to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

The revenge I mentioned upthread would involve taking their life. I could not see a way of doing it undetected. The thought of destroying my family and going to prison is what stopped me. I am a compassionate person and happily make sacrifices for others. However, in this case, I would have gone ahead without question. Two wrongs indeed, but of equal measure.

I HATE my stepdad. Been in my life since I was 5, im in my 30’s now. Most days I think of his death. He makes everyone’s life unhappy, controls people, creeps people out and just a general awful person. The thought of him and what it was like growing up fills me with pure hatred! But I have to pretend we get on and see him weekly.

I am jealous of my friend over finances.

My father was extremely abusive and at one point, I was very close with to going into his room while sleeping and ending him with a knife. Sometimes I still fantasise about doing it.

So sorry to read about your poor son, but please, don't be terrified. Cancer treatment has come on a long long way. His doctors and MDT would not be positive for no reason, and while hard, chemo is manageable. I (and others) are proof of this. You need to believe he will come through his illness, and he will.

If you need to talk about your fears, talk to Macmillan, either on the phone or in person if there's a drop-in centre at your hospital. Maggie's is helpful too. As a mother (and primary care giver), there is support for you too.

Sending much love to you all 💕

I know my friend got pregnant on purpose and I severely judge her for it. Nobody gets pregnant three times by accident (the first two ended in miscarriage) all with the same man.

She wanted to get married and he wouldn't marry her so soon. Now she's 7 months pregnant and they got married a few weeks ago. Neither of them have their shit together enough to be decent parents.

I did this, had it planned for years and struck exactly when I knew the time was right. It was as wonderful as I imagined.

I think the whole point of this thread is to get things off your chest, not to be judged or given unsolicited advice.....

I wish my dad could have a sudden death to spare him and me and my mum from the horrors of Alzheimers that is taking him piece by piece.

This makes me sound a bit crazy but a man in my village makes my blood run cold. His wife was a casual friend of mine and some (innocent in her mind) things she told me added up to a really disturbing picture. I have a really good sixth sense (which often takes years to be proven right) and see him as cold, calculating, hateful, arrogant, controlling, entitled, a full psychopath. The type that sexually abuses children, or flips one day and murders his whole family.
Overtly, he is a quiet, respectable, husband and father, "from a good family", coaches kids sports, and I can see it all in a newspaper headline after the event.
There's really nothing I can do. She's oblivious, and besotted with him. And you can't tell people to keep their kids away from someone without damn good proof.

I once thought about reporting my friend for benefit fraud. She wasn't committing benefit fraud, she was just extremely annoying.

What is the revenge though?

@Threelionsandalioness Have you at least asked them to make you aware connected carer to be awared money to help look after him?

Sending hugs as i know how exhausting and emotionally draining it can be.

I pretend to the world that I'm happy, and a lot of the time I am, but it's always undercut by the knowledge that my life will never be as good as it was when DH was alive.

This is so funny!!!! 😆

My hairdresser has been thinking for years that I have a holiday home in Mallorca! I don’t even own a tent!

I dread this happening.

NC

That my best friend is not my best friend. She affectionally refers to me as her ''bestable friend of all the time''. I do enjoy spending time with her but she is not my best friend and tbh there are times when I find her a nuisance and annoying.

There are so many but this is the main one.

I am in a marriage where my husband checked out years ago, I believe he was unfaithful then also, certainly received messages he shouldn't have and deleted them. We havent had sex in years other than maybe twice on holiday. I cant even bring myself to look at him that way but we have a good life and very close as a family so I will never do anything to ruin that.

I secretly hope he is unfaithful and I find out so I can end things and its his fault. That's awful I know. I did have a fling a couple of years ago with a much younger man, I still see him but only at our hobby as friends. Recently he started messaging me inappropriately again and whilst I would be very tempted he has a girlfriend who I know well and who is lovely. I am so angry at him, it has brought up old feelings for me so I feel like I am spiralling again but I am the one telling him its not ok as I care about her. It took a lot of time for us to get back to being friends and being comfortable at our hobby and its ruined it again.

Just confirms to me that men can never be trusted, I really thought he had found his person and they seemed so happy.

You didn't 'allow ' yourself to be abused or raped. None of that was your fault. You had no choice. You were a child. Someone tried to rape me when I was 13 and only stopped when he found I was on my period. I blocked it all out until one of my granddaughters hit that age and, looking at her, seeing her vulnerability, everything came flooding back (I could even see what I had been wearing when it happened) And I realised that I'd been a child. It hadn't been my fault. And what happened to you wasn't your fault, either. It was the fault of the horrible people who preyed on you.

He died when I was 36 so I knew I had to go on living and find some kind of joy, and I absolutely have – I've even found love again, and it's wonderful, and I'm happier with myself and stronger and more resilient and have a beautiful relationship with my daughter – but life is not the same and never will be. It's been very hard resigning myself to that.

I’m a lifelong Labour voter and union member but I will vote Reform at the next election, such is my disillusionment with the left.

With all due respect you are wrong and you don’t know what you are saying .

I hate my half brother, I actually think he’s a psychopath. He’s manipulated his siblings and other family members. He’s charming and caring on the surface but underneath extremely poisonous. I often look up death notices (as I’m NC with him) to see if he’s died yet…I would be delighted to hear of his demise

That I absolutely hate going to my elderly parents house now mum is in the advanced stages of her dementia and dad is getting more and more miserable and mean spirited. Yes, I know you are depressed dad but so am I, I'm 52 and no longer have a life because of all your needs.

They don't feel like my parents anymore and I'm so wracked with guilt to admit they are a huge burden to me.

The two days a week that I don't go there are absolute bliss and I feel such conflicting emotions over that.

I now wish I'd moved miles away from them when I was younger and not just around the corner.

Losing my ddog was also the worst grief I've suffered. I blame myself for things that led to him being pts and it consumes me