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Awful date. Tried to embarrass me the whole evening...

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brackenbury · 10/09/2025 17:45

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

OP posts:
LillyPJ · 10/09/2025 21:31

TheProfoundlyPeculiarPointOfPete · 10/09/2025 21:28

Aw, he was so proud of that dazzling joke that he couldn't let you forget about it!

Bet he's still at home chuckling to himself now.. "paediatrician.... pedo... wahhhahahaha! They have the same prefix, you see?? But one's bad! Brilliant! How do I keep coming up with these smashers?!"

I don't think he'd know the word 'prefix'.

TheProfoundlyPeculiarPointOfPete · 10/09/2025 21:33

LillyPJ · 10/09/2025 21:31

I don't think he'd know the word 'prefix'.

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It's when your meal's a set price, isn't it?!

anotherside · 10/09/2025 21:34

He just sounds like a weirdo. I wouldn’t give him another thought.

DwarfBeans · 10/09/2025 21:37

The world shits on people sometimes when the OP hasn’t dated in years and then gets this arsehole. Please don’t give up @brackenbury you deserve some happiness 💐

Conniebygaslight · 10/09/2025 21:42

He sounds vile OP and if you’re a paediatrician, he’s quite frankly not fit to lick your boots. The work you do is incredible.

PrestonHood121 · 10/09/2025 21:43

He's dumb as s**t. Just block and move on

Toddlerteaplease · 10/09/2025 21:43

At least he showed you who he was very quickly, before you wasted any more time on him.

TheGander · 10/09/2025 21:45

What an arsehole.

Pleaseadviiise · 10/09/2025 21:52

You did the right thing blocking him and not explaining. You don't want to help him disguise his arsehole behaviours by alerting him to them for when his next date comes along.

Zodiacrobat · 10/09/2025 21:54

Bigneonsign · 10/09/2025 18:49

Talking over text for two to three weeks prior to the date and your job didn't come up? Yeah right.

Your lack of reading comprehension is telling.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 10/09/2025 21:57

Say it takes one to know one

but don’t let him put you off other nicer men

Onekissisallittakes · 10/09/2025 22:00

How old is he, 10?? Wtf.

Thingyfanding · 10/09/2025 22:01

AngelicKaty · 10/09/2025 19:29

OP told us in her second post: "He said he was head of sales (for a Fintech company)." I bet he's lost count of the number of lives he's saved ... 🙄

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God, what a bellend!

GrandmasCat · 10/09/2025 22:02

FGS! Never, ever stay in contact with someone that makes you feel bad. You don’t need to wait for them to get worse, to hit you, disrespect you or cheat on you, not liking them (for whatever reason) is enough reason to walk away asap.

Someone2025 · 10/09/2025 22:03

brackenbury · 10/09/2025 17:45

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

You are a successful educated intelligent woman, you made him feel insecure…..what career is he in?

Someone2025 · 10/09/2025 22:05

brackenbury · 10/09/2025 18:08

He said he was head of sales (for a Fintech company).

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So a gobby sales man

usernameinserthere · 10/09/2025 22:05

Just caught a bad one - throw him back. No deserving of a single thought.

Nect time trust yourself and leave earlier in the date. You literally keep young kiddos alive - that’s incredible. Him making a joke of it is pathetic.

Tuesdayschild50 · 10/09/2025 22:09

Please don't give this man-child the chance of another date.
First date and acting this way , I'd of told him straight away to stop acting like an absolute dick.. who the hell wants to date men like this .
I'd rather stay happy and single .

Horses7 · 10/09/2025 22:19

Chompingatthebeat · 10/09/2025 17:47

Tell him to P off

As usual the first post nails it!

Daygloboo · 10/09/2025 22:24

brackenbury · 10/09/2025 17:45

Is it really that bad out there? I went on a date last Friday and I'm still pissed about this issue - largely, because he had the nerve to follow up and try again.

We were talking prior to meeting for a fair 2-3 weeks prior to Summer commitments making an actual date in person a bit tough. He seemed perfectly normal/lovely.

I work as a Dr - and he asked me (on the date) exactly what kind of Dr I am. I told him a paediatrician (which is the truth).

He then - for the rest of the evening, proceeded to laugh at me and kept calling me a 'pedo' - due to it sounding similar to me being a paediatrician. I didn't laugh, but scoffed a bit initially. Then he kept going on and on and on - to the point where he wouldn't let up! I was mortified. It felt like he just crapped all over my work - which is tough at the best of time - but also like he was trying to take me down a peg or 10.

Needless to say, I left the date not wanting to see him again.

He then started texting me over the weekend and shortening the name to 'P' - to make it seem 'cute' and less offensive.

Honestly, I give up. I've had a few years of enormous grief and stress - and decided to try dating again, but I'm irrationally disenchanted.

He wants to go on a second date. I know I should just block and move on, but part of me wants to respond to him and let him know that he needs to grow up and stop being so juvenile. Should I not bother?

He's 43 years old, FFS!! I know this is a petty reason to post - but I'm just irritated that I wasted my time.

Perhaps he's autistic.

Nurseleaver82 · 10/09/2025 22:28

Omds chuck him back, xx you have enough on, plus the effort to find the time to go on the date, And get ready and actually go.

MaryMungoMidgley · 10/09/2025 22:29

All you can do is be thankful that he showed you who he was very quickly. I am sorry OP🙏💗

EmeraldShamrock000 · 10/09/2025 22:29

Was he a professional too?
Go for middle management men, they'll appreciate an intelligent woman, thrilled to date a Doctor.

Serpentstooth · 10/09/2025 22:31

Come on, is he 15 years old? Did you really spend an evening with him? Why didn't you leave? What a waste, you should invoice him for your time. Be less tolerant.

SummerFrog25 · 10/09/2025 22:32

Kaftanqween · 10/09/2025 17:49

What a disgusting person he is. Let him know that to call you that when you are a doctor who saves children’s lives suggests there’s something seriously wrong with him and that he seeks seek help before dating again.

please don’t let this get you down. He’s not normal.

@brackenbury

mainly ^ this.

but wanted to add/double down on it all. What you do is one of the best things a person can do!! You have normal peoples respect & admiration.

don't let this dickheads juvenile behaviour get to you or deter you from dating.

though I'm not sure online is the best way for many people!

my friend met her new fella speed dating! She was single by choice & only went to support her friend, happened to meet this bloke & a year on they're so happy!!