to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

sometimes people need a little push to do the right thing but there was no judgment in my post. I have seen first hand the damage it can do both to the partners and to the innocent child. My friend is now alone and completely desperate and none of her 3 kids talk to her (even though only one of the kids is not from her now ex husband). I hope in time they will forgive her. So it might have been unsolicited advice but only because I believe people should live in the light but I wasn’t judging. You must take what you want from this thread and kindly so will I.

I don’t really see the point of sticking around just to get older and more decrepit - but I can never take action to end my life because I love my DC and I can’t hurt them that much (well, at all!). So I trudge on.

My mother called me fat all the time.
Too fat to do this, too fat to wear that.
When I was 50 went on no carb, and lost 26kg in 9 months.
Not one word of encouragement, no acknowledgement.
Until one day she gave me a top, ridiculously small size 8.
I was very comfortable and proud of my new size 16 until then.

I am hopelessly in love with a former colleague and he feels the same. We are great friends and regularly indulge in sexting and explicit pictures. He appears in my dreams nightly and most of them are sexual. Unfortunately I am married to the wrong man who is ruining my life and my former colleague doesnt want to take things further at the moment to protect me and to preserve our friendship if things went wrong. We have come close to DTD more than once and only just stopped ourselves. We are magnetic to each other. It’s killing me not being able to have him completely to myself and build that life we both want.

@BrickBiscuit yes, it's not something that just crops up on conversation!!

In my case, I was groomed by an older man who paid me to have sex with other men, or sometimes just forced me. I never, ever thought I would tell anyone. Not then, not now. I sought therapy for unrelated issues (my relationship with alcohol, my marriage) and slowly I have felt able to talk about other things. I might build up to this one, but the idea of saying it aloud is terrifying.

I have a gigantic long standing crush on a work colleague and I have never told a soul except for mumsnet. I'm absolutely mad about her.

Of course - sorry if I offended you.

You didn’t offend me as I’m sued to that reaction from people but out of curiosity what do you think I see exactly ? Bearing in mind this happens since I can remeber .

Genuine question - how do you know they are spirits and not just people? Is there a feeling you get, or do they just look different?

I dislike most people, much prefer animals to people.

Thank you. Yes we are in still in touch re logistics but the rest of the time I’m staring out of the window thinking wtf

They have people forms but are different they also vanish on thin air and walk through things including actual people . It’s obvious they are not people , even as young as 3 I knew they were not real people . I’m now in my 40s

I hate my MIL and always will
I don’t enjoy giving head
I think about my ex of 17 years ago even though I have no feelings for him very regularly

I feel sick every time I see my own photo. I absolutely hate my appearance. I’ve not had sex for years because I find myself so repulsive that I can’t bring myself to do something that in my mind only good looking people should enjoy.

Is it? Has anyone been?

I thought it was just a human thought concept, like the rest of religion.

@PiriPiriMenopause I feel the same. I LOATHE photos of me and feel sad I have to filter them. I think I look uglier in photos than I do in RL (and think is THAT how people see me ??!!) but I am still fairly FUGLY.

@Dontitalwaysseemtogo likewise, I still think of an ex from 22 years ago. I don't want him, I just LOVED the fun carefree times we had. No responsibility, no accountability to anyone. I was slim and attracted men all the time.

😂

I did that because I didn't want to upset my children's life BIG BIG mistake!

I don't like my DP's best friend.

My best friends mum, who died last year, made her death so much more traumatic and harrowing for her than it needed to be.

Approximately 70% of the reasons I stay in my marriage are financial.

About 25% of the rest of the reasons are to do with care of our disabled child.

I don’t know what you see. And if I’m honest I do t really want to engage because I don’t want to upset you and I know you won’t convince me otherwise. I see myself as a highly logical person that doesn’t believe in the supernatural. And think just because I can explain it it doesn’t mean there isn’t what I would consider a logical explanation. I also grew up with a grandmother and aunt that believed and regularly saw spirits and without going into much detail that really lead to some weird outcomes that were only rationalised by myself and siblings and cousins once we were adults. But that’s me. Nothing to do with what your experiences are.

He WAS your Dad
Biologically or not xx

I was exactly the same about the weight.

Can you do weight loss jabs?

I was so so afraid of them but they have changed my life. Am nearing 4 stone loss since may 🥲 it stops the good noise. I could just not stop eating. I still have a long way to go but wow! I'm down 2 dress sizes already.

I wish you the best.

Blimey - I get through one a week! I'd need to rent a storage unit!

Glue her commode shut