to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

Thank you x

You should also be asking about financial support as a 'connected carer' from your social worker. If it wasn't for you then he would be in foster care and the Local Authority would be paying them fostering allowances. As a social worker came to your home and agreed he could stay with you then essentially he has been placed 'in care' and is now a Looked After child. You are doing a wonderful thing for this boy.

I don’t like any of my partners close family. His father is a total arse (my partners knows this himself but still loves him as his dad) who was an abusive alcoholic for years. His mother has a good heart deep down but I find her cold, dreary and vaguely hostile. His elder sister is very successful but smug and arrogant with it. I have so little in common with her that it’s hard to even hold a polite conversation. His younger sister is a loser who has never worked a day in her life and spends all of her time hauled up in her bedroom at her parents house playing video games and smoking weed (she is 29). I get the impression they don’t like me much either but we all pretend this is not the case for the sake of politeness. I find the facade exhausting when we have to be around each other.

Er, ok. Well done you?

I am glad it worked out! Sounds like she was a proper "pick me" and didnt like that he had picked you. Trying to sabotage your wedding ffs!

This has been an enlightening, reassuring, sad at times, and entertaining at other times, thread.

For each secret revealed I bet there will be 2 more (at least) that people feel they can’t share because it’s too taboo.

Thank you.

Mind you it could reasonably be argued that since I'd done what I did he probably shouldn't have married me. But since she knew nothing about that, yes it was just spite on her part.

Thank you for believing . It actually helps to tell this to people even if strangers .
. I don’t know if relatives help , I believe they do but I’m not in sync enough to actually know . I rarely saw relatives to be honest, as a child I constantly saw what I later found out was my paternal grandfather and his brother ( he passed when my mum was 9 ) , I often feel my grandmother but she never materialised to me and in a way I’m thankful as she is so important to me I think I would really struggle with seeing her , I’ve ignore constant warnings from her a few years ago . I spend all day with her telling me to stop for a while . I’ve heard it lied and clear all day “ stop for a while “ and I ignored it all day until I heard a “ you need to stop now “ I ignored again and a minute after a car T boned my car at a junction “ it almost me and the kids . I still don’t know how we left with just bruises and cuts as the car was totally destroyed .
Since then I’ve been trying to listen more but I’m just not in sinc enough

Deaf people scare me.

I think it would have been noticed by now , I’ve had quite a few brain related tests a few years ago after a unrelated accident caused a bad concussion EEG’s , ct and mri scans for a long period of time etc .

@Crazyworldmum you're welcome. When I was a child I saw and had a lot of strange things happen, but it's all died down now. I just occasionally get very weird coincidences happen. I personally am very spiritual and do believe, I know how you feel about getting called mad for it. I could listen to your experiences all day personally. I'm glad you and your kids ended up okay

I regularly visit df grave talk to him tell him about my dc achievements ask for his support hope he’s proud of us due to now being nc with dsis and kind of nc with dm he is the only one that hasn’t turned against me due to dsis lies and manipulation crazy thing is he passed away when I was 18 months old so I don’t even remember him but it gives me comfort during a difficult time

I love my dog and cats more than any human, happy to spend the rest of my life in jail if anyone was to intentionally do anything bad to them

Im bi.
I haven't told anyone because its taken me a long while to realise & I don't believe in this day & age anyone should have to "come out". That does means that everyone thinks I'm straight though so I'm trying to feel my way to letting people know without a whole coming out thing

I've lived with suicide ideation most of my life.

I want to meet someone & fall in love again but I don't feel good enough...I don't see myself as an attractive or worthy option and feel too insecure to date.

@Crazyworldmum do you have any sense of why some places seem to have more spirits than others? Or why they're still here?

I second this. Any good destinations in mind?

I have been celibate for close to ten years... I've never told anyone of my decision because it's no one's business but mine.

I actually like Trump, think he has good ( if misplaced ) intentions and find him entertaining….is that taboo enough😂

Try to stop.
Long term use has been linked to stomach ulcers. And also tinnitus, which is horrible.

Name changed for this.

My husband has cancer and there is a high chance of him dying from it. I’m his carer. I’m only staying to care for him because I don’t want any of my adult children to have to do it.

He’s getting much much more than he deserves from me. Seriously. He’s a cruel man. Always has been. Cancer hasn’t made him any nicer towards me, that’s for sure.

I cannot wait for my mother to die. She’s only in her 70s and in good health so could be a long while. I don’t like her. I don’t think she loves anyone or capable of it. She has a sharp tongue. Often says cruel things and proclaim innocence (oh I was only joking) when challenged. I really dislike her. Feels good to admit that

Me, too. And I think it’s such a good strategy for dealing with life’s problems and challenges.

I wish my lovely dad had a fatal heart attack on his journey from hospice to where he is now. He's absolutely had enough and doesn't want to be here any more. It's so hard

This thread is so reassuring. It shows us that we are not alone when we have crazy or ‘bad’ thoughts and feelings.

Your account of your experience is really interesting – lots of questions, if you can bear it:

Can you tell from their hair/clothing which decade/era they came from in life, or is the way they look neutral?

You say that, for some, you feel their intentions are peaceful and you know why they're there – what would those reasons be?

The ones who you feel deliberately want to upset or disturb you – why do they want to do this? Do you think it's a reflection of the kind of people they were in life, or more to do with how they're experiencing the after life (for want of a better term)?