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GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

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Hidingbehindthechaos · 15/09/2025 16:27

Just2 · 15/09/2025 16:24

Does he know you had an affair and that there’s renewed contacted and inappropriate messaging?

I think once you see that you have both checked out of the marriage…. It will liberate you to actually start living

Just to be clear, there has been no inappropriate messaging from me since I ended it the 1st time. I shut it down immediately this time.

LayeredlikeanOnion · 15/09/2025 16:30

MyPurpleHeart · 15/09/2025 09:33

Ive got a mild painkiller addiction.

Every morning i start my day with a coffee and 2 nurofen plus. I never take any more than 2 a day, but I have them every day.

I watch TikToks of people taking 30-40 a day and think oh im not so bad

Can I ask why though? Surely it doesn't give you a buzz? Its Ibruprofen??

CoubousAndTourmaIet · 15/09/2025 16:32

Dogaredabomb · 15/09/2025 15:27

Me too, both my parents and my beloved dog died.

I grieved for my dog desperately and still cry over him. He was a pure angel ♥️ crying again! It's been over three years and the only people I love just a tiny bit more than my dog are my kids.

I too have lost both parents within the last 5 years but grieved more for my dog.
I think because my parents both had dementia, I felt that I had already lost the people that they were.
Our dog died suddenly and traumatically four years ago, at age 7. The grief was just soul destroying. I don't think we will ever really get over it.

KarbyBugger · 15/09/2025 16:32

I fancy a colleague. I won't do anything in real life and it'll peter out but I wish something could happen.

InOverMyHead84 · 15/09/2025 16:32

LayeredlikeanOnion · 15/09/2025 16:30

Can I ask why though? Surely it doesn't give you a buzz? Its Ibruprofen??

Neurofen plus has Codeine in it.

They are quite effective.

KindnessIsKey123 · 15/09/2025 16:35

I love my husband more than my child

OrangeCrushes · 15/09/2025 16:38

Hidingbehindthechaos · 15/09/2025 16:02

The messages I was sent could not be misinterpreted but from experience i know that no one thanks you for telling them the truth. I lost my childhood best friend through something similar and I vowed I would never tell another friend if I knew their partner was being unfaithful. I feel very uncomfortable around my friend now and keep looking for signs that she suspects something.

It's really unfair of the dirt bag partner, isn't it

GooseAndSandals · 15/09/2025 16:41

change4change · 15/09/2025 16:15

I was also sexually abused by a female relative when I was around 11. She was the same age as me and said it was 'what people did'. I often wonder if she was being abused by someone .. to know all she did at such a young age .. she was doing it to at least one of her friends too. We have never spoken about it and never will. I remember being petrified that we had 'made' AIDS and I had AIDS .... I was too young to know/understand how it was passed on and at the time AIDS was all over the newspapers etc.

No one in RL knows any of this

So sorry you have endured that.

I was also too young to understand. I was terrified that I was pregnant. The only thing I knew was that it took 9 months to have a baby so I knew I was ok 9 months after the last time.

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Elviradoople · 15/09/2025 16:42

Catchee · 14/09/2025 23:18

I am 47 years old and still have an imaginary friend. When I'm bored, scared or stressed, out he comes. He's great, the best version of everyone and he thinks I'm great too. I'm aware it's avoidance and escapism, or my way of working out problems. I'm aware he's not real, but he's grown up with me. His name is James.

I love this

Hidingbehindthechaos · 15/09/2025 16:44

OrangeCrushes · 15/09/2025 16:38

It's really unfair of the dirt bag partner, isn't it

It is, I gave him a very quick get out when the first mildly inappropriate message came through but he decided the rem8nder of his lovely GF wasnt enough amd tried to convince me why we should go through with round 2!

I would have been devastated at that stage in a relationship, its the honeymoon phase, supposedly choosing your life partner, what a great start 🙄

LowPressureIsHere · 15/09/2025 16:49

BrickBiscuit · 15/09/2025 00:04

I have one secret I will carry to my grave, and two that will emerge after I die. I cannot admit to their existence IRL.

I have one that I am trying to take to my grave, and have ptsd, and anxiety that it will come out sooner.

Catwalking · 15/09/2025 16:51

MrMucker · 15/09/2025 00:42

There''s a large cardboard box on the floor of my wardrobe and in it I have every single empty Marmite jar that I have ever finished. If it's been a shite day at work I like to count them to remind myself I am 83 (latest count) Marmite jars old, which is a real fucking accomplishment you tossers.

haha, I keep herbs & spices in mine! & I only ever buy the largest size 1’s
you aren’t alone 😆

MyPurpleHeart · 15/09/2025 16:54

LayeredlikeanOnion · 15/09/2025 16:30

Can I ask why though? Surely it doesn't give you a buzz? Its Ibruprofen??

No I don't get high at all. Its like some weird morning ritual that I have and if i dont do it I dont feel right.

Bloody ridiculous I know. Ive never told anyone because the GP would laugh me out of the surgery and say come back when you've got real problems!

Manzana · 15/09/2025 17:03

@YourLemonTiger I empathise with you, my youngest son also has a serious mental illness, that has impacted his life very badly, and I worry about his future and what will happen to him, but cant really talk to anyone about my fears, and just carry on as best as I can and pretend I am coping

Oldglasses · 15/09/2025 17:04

I hope the person who wrecked my DS's mental health is having a really shitty life with no friends or prospects (better than wishing death on him as I would rather he suffer a tortured existence).

ForNoisyCat · 15/09/2025 17:08

Dogaredabomb · 15/09/2025 15:32

I say breezily 'me? Oh I've been happily divorced for hundreds of years'. Divorce is a magical thing.

after divorce I can now say im now living my happy ever after

ForNoisyCat · 15/09/2025 17:10

Catwalking · 15/09/2025 16:51

haha, I keep herbs & spices in mine! & I only ever buy the largest size 1’s
you aren’t alone 😆

My DC kept empty cans of monster. About 100 of them! Had to chuck them when we moved.

JenXWarrior · 15/09/2025 17:11

neveradmit17 · 15/09/2025 09:22

I see your Jeremy Clarkson @UndoRedo and I raise you Boris Johnson

Oh Boris turned up on one of those threads about weird crushes a while ago. He was quite a popular one. No one could quite put their finger on it but he seemed to have something about him that was appealing. So don't feel too bad, you're not alone with this one 😁

LayeredlikeanOnion · 15/09/2025 17:13

Justanotherthrowawayyy · 15/09/2025 13:20

I've got two very weird fetishes. Perfectly legal but very weird and I can never and will never share them with anyone irl as I know I'd be judged for them.

You can share with us! We won't judge you x

JenXWarrior · 15/09/2025 17:16

squidsin · 15/09/2025 09:39

I often think 'what's the point of anything' and worry there will seem no point to living once my kids leave home.

There is a point to living. You're still their Mum (or Dad) and they will always need you. Please stay as many days as you can.

I left home 30yrs ago and there will never be a time when I'm ready for my parents to leave even though I know that day will come xx

Gotback · 15/09/2025 17:17

There is dementia in both sides of my family. My grandmother, aunt, mother and older cousins have all died of or with dementia. I know I've very probably got it coming and the thing that worries me most about it is that I'll unknowingly tell my husband the truth, that I never fancied him & only married him because I was floundering with depression and he was a life raft.

Allthatshines1992 · 15/09/2025 17:24

chillidoritto · 14/09/2025 20:44

Oral sex disgusts me - giving and receiving

I never do fellatio and never will. I feel it is degrading and misogynistic. Please don't do anything you're not comfortable with, any decent person would and should take your preferences on board

Hoppinggreen · 15/09/2025 17:28

Dontlletmedownbruce · 15/09/2025 16:23

What triggered you to get a diagnosis? If you don't mind sharing?

My friend who works in the area suggested it as she felt I had it, My GP agreed and then referrred me to a Private Psych who gave me a diagnosis
I was just curious to be honest, I'm fine and just see it is a type of Neuro Diversity.
I just have to be careful to curb my honesty at times so as not to horrify people

miserableandworried · 15/09/2025 17:29

I only stay in touch with my dad because he has money that might come to me when he dies. I hate him.

Allthatshines1992 · 15/09/2025 17:33

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