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GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

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cowslick · 14/09/2025 22:58

Dontsayyouloveme · 14/09/2025 22:19

I wish I had never been born.

Me too

KaleQueen · 14/09/2025 22:59

ShouldHaveSleptWithHim · 14/09/2025 21:29

Name change just for this thread....

I should have had an affair with my married co-worker when I had the chance. Instead we stared at each other too long and I didn't dare make the move I know he wanted me to.

It would have been a one off. I still regret it. I miss him.

Be glad you didn’t. That would have been awful. He was married.

Dontjudgeme101 · 14/09/2025 22:59

Samas · 14/09/2025 20:59

I genuinely wish I could runaway from DH and DC and live by myself for a few months

I can relate to that. I am so sorry that you feel the same way too. 💐💐💐

GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 22:59

ThreeLocusts · 14/09/2025 22:50

You made me laugh g+s. Don't we all.

I've been meaning to look that video up for days, will now finally do so.

It is strangely mesmerising and not really upsetting because he didn’t know anything about what happened to him.

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RogueFemale · 14/09/2025 23:01

GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

I didn't either, but I readily admit it.

Boofoof · 14/09/2025 23:02

I get so so jealous of people who can make their brain quiet or restful. Mine is always so noisy sometimes I just want to scream.

FinneganFois · 14/09/2025 23:03

NoisyBiscuit · 14/09/2025 21:56

I broke up with one of the best people on the planet today. He has moved out.

I'm sorry, are you going to keep in touch? Hope life improves for you Flowers

LayeredlikeanOnion · 14/09/2025 23:03

Threelionsandalioness · 14/09/2025 22:30

I am absolutely bloody exhausted I have had my son's best friend placed with me due to abuse at home ....they have been friends for 10 years and he has had the courage to speak out now and I can't let him down
But I am financially emotionally physically and mentally fucking drained.
The social worker came here for about 30 mins deemed my home safe and he is happy so that's about it ....the police came once to talk about his injuries and that's literally it !
I have had to change my whole upstairs around we've all changed rooms had to buy a new bed and new clothes new TV too ...im so happy to do this and glad I have done it but fuck me I didn't actually realise how much it would drain me.

Do you get any more money from anyone? What about child benefit..?

GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 23:04

Boofoof · 14/09/2025 23:02

I get so so jealous of people who can make their brain quiet or restful. Mine is always so noisy sometimes I just want to scream.

God, I know what you mean. I sometimes scream when I’m driving as I can let go without anyone hearing. Give that a try 😀

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Dontsayyouloveme · 14/09/2025 23:04

GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 22:40

I’m female. I’ve had decades of psychiatric help including sectioning but I’ve never told a soul about what my sister did to me.

This must be devastating for you.. I’m so so sorry this happened to you…. 💔💔

Ariela · 14/09/2025 23:05

Terracottafarmers · 14/09/2025 21:37

I still think of my ex from 10 years ago. Never got over the heartbreak.

My friend met and later married her ex after 17 years - so there is still hope perhaps?

Dontsayyouloveme · 14/09/2025 23:06

Boofoof · 14/09/2025 23:02

I get so so jealous of people who can make their brain quiet or restful. Mine is always so noisy sometimes I just want to scream.

I’d love to take mine out even for just 10 mins of nothing..

InOverMyHead84 · 14/09/2025 23:07

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leadedwindows · 14/09/2025 23:07

I have THE best cat in the whole world.

Dontsayyouloveme · 14/09/2025 23:07

cowslick · 14/09/2025 22:58

Me too

I’m so sorry… it’s crap isn’t it? 😞

Sixpence39 · 14/09/2025 23:08

Dontbeme · 14/09/2025 22:24

I was adopted into a family where I was SA by my adoptive mother and brother. I have Cptsd as a result and have built a little stockpile for when I have enough of struggling in this life and will just be done. The rage I feel towards my adoptive family and birth parents is almost all consuming. I have never had a genuinely loving close relationship or even friendship because of the abuse. I keep trying therapy and after three years of weekly trauma therapy I am still that broken child on the inside. I truly believe I was adopted as the family wanted access to a little girl.

I am absolutely heartbroken for you! This should never have happened to you, i can fully understand why you feel consumed by rage - people can be so evil! You deserve all of the love, happiness and safety in the world and I truly believe you can find it, with the right support. Better days ahead.

Strawbaler · 14/09/2025 23:08

Samas · 14/09/2025 20:59

I genuinely wish I could runaway from DH and DC and live by myself for a few months

Hello, I’ve been struggling with this for a year or more, then went on HRT in June. I had been verging on suicidal.

In 3 months it’s made a difference. I can love again, and don’t get so many intrusive thoughts.

I used a private GP service called Myla health. It’s possibly saved my life

Pessismistic · 14/09/2025 23:09

Paprik · 14/09/2025 22:38

I was groomed as a young teen, just after my beloved dad died. My mum knew and went on to become 'friends' with the man who did it. She then left to live abroad with my little brother, and didn't ask me to go with them. I was just 17.

Those years fucked up so, so much for me. It's taken decades to understand the depth of harm it all did.

No matter what she says now, I will never, ever understand how she could just ditch me like that. I was a nice kid and never any trouble at all. She just didn't want me in her new life.

My friends think my mum is lovely. I'm too ashamed to tell anyone any of this.

I’m sorry to hear that your mum is heartless. I hope you can try therapy it might help I’m surprised you are still in contact with her tbh she’s not much of a mum we are meant to protect our kids from this not accept it. You are bound to be fucked up I cannot understand why you were not moved with her. It’s usually the way friends thinking she’s lovely I bet you would love to enlighten them. You are not to blame your groomer is and your mum too. I really hope you get some help no one is going to judge you. How old are you now?

Whoopsmahoot · 14/09/2025 23:09

I wish my parents were dead so I didn’t have to deal with elderly crap anymore. But feel incredibly guilty admitting it. Tired of the extra mental load.

Soonenough · 14/09/2025 23:09

I married the wrong person . I am disappointed in my adult children. My siblings are crap . I wish he would die soon . And I fantasised about a man I saw today.

HopefulBeliever · 14/09/2025 23:09
  1. i feel trapped in my life and lonely, though outwardly it looks like im successful, don’t feel like there is anyone I can discuss this with
  2. there is someone I fancy that has happened unexpectedly but I know nothing will come of it as I have no self esteem and find it so hard to talk to people I don’t know well
GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 23:10

leadedwindows · 14/09/2025 23:07

I have THE best cat in the whole world.

I have THE best dog in the world. She’s totally bonkers but she just loves life and brings us so much joy

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MsGiGi · 14/09/2025 23:10

I’m in love with my best friend. She told me she fell in love with me years ago, but that ship has long sailed. I wish I told her how I felt at the time. She’s married now.

Loudhousefun · 14/09/2025 23:10

Im in love with someone who I can never be with and it is like torture.

Strawbaler · 14/09/2025 23:11

takealettermsjones · 14/09/2025 21:27

I lie to taxi drivers! I don't even know why. I don't venture anything voluntarily, but if they ask me questions - just about anything, like where have you been out tonight or whatever - I make shit up. 🤣

Love this!! 🤣

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