Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

[brackenbury]

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

@brackenburyThat is so not funny and could cause you a lot of trouble.

My GP friend told us about a friend of his who is a paediatrician who was beaten up and left for dead.

When the culprits were picked up by CTV imagery, when asked why they had done it, they said it was because he was a paedophile.

They didn't know the difference between the two ffs 😡🙄😡

The guy nearly died. He hasn't worked since because of the damage they did.

Apparently they has overheard him talking somewhere and he must have said about his job

Kick the bloke into touch and block him after giving him a piece of your mind my advice

Just wanted to say I’m sorry for your losses. You have had an awful time of it. I hope that you find a good man out there who does cherish and nurture you, and is who is proud of what you do.

What a dick! Immature and thick. Block him immediately.

Block and move on. Don't engage, don't acknowledge him. The minute you get in touch you're playing the game.
He'll respond and you'll be angry and respond etc etc and you don't move on.
Or he won't respond which is also soooo frustrating and you'll regret messaging and wish you'd just ghosted him!
He's not unique, unfortunately, and there are many more out there just like him. But he really isn't worth your time or energy.

Just block & move on. I totally understand why you would like to have a go at him prior to this but, in reality, a man like this is too stupid to take on board what you're telling him. Your anger will subside, I promise you.

dear @brackenbury I'm so sorry you ran into a really poisonous, stupid, dick. Please take heart from all the supportive posts on this thread.

You deserve the best. Settle for no less.🍀💕

This is simply ignorance. Surprised you would even consider such a thick twat.

OP, christ, I'm sorry. I'm also a doctor and when I was Internet dating over a decade ago, I got so many unpleasant comments about it. One guy I met at a pub asked me what I did, and when I said I was a doc he got a really hostile look about him and said, Doctor, huh? I bet you think you are a bit of a "big shot", don't you (complete with the airquotes).I had do many terrible dates but did also meet my husband through Internet networking.

Never underestimate how many men really dislike women, particularly those with careers.

I think telling him why you don’t want to see him again and that his words and behavior were not only incredibly offensive, but also a massive turn off, could help you feel like you can take charge of situations like that and that you would not be belittled by him or people like him.
I hope you don’t give up on the idea of finding someone worthy of you and your time. I remember how tough it was when I was dating and yet I eventually found someone I fell in love with. Best of luck!

Please block & move on don’t lower your bar for him . I was in a similar situation and I lowered the bar; it didn’t end well. They are intimidated by us (successful women) so will do whatever it takes to get under your skin as a distraction from them. If he’s this immature you’ll spend the entire relationship correcting a man child. Better luck next time x

How awful for you. What an immature idiot. Good luck out there!!

Hrft but please block or ghost, you are worth soooo much more than this priceless dick.

Jesus wtf is wrong with people. I despair.

def block and move on. Don’t give it a second thought. What a twat.

Well, I don't think you'd have much to talk about if you were in a relationship.
No future there. Bye.

Absolutely this. Value yourself and move on.

I wasted my 20’s on an abusive man, was married at 30 and spent 16 ears married to an okay guy…
I’ve now been single for 3 years, why are people shocked when they ask if I’m dating and I say I’m not interested??
I’ve often thought about when I’m older and DD has flown the nest… but even then .. I think there’s a lot to be said for being alone and meeting friends for walks, coffee, etc

I think he’s just a 43 year old with a 14 year olds brain. Block and move on.

You need to be more selective especially regarding intelligence!

Why did you allow him to do that? And carry on doing it? You should have nipped it in the bud and either left, or told him if he likens your career to a sexual child predator then it’s game over.

If he is trying to put you down on just the first date, can you imagine what he’d be like after a few months or years. Red flag. Block and move on - you are worth far more.

obv felt inadequate. Pillock

block and delete

You should have walked out. Once maybe a silly joke that failed to land, twice he's ignoring or oblivious to your reaction and you could have pointed it out or as you did, sat there to be polite. Next time you go on a date promise yourself that you will remember this. It's ok not to be polite to arseholes. It's ok to walk out of a date. It's ok to block and ignore after a bad date. Women are conditioned to be polite, but in cases like this a loud FUCK YOU, throwing your napkin at his head and walking out is the correct response.

What was his profession out of interest? I bet it wasn’t nearly as important or interesting as yours! I can feel your urge to take him down a peg or too, I would be the same in your shoes, however, 43 year old children are not as easily fixed as real ones, so leave him to carry on being a fool and good luck dating, your prince is out there somewhere x

Block him and move on. He’s not worth another thought. Good luck for future dates.

They aren't exes, never any romance. Just people who I prefer not to know where I live and work.