to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

[GooseAndSandals]

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

Ive got a mild painkiller addiction.

Every morning i start my day with a coffee and 2 nurofen plus. I never take any more than 2 a day, but I have them every day.

I watch TikToks of people taking 30-40 a day and think oh im not so bad

See UN.

He regularly stole money from me when he was a child (as well as various shops).

When his Dad & I were divorcing, we gave him the choice of who to live with.
Dad convinced him to pick him; didn't happen of course, the violent alcoholic was just using DS as a weapon against me. That was very upsetting.

Now he's "grown up", I hide anything valuable when he visits. I can't prove that he's stolen money or jewellery again, or taken & used my credit card for various contactless purchases.
I only maintain contact because of the DGC.

I often think 'what's the point of anything' and worry there will seem no point to living once my kids leave home.

The trouble is it’s not really anonymous though, unless you have dark web level IT skills MN will know who you are and you are quite easily traced.

I resent my mother for not caring enough about my father and for his early death.

I didn't care when my mother died.

She was an abusive, nasty person who made my childhood a misery.

That can be fixed - see your Parish Priest for advice.

I'm keeping the baby. I've not told work I'm pregnant yet so my colleague doesn't know. It was a stupid mistake when we were both drunk on a night out and only happened the once. He's married with children as well. I'm planning on doing a dna test once the baby is born to find out for sure and decide what to do then.

I also think he was very attractive lol. And that's probably part of the reason I was upset about his death.

I can't stand my mum.

My mother was never proud of me.

So gave up trying to please her. I left home as soon as I could and got skilled-up. I now run a successful business.

I did the same. Reading your post, I realised that even though I think about it occasionally (probably frequently), I have never told anyone, not ever. I can’t see how I ever would, unless I was in therapy that needed it. It was with my consent, as far as that’s valid at that age. I view it with acceptance.

It's not uncommon.

Don't sweat about it.

When my Dad died I was upset and very sad but I don’t miss him .

In the last 4 years, my BIL, MIL, FIL, my dad and my dog have all died.

The humans were OK and I cared for them all, but I cried and grieved the most for my dog. I still do.

I would be sorely tempted to take revenge though!

Do you have other children? If so you can test one child against another with a kit to see if they are half or full siblings. A friend of mine did that.

Currently on holiday in a hot, sunny place some 10 hours' flight from where I live. The purpose of this part of the holiday is health-related.
There are 4 other people here from my country of residence. I had thought I was the second youngest, from the appearance the topics of conversation (mostly to do with ill health and the number of pills taken for various ailments) of all participants. Turns out I am the eldest by 4.5 years!
I keep having to bite my tongue when they keep on going on about what they like to eat normally and what they are looking forward to eating when they get home again. It is very trying.
The youngest person is about 30 years plus younger than me and does not appear to have an "off" switch, is glued to her mobile phone and got into a bit of a huff at lunchtime, when we tried to explain to her that "fine" is a perfectly acceptable answer to the question "how are you?".
I keep biting my tongue with her as well, since I do not know how a 30 year old is qualified to "coach" anything.

Oh that's completely normal 😂

I love my husband very much, but if he left me tonight, I know I'd be absolutely fine.

My love, it’s not our job to make our parents happy.

if they make you feel like that, it’s THEM who have failed, not you.

your relationship with them is toxic, but you have a choice, to allow them to make you feel less than you are, or to distance yourself so that you have the space and opportunity to see yourself for the wonderful person you are.

im NC with my parents and once I’d got over the sadness of it, im lighter and happier. Because I don’t have people chipping away at my self esteem to make themselves feel better.

Am an only child. Both parents are dead and DH’s family are toxic - he doesn’t speak to his one sibling and has a very difficult relationship with his parents who also hate me - I haven’t had any contact with them in over a decade.

We have kids and have created our own loving family unit…but I often feel sick with jealousy when I look at big close families. Lots of my (wonderful and lovely) friends have this and I feel so envious. Christmas always feels quite challenging when everyone is surrounded by their amazing extended families. Sometimes I wish I’d married into a family like that, but it is what it is….

Having breast cancer and a double mastectomy isn't the worst thing to have happened to me. The double mastectomy has actually been a huge gift.

Yes, three older children- all mid to late teens. I'll have a look at that, I can't do anything until the baby is born so I'll have to live with it all myself until then

So do I!