If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

[JustCiri]

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

Pretty easily. I’m a bit over 100kg, but also 6ft tall so it’s not as much on me as it would be on someone a foot shorter. Still, too much.

The answer is ridiculous stress and always putting others first whilst not realising premature menopause happened. Adult child with SN, sick parents, multiple life stressors. Grabbing food in a hurry, often whilst very hungry, leading to overeating. Plus generally being someone who really loves food.

The stress that is heaped on me is just too much. I am strong, organised and efficient. But the problems that I need to solve just won’t stop coming.

I’m not anymore but I used to be. I’d been a professional athlete in my teens and 20’s, so I was always able to eat a lot of calories, mostly healthy but not always. I never gained weight and was super fit. When I quit I carried on eating the way I always had, I carried on exercising but not training, so I only gained a few pounds. I then had babies in my 30’s. It wasn’t the pregnancies which put the weight on, it was the time factor. No time for myself, no exercise and the boredom of sitting in the house of an evening. The pounds piled on. They were way harder to lose than they were to gain.

I was very overweight as a teen so losing it was probably easier. I made lifestyle changes, learned to cook, and ran with my mum (laps round a field) every morning. The thing that motivated me was when my mother (50ish at the time) lapped me and I just remember thinking Jesus Christ this is bad. The key was finding exercise I enjoy and that I can fit into my life - I like to run and ice sake, but I can’t ice skate everyday. For food, I do high volume eating because I have a big appetite.

about 115kg, depression, being almost completely housebound, OCD, PTSD, physical activity very limited. Binge eating disorder.

I'm not over 100kg any more but when I was, it was after having a baby and subsequently developing (actually more like escalating) horrific anxiety related to birth trauma, with PTSD and OCD symptoms. I ate mindlessly. I struggled to reverse the hole I ended up in.

Just to add, I view Mounjaro in the same way I view Sertraline. One helped me recover from anxiety, one helped me (is helping me) recover from obesity. They didn't do it all for me.

You do understand that other people aren't the same as you are, right? The top end of my healthy BMI is nearly 80kg so what's 2 stone overweight for you is a healthy weight for people who are presumably taller than you with a bigger build.

Out of interest, are you 82ish now or is that your goal?

I'm taller than you, also big shoulders/feet/boobs and am a weight trainer with muscles. A healthy BMI seemed like a terrfying amount of weight loss at the start of my WLI journey (from 99kg) but it turned out to be more achievable than I thought.

I'm at the high end of healthy BMI now at about 78, and there's still plenty of squishy fat around my hips and thighs so I reckon I can lose another 5 easy.

I'm not suggesting we are the same or that you're wrong. But if you haven't been down to your goal weight for awhile, you might surprise yourself when you get there.

I was a chubby child. Lost a ton of weight at puberty and was an average sized teenager until I was sexually assaulted. I comfort ate to cope and gained weight slowly, then I had 5 kids in 6 years and never lost the baby weight really. Was probably 15st at that point (I’m 5ft 8) then. I developed RA, was diagnosed with a host of autoimmune issues, steroids to try to control inflammation caused weight gain.
Then I learned I had osteosarcoma and my left leg amputated at the hip.
i was at my heaviest pre-surgery. I’m significantly lighter now 14 months later, but that’s how,

I will say, that the top end ‘healthy weight for my height is 11st 11lb and the only way I’m going to be that weight is now I’m missing a leg! That’s just not a sustainable size both in terms of calories to eat and just how I’d look.

Well - how did you gain two stone? Thats a lot of weight.

I imagine others gained weight in a similar way surely.

Had two babies, spent 5 years being horrendously sleep deprived, developed a dependency on toast and then barely managed to keep shit together holding down a job over Covid with a toddler and a preschooler at home. Put on about 5 stone in 5 years. Only now with Mounjaro am I managing to shift the weight again.

PCOS
Bereavement
Knee injury leading to an more sedentary lifestyle
Depression
Stress
Unexpected death of a child

Genetically more prone to being large, looking back at family photos from the late 1800s and early 1900s-1950, most of my female relatives would be over 100Kg even with poverty and rationing, against very active lifestyle.

I have no idea how many kgs, I am but I know I am overweight.
How did I get here ?
I prefer chips to salad. I like toast with loads of butter. I really, really like chocolate, and crisps and cheese.
The end

I think Ben Elton summed it up quite well...

It's because this hole here ---> 😋

Is bigger than that hole there ---> ( )*( )

I was an athlete when I was younger and when I stopped working out twice a day, my appetite stayed the same. Multiple debilitating injuries and the resulting chronic pain have made it challenging to even do short workouts. This combination has been terrible, but I’ve certainly been humbled and become much less judgmental of others. I still struggle with pain, but I am working on strength, and I’ve learned to take pride in my strength and mobility gains rather than weight lost.

I'm pretty tall (5' 9"), never been above 62kg, and that was during pregnancy.

I like food, I eat what I fancy, BUT I do notice that my portions are smaller than other's. Not purposefully, just choice. I had a 22" waist for years, it's 25" now. I love to cook and eat, I just, and never have, eaten large portions. I absolutely don't 'deny' myself.

I eat butter, bread and cheese.

My do or die food is sandwiches.

I would put anything in bread.

So my point is, and it’s very interesting actually.
I don’t care, I don’t care how much I weigh . I don’t care what my BMI is, I don’t care if you are thin (and I’m fat) I literally don’t care.
i have been overweight my entire adult life (not obese, I weigh about 13 stone at 5”6, wear a sixe 18.
i am not ashamed, I am actually not ashamed.
Would it be easier to find clothes, probably?
Would it be easier to be “normal” probably?
Am I just so bloody tired of the whole fucking thing? Totally.

I forgot to say, I eat at least one sandwich a day.

I am the mistress of the sandwich.

We had friends round today, I made a pork shoulder roast, DH made apple pie & custard for pudding, I swerved that and had a pork and mustard sandwich later. So good.

Decent bread, always.

I fucking love sandwiches.

Serious illnesses.
Its sh*t.
Too dangerous for me to have any injections.

Quetiapine which is anti psychotic medication I had to take to get better from post partum psychosis after my little boy was stillborn. But go off with your faux Naivety about how the fatties get so fat

Oh. I'm fucking sorry.

That is shit.

Sorry.

Growing up wasn’t taught how to eat properly, didn’t understand portion control, macros, when and how much to eat .

That’s also a good point.
I know loads of people who simply don’t care. And also who don’t think about what they eat in any way, they eat what they want, when they want. All of those people are pretty average size, some are a bit thin, some are a bit overweight, but none are extreme in either direction. And those are the people I envy. I haven’t not thought about what I’m eating in my entire life. Not ever. I am either completely controlling every mouthful I eat in a conscious way to stay relatively slim, or I am completely out of control and I get fat, not just a bit fat, but 25stone fat. Until mounjaro I had never been able to just be lead by my appetite.