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to ask you to tell us something you’d never admit IRL

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GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

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BauhausOfEliott · 15/09/2025 00:12

One of the reasons I approve of the strictest possible restrictions on gun ownership is that if I owned a gun I’d have shot loads of people by now.

Cattenberg · 15/09/2025 00:12

This is probably TMI, but...

One of my ex's was a complete pillock and it turns out that he really wasn't a nice person either. I haven't seen him for about ten years.

But ... by a cruel trick of nature we had great chemistry and he was the only man I ever orgasmed with, so the only way I can erm, climax by pleasuring myself is to fantasise about him. I do slightly despise myself for this. Years after we split up, this guy badly beat up one of his own friends.

BrickBiscuit · 15/09/2025 00:15

LayeredlikeanOnion · 15/09/2025 00:08

How will they emerge once you are dead? Have you written letters?

Not letters - they will be found among my belongings.

Pregnancyquestion · 15/09/2025 00:16

Anyone else expecting a slightly more lighthearted thread? lol

Apparently not

tellmesomethingtrue · 15/09/2025 00:18

I hate dogs.

MiniLights · 15/09/2025 00:19

I'm not sure that I ever want to have sex again and I'm sad about that.

Shinyhappypeople43 · 15/09/2025 00:22

I used to plan what I'd wear to my mothers funeral for years before she died - I recommend it to anyone who knows they'll be relieved when the day comes. She had Altzheimers.

GooseAndSandals · 15/09/2025 00:23

tellmesomethingtrue · 15/09/2025 00:18

I hate dogs.

Steady on. You’ve gone too far there.

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Cattenberg · 15/09/2025 00:24

tellmesomethingtrue · 15/09/2025 00:18

I hate dogs.

I want to like dogs. They're so enthusiastic, loyal and affectionate.

But I could live in a dog-free world very happily. They bark, they smell awful, they dribble everywhere, no park seems to be free of their mess, and far too many of them end up savaging people, cats or other dogs.

Shinyhappypeople43 · 15/09/2025 00:25

I think I could kill my horrible ex with no guilt at all, and that I'd never crack under interrogation about it.

ozarina · 15/09/2025 00:29

I wish bad things to befall my ex h because of the mental torture he put me through.

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:29

GooseAndSandals · 14/09/2025 19:38

I’ll start with one of my less dark ones. I didn’t care when my father died.

I really hate my mother at times…..I find it difficult even writing that

Mistyglade · 15/09/2025 00:31

TaupeMember · 15/09/2025 00:00

I have suffered since mid twenties with this awful affliction.

What meds are you on?

Mainly Lamotrigine which was actually prescribed for my focal awareness seizures. A few years prior I had a mirena coil fitted and started on Estrogel which helped but Lamotrigine changed everything.

Dogaredabomb · 15/09/2025 00:32

DeeKitch · 14/09/2025 20:53

I’m thinking of pretending to be going deaf

If he pretends to be blind too you're on to a winner!

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:33

Dontsayyouloveme · 14/09/2025 22:19

I wish I had never been born.

You are the only person who can change your life, be brave and put yourself out there…..most people have the power to change their lives they just have to want it in order to do so ❤️

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:34

BountifulPantry · 14/09/2025 22:01

On the surface I have the perfect life.

Every so often I have the strong urge to blow the entire thing apart.

Why?

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:35

Muffsies · 14/09/2025 22:01

Good luck and god speed on your mission 🤞

😂😂

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:37

Crazyworldmum · 14/09/2025 22:10

I often see spirits , I always have since a child . I don’t pick when I see them but I feel them and I see them often . I don’t tell people this as I’m sure most think I’m crazy or assume I have some control over this .

Are the spirits of dead people that you know, please elaborate

BrickBiscuit · 15/09/2025 00:39

Shinyhappypeople43 · 15/09/2025 00:25

I think I could kill my horrible ex with no guilt at all, and that I'd never crack under interrogation about it.

I actually tried to plan a murder once. Not an ex, but someone at the extreme end of horrible. However, I could see no way it could remain undetected. It would therefore be immaterial whether or not I could stand up under interrogation. I did not want to do time, so did not proceed. They could well be dead by now anyway, this was many years ago. And I did tell one other person, so it does not quite qualify for this thread.

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:40

wavingfuriously · 14/09/2025 21:52

Mine is too dark to tell others..

Oh come on, we won’t tell anyone 😁

Katemax82 · 15/09/2025 00:40

MelaniesLaugh · 14/09/2025 21:41

due to numerous health issues, I often have to use a finger to help myself have a number 2

Same here@

MrMucker · 15/09/2025 00:42

There''s a large cardboard box on the floor of my wardrobe and in it I have every single empty Marmite jar that I have ever finished. If it's been a shite day at work I like to count them to remind myself I am 83 (latest count) Marmite jars old, which is a real fucking accomplishment you tossers.

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:42

Strawbaler · 14/09/2025 23:08

Hello, I’ve been struggling with this for a year or more, then went on HRT in June. I had been verging on suicidal.

In 3 months it’s made a difference. I can love again, and don’t get so many intrusive thoughts.

I used a private GP service called Myla health. It’s possibly saved my life

Why did you go private?

NotToday1l · 15/09/2025 00:43

MrMucker · 15/09/2025 00:42

There''s a large cardboard box on the floor of my wardrobe and in it I have every single empty Marmite jar that I have ever finished. If it's been a shite day at work I like to count them to remind myself I am 83 (latest count) Marmite jars old, which is a real fucking accomplishment you tossers.

what are you going to do with them….make a piece of Art?

Youreshitimnot · 15/09/2025 00:44

Offloadontome · 14/09/2025 21:18

I wish my husband would leave me so I can get out of this shitty marriage and not have to be the one to make the decision to blow apart our family. But honestly it's just too much of a hassle so I'm staying even though I know I'm not happy. Life is too hard as it is.

Haven't read the rest so don't know how well I've met the tone here!

I spent years wishing this.
Started using the time to 'get my ducks in a row' and we - finally- split 2 years ago.
We are both happier, and actually get on better than we had for years. The kids get it, the response from one was 'should have happened years ago' and from the other 'I'm so proud of you for doing this'.

I promise you can do it. Life really is too short.

What pushed me to do it? Knowing that I wasn't seeing the right example to my (late teen) DC by staying. Maybe look at your situation like that. What advice would you give your DC if they were in the same position?

Sending love and strength x

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