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GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

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GarlicPint · 15/09/2025 22:41

Crazyworldmum · 15/09/2025 13:55

Fair enough . I came from the opposite a family that doesn’t really believe much .
I also do not speak about it with anyone around me , ever , that includes my children and closest family members . The only one that knows part of it is my husband and that’s because on occasion I get very nervous and he notices and I have fainted a couple of times by forcing myself in situations I shouldn’t .
I’m not one to influence my stuff or beliefs including religion etc on others , specifically children as they are highly influential. As I’m not a religious person at all myself I think it’s important to let others decide what they believe from their own experience .

I understand that you don't feel these psychic experiences are causing you any harm, and that this is a significant part of your inner life. You may not be interested in exploring 'causes' or explanations, and that's your right.
If you were at all interested, you might want to look into focal aware seizures, a type of epilepsy.

MirrorMirror1247 · 15/09/2025 22:42

I haven't told anyone is RL this, but when I was OLD I saw the husband of a woman I used to work with. They'd been together for at least 15 years at that point and have two daughters. I seriously thought about messaging her to let her know, but I bottled it, I didn't want to potentially throw a hand grenade in their lives. This was a few years ago. They've now passed their 20th anniversary. I've no idea if he's still on the apps.

battgirlatheart · 15/09/2025 22:44

Youreshitimnot · 14/09/2025 20:57

So sorry to read all the shit some people are going through.
Mine is more frivolous. Ish.

I despise my Dad's wife.
I know that's ridiculous when I'm 55 and they've been together 50 years. I imagine myself at her funeral standing there and not shedding a single tear just so other people can see that I hate her.

Edited for typo

Edited

Oh I’m the same. My evil stepmonster is a horrible human. I’m going to go and plan on putting a speaker somewhere and playing hey honthe witch is dead.
the horrible things she has done to me and my children…she deserves it!!

Calmomiletea · 15/09/2025 22:45

Fetchthevet · 14/09/2025 20:46

I worry about going to Hell

Why not get right with God, then you won't have to fear it?

'For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.' John 3:16

'For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord, shall be saved' Romans 10:9

'But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: Which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.' John 1:12

'...him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.' John 6:37

There are four promises from God who cannot lie, and Scripture has many more.

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 22:45

Blarn · 14/09/2025 21:10

I wish my mother was proud of me.

I always wanted that too but she died yesterday so it's too late now.

Roxy75 · 15/09/2025 22:47

I’m hopelessly in love with my situationship person and I pretend to be all carefree and cool

GooseAndSandals · 15/09/2025 22:49

Roxy75 · 15/09/2025 22:47

I’m hopelessly in love with my situationship person and I pretend to be all carefree and cool

Maybe he feels the same? I hope so.

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Roxy75 · 15/09/2025 22:51

Gooseandsandals
Too scared to ask and burst my bubble

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 22:52

I had sex with my ex husband while my 2nd husband was having his stag night because I was pissed off that he had invited along a female friend he had been obsessed with for 15 years.

MyDogIsAKnobhead · 15/09/2025 22:55

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 22:52

I had sex with my ex husband while my 2nd husband was having his stag night because I was pissed off that he had invited along a female friend he had been obsessed with for 15 years.

Whoaaaa!! Lol

flossymuldoon · 15/09/2025 23:03

JenXWarrior · 15/09/2025 19:19

Somehow I ended up working in IT.

To this day, I still don't really understand what that job was all about. It was such a niche job I couldn't explain it in terms that would make sense to anyone, not even me 😁

Yeah, I somehow ended up working in IT. Not niche really, but I know sod all about computers so surprise myself everyday when I appear to know what the hell i’m talking about 😂

Thegreyhound · 15/09/2025 23:05

Fetchthevet · 14/09/2025 20:46

I worry about going to Hell

This seems like a waste of head space. You might as well worry about the sea turning into pink blancmange or Keir Starmer growing a personality.

Thegreyhound · 15/09/2025 23:06

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 22:52

I had sex with my ex husband while my 2nd husband was having his stag night because I was pissed off that he had invited along a female friend he had been obsessed with for 15 years.

That seems like a very extreme way to get your retaliation in first

MorrisseysMisery · 15/09/2025 23:06

My face is disfigured. I had to have a huge craniotomy twice 4 years ago and to save my life from sepsis had to have part of my jaw and cheek debrided and removed.
People look sympathetically at me.
I do not care in the absolute slightest.

I spent 4 months in a specialist neurology unit.

I'm currently in hospital again due to chronic malnutrition caused by an E coli bug getting into my bloodstream and blocking the absorption of nutrients into my body.

I'm ashamed I have chosen to ignore how ill I've felt for the last 18 months only to end up in hospital yet again.
I desperately need to look after myself better but feel somewhat indifferent about everything.

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/09/2025 23:06

I want my Aunts husband to be one of those people you hear about where no one finds them dead for weeks and the cat has eaten half of their face. Technically he is my uncle but I refuse to refer to him as such.

He is a vile piece of shit. An abusive cheater who knows full well that her whole family loathe him. Almost 60 years ago my Grandparents told her that it would be ok with them if she wanted to cancel the wedding, they would handle everything but she went ahead. That would have been a massive thing in the 60's, far more so than it would be now and the fact that they wanted her to cancel tells you all you need to know She suffered her whole life at his hands. She never knew peace or true happiness with him, she took her happiness with the rest of her family. She was loving and kind and everything she was, he wasnt.

His own DD's (my cousins) only kept in touch because of my Aunt. She passed away last week and his final act of shittiness to her and us was to deny her a Christian funeral. She had a strong faith and it would have meant a lot to her, and to my mother. Her and mum were so close and we cant say goodbye as he has insisted on direct cremation. Oh, he was as tight as a gnats arsehole when it came to Aunt too, so would obviously choose the cheapest option.

It was his final act of revenge against her and us.

But be careful what you wish for. In behaving like this no one will care and much less even notice when he dies, which wont be long given his age and state of health. And the fact that no one will agree to fund the disposal of his body means that the man who thought he was Gods Gift to the world will get a paupers funeral. Couldnt be more deserved.

Oh and yes, he has a cat and a dog so fingers crossed.

GooseAndSandals · 15/09/2025 23:06

Roxy75 · 15/09/2025 22:51

Gooseandsandals
Too scared to ask and burst my bubble

Oh, that’s a shame. I love a good romance 🥰

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Spendysis · 15/09/2025 23:08

Although I love dm dearly I will be relieved when she passes due to a family situation dsis has created it will give me closure
I wish dsis who is also in poor health to pass before dm I hope that one day the truth comes out about what dsis has done

I am not keen on dd boyfriend would never say anything to either of them I have welcomed him into the family been supportive of his mental health but his anxiety lack of motivation to work or do anything go anywhere is starting to get on my nerves and I feel dd is missing out life

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 23:09

Thegreyhound · 15/09/2025 23:06

That seems like a very extreme way to get your retaliation in first

Said female friend then cornered him minutes before our wedding and tried to persuade him not to go ahead with it. Despite all the drama we have now been married, mostly happily for 30 years.

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/09/2025 23:09

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 22:52

I had sex with my ex husband while my 2nd husband was having his stag night because I was pissed off that he had invited along a female friend he had been obsessed with for 15 years.

You cant just leave it there!!

What happened after that? Did the second marriage work out (I am guessing not), did your ex want you back?

ETA....why did you marry a man who was obsessed with another woman for 15 to the point of inviting her on his stag?!

So many questions!

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/09/2025 23:12

@Cailleachnamara

Xpost.

Does your husband know what happened?

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 23:17

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/09/2025 23:09

You cant just leave it there!!

What happened after that? Did the second marriage work out (I am guessing not), did your ex want you back?

ETA....why did you marry a man who was obsessed with another woman for 15 to the point of inviting her on his stag?!

So many questions!

Edited

Yes it worked out we've now been married for 30 years.

I didn't want the ex back, he was a horrible person and he knew I was only shagging him because I was pissed off at the husband to be.

2nd husband said he was over the former obsession and he may have been right as their friendship fizzled out soon after - but not before she cornered him on our wedding day and tried to persuade him to call it off. This because she was a bit peeved he wasn't trotting around forlornly after her any more.

LibbyOTV · 15/09/2025 23:18

NotSureFeelingLost · 14/09/2025 20:42

I genuinely believe there was a mix up when my twin died and it should have been me. Death made an admin error.

I'm so sorry OP. I think this is probably a psychologically normal response in some way. And your sister would have probably felt the same about you if it had been the other way around - because that feeling is probably inevitable and very common. And perhaps also a product of your environment growing up like that with her shadow beside you and in your parents' grief Flowers so sorry for your and your parents' loss and the impact it has had on your life. Have you tried telling them? Do they know you feel this?

But if she was alive now, she would probably want you to be happy and love yourself? Maybe if you picture how genetically close you are, how much of her is in you, it could help you love yourself? I don't know if that helps but I can really imagine feeling this way so I feel for you.

Try imagining you are someone else looking outside in - what would you think/feel about that woman? Flowers

Avonandice · 15/09/2025 23:18

I dont feel emotions. Never had that rush of love when seeing my kids for the first time, didnt feel anything when getting married. Nothing when grandparents died, Films dont make me cry. Remember sitting in assembly when my kids left primary school feeling curious as to why the other parents were sobbing and getting upset during pictures of their time at school. Dont feel much when havent seen people for a while. Husbands been away for a fortnight and he doesnt ring every night and honestly I can take it or leave it if he does ring.

I wonder what it feels like to be emotional. Had the nickname of Data.

Cailleachnamara · 15/09/2025 23:21

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/09/2025 23:12

@Cailleachnamara

Xpost.

Does your husband know what happened?

Yes I told him in a fit of probably misplaced honesty after I'd had a go at him for not being honest about something. It was about 15 years after the event though and he forgave me.

Spendysis · 15/09/2025 23:23

@Cailleachnamarai am sorry for your loss

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