crazy parent. This is why I would never volunteer my time to help other peoples children. I only interact with the children of my trusted friends or when the parents are there. There are too many crazy people out there.

@booneymil you are wrong, there are several reasons you can physically make contact with a child in a school. However, as the OP already knows, a child being annoying is not one of them.

OP - I really think he will just be spoken to and told he can no longer chaperone. I very, very much doubt the police or anyone else will get involved. It will be embarrassing for you at the school gates though.

I agree with this 100%. If my child needed to be tapped on the head due to misbehaving, I'd be annoyed with my child. Nothing wrong with discipline.

Fucking hell, I've just been trying to help constructively and I was supportive and reassuring previously about the actual real-life impact on your family.

But I'll back off if you're going to be defensive. And I'll delete my posts as clearly you don't need them or the suggestions that I thought might be genuinely helpful in resolving with minimal impact on your family.

Sorry

Provided it was just a tap and not a wallop on the head, I'd be shaking your husband's hand for actually giving the little shit short sharp shock.
She had been asked to stop several times. Why did she think she was above adult instructions?