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My son has gone on the march

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funkadelic · 13/09/2025 10:59

Hi, have been on here years but only lurk, don’t post. But today is the day.
I am in bits. My 22yr old DS is in London on this march. I am shaking and utterly appalled. We differ on politics massively and have done for some time. I work in education, have travelled and am bit of a lefty hippy but to be honest it’s becoming more about values and morals. He is fully immersed in the manosphere algorithm and I’ve always thought he is exploring himself and things and have chats about why he has the opinions he does and try and understand his point of view. I try not to belittle him but try and get him to critically think about things.
But this I can’t deal with. I am so upset that my son has gone to this, and that it is something that is so far away from me and my values, something that I thought I had instilled in him as well.
I am totally aware that it’s triggered embarrassment but that is my issue and I’m not putting that on him. He is still my son and I love him and his passion and interest in the world, just in something I believe is so wrong and makes me sad.
Please talk some sense into me.

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Holycowhowmuch · 13/09/2025 14:37

Exactly labelling is what the left do best to anyone who thinks differently from them. 3million people in London today....families all colours all races and churches. The lazy labelling is getting tired look at live things what actual people actually say do make your minds up then just saying

OhNoNotSusan · 13/09/2025 14:37

i agree with many people want to stop the Boats
but this rally has been taken over by the extreme right wing which isnt what most people feel

OhCrumbsWhereNow · 13/09/2025 14:37

Onmytod24 · 13/09/2025 14:34

I don’t think you have any idea how ridiculous your views are and how very very small the number of people who are interested in this far right politics are. You’ve been conned. the British have always been proud of their education and their systems and their stiff upper lip and how we keep a cool head always. You’ve let us all down with your ridiculous hooking onto USA style right wing Nazi hate speech is free speech philosophy it’s ridiculous.

Suspect 2029 GE result might come as a bit of a surprise to you.

I live in a rural village, historically conservative voting. All now planning on voting Reform next time.

usernamealreadytaken · 13/09/2025 14:37

Clarabell77 · 13/09/2025 11:27

Um, protesting against genocide, children being blown to bits and starved vs raise the flags/stop the boats/they’re stealing our jobs/women/benefits racism, I would have thought it was fairly obvious?

Marching in favour of using mass-murder, rape, torture, and kidnapping to get what you want? I’d be so proud 🙄

Lalgarh · 13/09/2025 14:38

Jujujudo · 13/09/2025 14:29

I’m visibly Jewish. Imagine how I must feel every time I walk past a pro Palestine protest. The latest horrific thing I encountered was a group of women hissing as I went past. I was unsure about what it meant so I asked them.. They were unable to talk to me initially because one of them said to the others; don’t talk to a zio-Nazi, she’s a child killer. But I stayed and waited and asked again. They continued with their hissing until a passerby (also Jewish though not as visibly) took me away and explained that it was meant to be the sound of the gas chambers.
So I understand how you must feel and I’m genuinely sorry and appalled that you feel threatened by this march. That’s wrong and upsetting on so many levels. I also hope that you can see that other protests make other people feel threatened. And that any kind of intimidation, racism or hate has no place on our streets, no matter what principles you stand for. The only way to preserve humanity and values is to listen and accept other views, and embrace differences with understanding and peaceful discourse. Again, I’m so sorry that you feel this way.

Thats horrendous @Jujujudo .

Can you describe what the women looked like. Will you report it to the police

Jujujudo · 13/09/2025 14:39

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/09/2025 13:42

So. Imagine you are living in the 1930s. Hitler is hanging swastika flags everywhere, the Hitler Youth are going on wholesome hikes and singing songs, then he starts making Jews wear stars so they can be singled out, he takes away their businesses and homes (he has reasons for doing this ), he starts 'deporting' them and then he puts them into cattle trucks and takes them to be killed in gas Chambers. At which point on this journey do you stop thinking he's entitled to his opinions and decide for yourself what is right and what is wrong. At some point you have to make a stand.

Yeah but nobody did, did they!

Wilfulignoranceabounds · 13/09/2025 14:40

OhCrumbsWhereNow · 13/09/2025 14:37

Suspect 2029 GE result might come as a bit of a surprise to you.

I live in a rural village, historically conservative voting. All now planning on voting Reform next time.

Cool. Presumably, they’ll all be okay with having to pay for private healthcare when Farage dismantles the NHS, as he has expressed a desire to do. No, let me guess… they’ll be whinging about how no one told them that he wanted to do that.

BurntBroccoli · 13/09/2025 14:40

OhNoNotSusan · 13/09/2025 14:26

what is christian about this?
unbelievable.

This is from an article published last year:

“One notable change from recent Lennon events was the more overtly pro-Christian element to the day’s proceedings. In recent months Lennon has begun to talk more regularly about God and Jesus and that was reflected today with numerous speakers and singers referencing Christianity and chants from the stage of ‘Christ Is King.” There was also a band from the Spirit Embassy London church in Bruce Grove, Tottenham.
However, perhaps the most extreme speech was delivered by Bishop Ceirion Dewar who screamed:
We are not at war with just the Muslim, we are not at war with just woke ideology, we are not at war with just cancel culture but we are at war with four hundred and twelve idiots that sit on those benches just up there. […] We are the defence walls upon which modernity and multiculturalism crash.

Bishop Dewar has previously addressed a UKIP meeting.
While the English Defence League drew on Christian and crusader imagery Lennon has never organised an event as overtly Christian in tone as todays.”

https://hopenothate.org.uk/2024/07/27/tommy-robinson-leads-huge-far-right-demonstration-in-london/

This ideology is very clearly coming from the US.

Gladysknightjustwalkinmyshoes · 13/09/2025 14:40

OhNoNotSusan · 13/09/2025 14:37

i agree with many people want to stop the Boats
but this rally has been taken over by the extreme right wing which isnt what most people feel

And therein lies the difference the extreme far right is a very different animal to the far right of which I'm neither I may add.

CoffeeCupOnBreak · 13/09/2025 14:41

apricotcobbler · 13/09/2025 14:23

So do you really think the migrant Deliveroo drivers using others' identification are being paid the Minimum Wage ??

No. But they do indeed lower potential income for those who are legally allowed to work by being a competition which shouldn't be there.
Cannot wait when HMRC fuly hits the actual account owners with taxes on these accounts.

ACynicalDad · 13/09/2025 14:41

There are people who see themselves as open minded as they are pro immigration and many of the so called woke causes but aren’t open minded enough to understand the concerns of their own people and won’t engage without calling them far right, then they are shocked by Brexit. He’s probably closer to the majority opinion than OP is.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/09/2025 14:41

WishinAndHopin · 13/09/2025 14:34

The police don't bother to turn up for anything except rude tweets.

Don't be silly.

WishinAndHopin · 13/09/2025 14:41

Wilfulignoranceabounds · 13/09/2025 14:32

It is and it always has been. There are plenty of people who don’t discriminate between legal and illegal immigrants; they just want immigrants out. I’ve been asked my entire life, “…but where are you from originally”, because even though I was born here, I’ve always been viewed as an immigrant and throughout my life, an ardent desire for me to go back to where I came from (and they don’t mean London) has been expressed to me by the likes of people who are marching today. I’m sure there’s no shortage of people who just want Britain to be white.

As for reparations, I never said a thing about them. Like you, I don’t see how it’s workable. “Quite some time”, in this case, isn’t actually very long. My dad’s great grandparents were born as slaves. Guilt serves no useful purpose but the British empire did, to put it mildly, a lot of damage and the consequences are far-reaching and ongoing. You don’t get to brush it aside so easily.

I am not going to be held responsible for the actions of a handful of rich people hundreds of years ago.

No other descendants of empires are expected to apologise for sharing the same ethnicity as historic conquerors and enslavers - many of whom did far more damage than the British Empire, without any of the good.

The Turks aren't apologising, Mongols aren't apologising, Arabs aren't apologising, etc.

If I were to tell a Turk to apologise for enslaving 3 million Europeans, for genociding Armenians, for living on stolen land, you'd no doubt call me a racist.

fastingforweightloss · 13/09/2025 14:41

Jujujudo · 13/09/2025 14:39

Yeah but nobody did, did they!

Exactly. The illegal migrants have not been treated badly AT ALL, so what on earth is this poster talking about? Illegal migrants are treated better than UK citizens. THAT is the problem. And YOU Op, and all of us tax payers, are paying for it. Lovely jubbly eh? How anyone can think that's fine is utterly baffling to me. People should migrate via LEGAL channels. Op, if you turned up at Heathrow without a passport, YOU wouldn't get in.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/09/2025 14:42

CoffeeCupOnBreak · 13/09/2025 14:41

No. But they do indeed lower potential income for those who are legally allowed to work by being a competition which shouldn't be there.
Cannot wait when HMRC fuly hits the actual account owners with taxes on these accounts.

So it would be a good thing if they could work legally then and pay tax.

cardibach · 13/09/2025 14:43

Dorisbonson · 13/09/2025 14:21

So your example relates to a different country where someone attempted to assassinate Trump before the election and someone just shot a right wing political activist? It seems to me that the left wing in the US is very dangerous? No?

Whats your point again?

That country is not the UK so I dont see the link, but a really interesting example you have chosen

Point of order - it seems Charlie Kirk’s murderer came from even further right, not the left.
It’s abhorrent either way, obvs, but don’t blame it on the left.

apricotcobbler · 13/09/2025 14:43

CoffeeCupOnBreak · 13/09/2025 14:41

No. But they do indeed lower potential income for those who are legally allowed to work by being a competition which shouldn't be there.
Cannot wait when HMRC fuly hits the actual account owners with taxes on these accounts.

I very much doubt if these workers you speak of are filing any tax returns !

LayerCakeOfStrangers · 13/09/2025 14:43

Wilfulignoranceabounds · 13/09/2025 14:32

It is and it always has been. There are plenty of people who don’t discriminate between legal and illegal immigrants; they just want immigrants out. I’ve been asked my entire life, “…but where are you from originally”, because even though I was born here, I’ve always been viewed as an immigrant and throughout my life, an ardent desire for me to go back to where I came from (and they don’t mean London) has been expressed to me by the likes of people who are marching today. I’m sure there’s no shortage of people who just want Britain to be white.

As for reparations, I never said a thing about them. Like you, I don’t see how it’s workable. “Quite some time”, in this case, isn’t actually very long. My dad’s great grandparents were born as slaves. Guilt serves no useful purpose but the British empire did, to put it mildly, a lot of damage and the consequences are far-reaching and ongoing. You don’t get to brush it aside so easily.

There’s half wits and racists everywhere, it’s important not to take them seriously

Still baffled as to how the British Empire has any relevance in the conversation. What’s the point of raising it?

HereAreYourOptions · 13/09/2025 14:44

Everyone else seems to be mostly let off for the awful things that people living in the same country a long time ago did, apart from the UK for some reason.

The Germans don't seem to get nearly the same amount of grief for what happened during the second world war and that was less than a hundred years ago (and to be clear, I don't think that modern Germans should get any grief for it).

A lot of it seems to come from within the UK itself - we seem to be unique in our willingness to beat ourselves up over something that none of us actually did.

Jumpingthruhoops · 13/09/2025 14:45

Good for him. He's attending a rally titled United the Kingdom IN the United Kingdom and you're appalled?

Sounds like a you problem.

JHound · 13/09/2025 14:45

I would feel disturbed if my male family members were attending a march with speakers such as Katie Hopkins and Steve Bannon.

No advice for you except to keep dialogue open

WishinAndHopin · 13/09/2025 14:45

LayerCakeOfStrangers · 13/09/2025 14:43

There’s half wits and racists everywhere, it’s important not to take them seriously

Still baffled as to how the British Empire has any relevance in the conversation. What’s the point of raising it?

She's being racist against white Brits.

cardibach · 13/09/2025 14:45

apricotcobbler · 13/09/2025 14:23

So do you really think the migrant Deliveroo drivers using others' identification are being paid the Minimum Wage ??

No, I don’t. They’re being exploited though, aren't they? The employer could do the right thing and a)check ID and b)pay the minimum wage. And if the employer is doing all it can but someone else is taking some of the money, that person is exploiting the migrant.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/09/2025 14:45

Jujujudo · 13/09/2025 14:39

Yeah but nobody did, did they!

Well the rest of Europe did when they invaded Poland. But unfortunately not enough people in Germany did. They'd fallen for the lies.

Jujujudo · 13/09/2025 14:46

Lalgarh · 13/09/2025 14:38

Thats horrendous @Jujujudo .

Can you describe what the women looked like. Will you report it to the police

There were police by me who didn’t do anything but try to move me away. After I walked to the side with the other man, he went over to tell them what was going on. They said that if they weren’t violent towards me then they wouldn’t intervene and suggested that I don’t walk by them in the future because it’s provocative. The whole thing upset me, but it’s not the first time I’ve experienced something like this - it was my mistake for walking by the protest but I found myself in the middle of it without meaning to as it was toward the tail end - a few people in groups with flags. The point I’m making is that it’s hypocritical for people to go off on one about racism etc without being critical of ALL marches, no matter what they believe in. I have a right to feel safe just like others do.

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