to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

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I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

I sympathise. If my DH dies before me, one consolation will be that I won’t have to see his twatty relatives again.

😂 I used to know someone who was petrified of dwarves.

I found out through 23andMe that I have 2 copies of the Apoe4 gene which makes Alzheimer's disease extremely likely. I don't think I will be sharing that info with anyone, least of all my siblings. Both my grandmothers as well as my mother had various forms of dementia. It's terrifying.

Magnesium plays a role in relaxing muscles, which is why it helps people have better quality sleep, as well as reducing muscle cramps (if that's what was causing your foot pain?)

Me too

😂😂 I’m another one.

I wonder if the drivers know as it might be quite common. They probably do.

I could have written your posts Raffia. For me, it felt as destabilising as friends talked of feeling after finding out partners had cheated. The world turned upside down.

I did tell people at the time but nobody really understood how awful it was so the help and support offered to friends with cheating husbands wasn't there. It changed how I felt about him completely. I'd thought, and spoken, of him being my soulmate. But the fact that he almost let me die and never apologised nearly finished me. How could he even like me, let alone love me, and behave like that?

He's said that he has apologised, but he hasn't, which is even more infuriating. I think he truly believes he has though. Other people were crap at the time as well. It's really shifted my sense of the world. I feel I only really have me to depend on. I'd always thought I'd have family, friends and medical professionals to turn to in a situation like that but it turns out no one cared. Everyone just expected me to get over it and move on, even a therapist I paid to see.

We're still together and glossing over it for DC's sake. It resurfaces spontaneously for me though. I've just had a nasty viral infection and I'm back with a reel of what happened playing through my head, feeling how stressed I was about who would be looking after my child if I'd died. Sounds dramatic, and I'm really not. It has caused me unnecessary trauma because of how he reacted and how completely out of character it seemed. And how it's never been resolved.

Although I wouldn't wish this on anyone, seeing your post has made me feel understood, thank you. I hope you find some way of dealing with it.

Everyone thinks my mother is a literal saint! Only myself and my DC know how she really is behind closed doors.
Shes spiteful, childish and quite mean. She loves a bit of emotional blackmail. She'll goes to church and sits front and centre like a little angel. I often want to let everyone know what shes really like!
Can't wait till I can cut all ties.
She is emotionally draining.

😂😂This is one reason I only swim in the ocean or ocean pools.

I am ignorant about current affairs, I used to follow them closely but now I am out of touch and just nod along. I feel defeated and powerless in the face of all the problems. I know it’s important but I just feel disconnected from society in a way. I didn’t vote.

There is no hell. Unless it’s a hell on earth - I think there’s a lot of that.

i do understand though. Rationally I know there’s no hell but deep down there’s a kernel of fear about hell that was placed there by the church. In Sunday school. When I was 7 years old. Who does that to a child? It’s cruel. It is used as a form of control.

I think places where bad things happen tend to have more spirits , why I don’t know . My own guessing because some are to attached to their hearty living , Others seem to just be visiting or observing loved ones .

Yes if it’s a full vision I can tell from what time they come from and at times gets they did as in profession . Most of the peaceful reasons I think are protecting or looking over loved ones . As for the negative ones I think both , some seem attached to their persona and I do belive that’s how they where , the worst ones are just plain bad , I’m not sure if they where simply bad people or if after we die there is another hierarchy of bad or good or something less human . But I would assume they heed bad in live too

I used to see a lot more as a child myself in part it toned down as I grew up but I still see and feel a lot . Part of me wishes I could meet someone who would somehow teaches me how to accept and control it more if possible , other part is just scared .

I think my lovely, kind, helpful in-laws are some of the most boring people I have met, and I resent having to go to holidays and such with them instead of with my own raucous and argumentative family.

It really bothers me that my husband has become fat and I find it really a turn off.

I could have written this post.

Everything I thought I had, I do not have. It's life changing.

I agree.

@Crazyworldmum I think you should try and go to your local spiritualist church, they would help you and give you support and guidance. A lot of other practicing mediums go there for support and guidance - I know you may not want to get into that but the people at the church can still help and guide you with any concerns or questions with what you're experiencing so that you don't feel alone x

Sometimes I fantasise about my life before having a baby. You know, rolling out of bed at 10am, slow breakfast, reading on the sofa all day then tea out with my husband, sex on the living room floor and asleep by 11pm. I love my little one and wouldn’t have it any other way but I miss my life from before and feel guilty for thinking about it all the time.

I absolutely bullshitted my way into a fairly high-level responsible job, had no idea what I was doing for at least six months, and just faked it till I did.

I've been promoted.

If I may, we are not here to make our parents happy. Your life is not supposed to be used to fulfill their lives. That's their responsibility, not yours. I wish you all the best from moving forward and out of what sounds like a co-dependent relationship with them. And I hope you are or can look into therapy

I daydream of leading a coup that razes Holyrood to the ground.

It is an ugly building with a higher than average number of incompetent, wicked and/or perverted people inside.

I’d like to watch it burn.

I find two unpopular things very attractive.

1. Women who smoke …. the aesthetic, the addiction, everything about it is incredibly attractive
2. women who are very over weight with curves and big bellies

My ex-DH is not the biological father of my children and I wonder daily whether to cut him out of their lives

No illicit affair, he was medically infertile so we used donor sperm. But he screwed me over (ironically) and left when they were babies after a long line of affairs.

Since then he’s played the role of shoddy Disney Dad, leaving all the hard work of parenting to me, sees them every other weekend and constantly puts me over a barrel with things like child maintenance and flexibility around seeing them.

As they’re getting older I’m starting to see the impact of him in their lives (hes not abusive or anything) but their routines get completely shot every fortnight and I think they find it confusing having no contact with him between visits. It’s never been out rightly said but I believe his family view the children differently to their other grandchildren because they don’t share their blood and it breaks my heart thinking the children may one day pick up on this. So I am considering cutting contact now while they’re young, going to court and having his name removed from the birth certificates

God doesn't want any of us to perish.

Well I guess he shouldn't have invented Hell, then.

(Can't resist pointing out the ridiculousness of this post).