Is she being unreasonable? Parental childcare split.

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So my brothers ex, who they share a baby and 4 year old with - is really getting him down.

he works really long shifts at the police, she has his work schedule from when they were together & so he has them every single day that hes not working, about 3 times a week and 2 over nights which is fine.

anytime hes asked for a day off, hes met with attitude and shamed. But, her mum has them also once a week and helps frequently.

he pays £500 a month, £200 over what CMS say.
and also pays for them, clothes and activities etc of course when he has them

he lives an hour away, but hes very devoted, he comes frequently at random to collect 4 year old from school etc. he recently said that the monday morning 5:45 wake up to get ready for school on time with the commute is impacting 4 year old, and he was met with being shamed, saying ‘oh so you have a Sunday night alone’ etc

its really getting him down, and absolutely nothing is good enough, no money is enough etc

what really can he do, or whats the best way to sort this mess out?

Poor DC is my thought.

Parenting is hard, it can be relentless, my DC are older now but they were younger whenever I wasn't work I also looked after them.
It sounds like a fair split tbh, and if he can afford to pay more than the bare minimum to support his children he should.
He does sound like an involved dad, if I was DCs mum I would have them back Sunday evening as its not fair on DC to get them up at 5.45,but I'm not really clear why they need to get up that early?
Get as much as possible organised the night before, 45min from getting up to leaving the house an hour or so before school start time, so should be able to get up 6.45ish.
Is it feasible to move closer to DC? Why does he now live an hour away, seems to suggest one parent has moved.
Could you support your brother more with childcare like his wife's family do?
It is hard working and looking after children but that's life.
It's a shame him and his ex don't have a kinder more cooperative coparenting relationship, does she ever ask for day swaps, does he facilitate this if so? Was the issue of Sunday night / Monday morning not spotted when they made decided who would have the DC when? Did your brother ask for this?
Sounds like there might be a back story.

If her working hours are covered by school and nursery that’s only because she has limited the jobs she considered to fit in to those times, it’s normal for school especially to cover all of someone’s working hours unless they have made that job fit. Your brother has developed a career that isn’t child friendly and is expecting his ex to work around it rather than sacrificing to fit as she has to.

*It’s NOT normal for school….

He has them 2 nights per week she has them 5 nights the op is being very disingenuous by claiming that he has them more than her because they go to school/childcare on mum's time whilst she works, unless of course their sick it's a bank holiday or any other reason someone needs to take time off or when dads work calls.him in on his time.
Dad is not anything near primary carer

Oh dear
Are you OK?

All the time the kids are at their dad's.

Is she not working? You say he has them every day he isn't working. Is she also working when she doesn't have the kids?