What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

[khlolea]

I have had a glass of wine tonight after work, thought why not?
Dh is home and is furious, speaking to me like a disgrace and slamming cupboards.
I now have an uncomfortable silence which isn’t quite a silence because he’s saying he’s not giving me the silent treatment.

For context Dh would never drInk on a work night

'Pour me one then' or something to that effect

He definitely wouldn't behave like that, but he'd be very surprised as I don't drink much

Yikes. That's not OK. I drink when I want to drink.

He’d probably join me. Is he controlling in other ways?

He doesn't drink in the house but doesn't care if I do unless it means I can't drive when I would need to

"That looks nice, think I'll have one too, cheers!"

No but it is a bit unusual for me to have a drink without him

Nothing. Nothing at all. He may pour himself one, he may not. It wouldn’t be a thing. I’ve never had a problem with alcohol though. That’s the only reason I could think of for a reaction like that?

If my DH reacted like yours has, I’d laugh at him and pour myself another. What’s his problem exactly? Is he against drinking completely? Does he think you’re an alcoholic? Or is he just being controlling?

It would depend. If it was a hot day and I was in the garden having a wine or beer he wouldn’t say anything. If I was just indoors drinking or on spirits he’d probably check if my day had been ok. He wouldn’t be angry but maybe a bit concerned as it would be out of character.

He'd say 'what a lush! ' then go upstairs for a shower and would never mention it again.
I barely drink though.

He’d probably say “tough day then” or “on the sauce I see” with a bit of a raised eyebrow. But certainly wouldn’t be cross. He’s less likely than me to drink on a weeknight but it wouldn’t be unknown for either of us.

He would have been delighted as it would have been the excuse he needed to join me. Because he had a drink problem. Reverse it and I would have reacted like your H. Because he had a drink problem. Its not what other Hs would do that matters, it's whether he has cause to worry about your drinking.

Unless you have a drinking problem and/or were falling about drunk then his reaction is completely unreasonable. If you have no need to drive this evening, then as a grown adult it’s entirely up to you.

“Oh tough day babe, go on if you’re having one I will”

It would be a bit early for me so he'd ask if everything was ok. He definitely wouldn't be angry.

Mine would join me. But is there any sort of back story here?

Yes if you do have the makings of a drink problem then that would explain his reaction.

Or he’s a bit of a controlling twat.

Only you know the answer OP.

Also to answer the question my DP would not say anything other than maybe check in to see if it had been a rough day at work. He might join me or might not but would not pass negative comment.

Probably ask if I’m ok, as it wouldn’t be the norm.

Why is he furious? Sounds awful OP

Do you know, I wouldn't GAF!

I have just had a pint of wine and my husband is standing cooking tea and hasn't said a word! ( In my defence I would like to point out I have had a very difficult day and I don't usually drink much at all!)

Do you have a problem with alcohol? Have you previously said you won't drink in the week, or at all? The only person I know who complains her husband gets cross about her drinking is an alcoholic...

Personally I think my DP would be concerned more than anything, as he knows I don't like drinking at home on my own (very much an occasional social drinker).

He would probably ask if I was ok as I don’t usually drink at home, and especially as it’s a week day. It wouldn’t be a big deal though. Why is your DH so bothered?

Either your an alcoholic and hes pissed of with you or hes controlling only you know the answer