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Turn your son in knowing it’s the death penalty?

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TaupeLemur · 12/09/2025 15:28

Kirk’s killer has apparently been turned in by his family - or persuaded to hand himself in.
Trump &’his supporters have been very vocal about getting the death penalty for the shooter.

would YOU hand your child over, knowing that the electric chair would be the likely outcome?

YANBU - I wouldn’t turn him in to die.

YABU - I would he’s a killer and deserves all he gets

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RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 18:12

If anyone wonders why men are such a mess,
consider that a surprising amount of mothers won’t turn their own sons over to the law even if they murdered someone.

Awful. Consider your husband might kill you and your MIL will protect him. 😭😭😭

Viviennemary · 12/09/2025 18:12

I dont know what I would do. Especially if he was facing the death penalty. No I don't think I would tbh. But I might.

GetOffMyLan · 12/09/2025 18:12

Catladyof7 · 12/09/2025 18:09

No i certainly am not ‼️

Fair enough, they usually are.

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:12

giantpurplepeopleeater3 · 12/09/2025 18:11

Tbh, it's not really an issue as I'm raising them not to shoot people in the neck just because we find what they say deeply unpleasant and harmful.

We agree on that.

TheArtfulNavyDreamer · 12/09/2025 18:13

It’s a complicated one. It sounds like they had concerns about his character and feared he could kill again in addition to the fact this was premeditated murder. He thought about it and decided it was reasonable to kill a man for having different beliefs to him, not a man who hurt him or his family simply one he disagreed with. He thought about it and decided that was reasonable then he planned it, picked up his gun and carried it out. That’s a lot of hours where he could have changed his mind and realised his behaviour was unreasonable and criminal. Time where he could have thought about the repercussions and who his decision impacted. I think I’d struggle with my child being capable of that.

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:14

RingoJuice · 12/09/2025 18:12

If anyone wonders why men are such a mess,
consider that a surprising amount of mothers won’t turn their own sons over to the law even if they murdered someone.

Awful. Consider your husband might kill you and your MIL will protect him. 😭😭😭

Yes, safe in the knowledge that his mum will protect him from the consequences of his actions.

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:14

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 12/09/2025 18:07

And here come the conspiracy theories. Sigh.

So? Do you believe governments don't do things like this?

Do you believe Trump is not capable of such underhand tactics?

Do you believe the right are attempting to take over America?

Why is this implausible to you?

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:16

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:14

So? Do you believe governments don't do things like this?

Do you believe Trump is not capable of such underhand tactics?

Do you believe the right are attempting to take over America?

Why is this implausible to you?

Would the left not like to ‘take over’ America then?

Interesting view into your mindset. When the left are in power, that’s just and natural. When the right are elected democratically - panic stations, it’s a take over!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 12/09/2025 18:18

TheArtfulNavyDreamer · 12/09/2025 18:13

It’s a complicated one. It sounds like they had concerns about his character and feared he could kill again in addition to the fact this was premeditated murder. He thought about it and decided it was reasonable to kill a man for having different beliefs to him, not a man who hurt him or his family simply one he disagreed with. He thought about it and decided that was reasonable then he planned it, picked up his gun and carried it out. That’s a lot of hours where he could have changed his mind and realised his behaviour was unreasonable and criminal. Time where he could have thought about the repercussions and who his decision impacted. I think I’d struggle with my child being capable of that.

Yes. Just watching the BBC News. It looks as if this young man has had a very secure, affluent life and many opportunities. He went to college with a state scholarship, so can't be stupid, and he's done a bit of travelling. We're not talking here about a person whose life seems totally hopeless who lashes out in a moment of anger. If I were related to him, I'd find it hard to forgive what he'd done to his nearest and dearest, whose lives are now going to be ruined. And that's before we even get onto the horrific nature of the murder he's allegedly committed.

TheArtfulNavyDreamer · 12/09/2025 18:19

giantpurplepeopleeater3 · 12/09/2025 18:06

Nah I just love and have immense loyalty to my kids. I would burn the world down for my kids (with exceptions of being a pedophile or a rapist).

I get that but at what point would you draw the line? What if they killed someone you cared about? What if they killed a second time or a third? How many deaths would be too many for you to accept? How does it impact you to know you effectively sanctioned murder - that’s got to be a heavy burden? 🤷‍♀️ not criticising in case it comes across that way just think it’s an interesting thing to think about.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 12/09/2025 18:20

Cherrytree86 · 12/09/2025 18:05

@SnipSnipMrBurgess

cos you’re talking absolute shite. People on crack often do.

God I didn't know you were on crack too, fair play

MyLimeGuide · 12/09/2025 18:20

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:16

Would the left not like to ‘take over’ America then?

Interesting view into your mindset. When the left are in power, that’s just and natural. When the right are elected democratically - panic stations, it’s a take over!

Edited

Left couldn't take over America, only destroy America.

Chiseltip · 12/09/2025 18:20

TaupeLemur · 12/09/2025 15:28

Kirk’s killer has apparently been turned in by his family - or persuaded to hand himself in.
Trump &’his supporters have been very vocal about getting the death penalty for the shooter.

would YOU hand your child over, knowing that the electric chair would be the likely outcome?

YANBU - I wouldn’t turn him in to die.

YABU - I would he’s a killer and deserves all he gets

Nothing to do with morality. In the US there is an offence, a VERY serious one, of being "An Accessory After The Fact". In most US states the punishment is 50% of the sentence for the principal crime. For Murder however, it can mean a life sentence. You will also routienly be charged with Obstruction of Justice. This sentence would run consecutively the the first one.

So the parents/family members would have been looking at life in prison themselves. By framing it that they "turned him in" they escape a VERY long prison sentence.

This has absolutely nothing to do with turning their son in to the authorities because they wanted to make he "did the right thing".

They were looking after themselves.

Understandably.

EasternStandard · 12/09/2025 18:22

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:14

So? Do you believe governments don't do things like this?

Do you believe Trump is not capable of such underhand tactics?

Do you believe the right are attempting to take over America?

Why is this implausible to you?

No point in spreading baseless misinformation

JHound · 12/09/2025 18:23

The photos online are something else. Seems to be from a gun nut family.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 12/09/2025 18:23

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:14

So? Do you believe governments don't do things like this?

Do you believe Trump is not capable of such underhand tactics?

Do you believe the right are attempting to take over America?

Why is this implausible to you?

Why would Trump arrange for one of his closest allies to be assassinated? Are you seriously saying he and his inner circle sat around saying 'We need a martyr. Charlie Kirk would do. People would feel really sorry for his wife and tiny children. Get the CIA onto it!' And then the CIA lines up this family, which genuinely exists and is part of a community, and gets them to agree to destroy their family and uproot their lives - for what? Money? How many people would have to be complicit in this conspiracy? This is madness. Far easier for me to accept that we live in a time where many impressionable people have become immersed in social media and have genuinely come to believe that people with certain beliefs they don't share deserve to die. It's not like this is the first case even this year.

MyLimeGuide · 12/09/2025 18:23

Chiseltip · 12/09/2025 18:20

Nothing to do with morality. In the US there is an offence, a VERY serious one, of being "An Accessory After The Fact". In most US states the punishment is 50% of the sentence for the principal crime. For Murder however, it can mean a life sentence. You will also routienly be charged with Obstruction of Justice. This sentence would run consecutively the the first one.

So the parents/family members would have been looking at life in prison themselves. By framing it that they "turned him in" they escape a VERY long prison sentence.

This has absolutely nothing to do with turning their son in to the authorities because they wanted to make he "did the right thing".

They were looking after themselves.

Understandably.

Interesting! Well you can imagine parents that raised such a monster would only be looking out for themselves all the way!

NoraButty · 12/09/2025 18:25

If it wasn’t for the death penalty I would persuade him to turn himself in.

But, as much as it would break my heart, I couldn’t help him either :(

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 18:25

I'm guessing the killer knew full well that the death penalty was a possibility when he was inevitably caught. He also seemed to personally agree with the penalty as he doled it out to Charlie Kirk for the heinous crime of having a different opinion 🤔

Tunacheesequesadilla · 12/09/2025 18:26

MyLimeGuide · 12/09/2025 18:23

Interesting! Well you can imagine parents that raised such a monster would only be looking out for themselves all the way!

Bit harsh. You have no idea about his parents or how he was raised. They did the right thing turning him in.

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:27

MyLimeGuide · 12/09/2025 18:20

Left couldn't take over America, only destroy America.

Agreed.

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:28

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:16

Would the left not like to ‘take over’ America then?

Interesting view into your mindset. When the left are in power, that’s just and natural. When the right are elected democratically - panic stations, it’s a take over!

Edited

I'm more going off their own mantra. Make America Great Again. Kirk was backed by Trump and I think governments conspire just as as laypeople sometimes conspire to commit crimes.

The difference being they can do it professionally.

Namehcnage247 · 12/09/2025 18:29

Mrsttcno1 · 12/09/2025 15:33

It’s the death penalty that changes it for me.

If this was in the UK, and was my son, absolutely I would turn him in so it is in no way that I would want to help him avoid taking responsibility. It is an awful thing he has done and he should be held accountable.

But I fundamentally disagree with the death penalty, for anyone, so I truly don’t know.

Edited

Yes same for me.

I live in the UK so I would absolutely turn him in because he wouldn't be sentenced to death, he would serve life in prison

If I lived in a country where me turning him in meant he was going to have his life ended.... absolutely not

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:29

Poetnojo · 12/09/2025 18:25

I'm guessing the killer knew full well that the death penalty was a possibility when he was inevitably caught. He also seemed to personally agree with the penalty as he doled it out to Charlie Kirk for the heinous crime of having a different opinion 🤔

CK would have been arrested for hate speech if he were in the UK. Opinion is one thing. He was riling up white supremacists.

smallpinecone · 12/09/2025 18:30

Onthebusses · 12/09/2025 18:29

CK would have been arrested for hate speech if he were in the UK. Opinion is one thing. He was riling up white supremacists.

No, people are responsible for their own actions. I don’t get to blame other people for ‘riling me up’ - they have opinions, I choose whether to take them on board or not.

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