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If you are 100kgs or over, how did you get there?

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JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

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RuthEvershedforPM · 07/09/2025 22:09

Am short and got to 84 by being desperately sad and not thinking was good enough. Now 59 thanks to MJ and exercise addiction

still sad :(, still don’t really think I am good enough

NameChange23456790 · 07/09/2025 22:11

trauma, genetics, adhd

Pepperedpickles · 07/09/2025 22:11

I’m around 100kg. I was always extremely thin (size 8ish and tall at 5ft 7) right up until around 29, never used to have to watch what I ate, just ate whatever I liked. Didn’t affect me at all. Then I started to develop a lot of autoimmune issues that required steroids (one of them Addisons disease that is fatal if you don’t take steroids) and slowly the weight piled on. It wasn’t overnight. Because I’d never had to watch what I ate before I found it very difficult to moderate my eating in all honesty. And exercise wasn’t always possible because my autoimmune issues including lupus makes any sort of exercise - even walking - extremely painful at times.

I absolutely hate being the weight I am. I don’t recognise myself. I’m 44 now and feel really huge and ugly (size 18-20- and before someone jumps on me I am not saying I see others that way; just myself) but it’s really difficult to lose any weight at all- and I can’t have the weight loss jabs due to the health issues I have.

I have got to the point now where I really have to watch what I eat to the point I don’t have any snacks whatsoever, just small healthy portions of food 3 times a day and even then I’m not losing weight - just remaining the same. If I have a health flare I have to take more steroids and the weight piles on again.

So many people just do not understand how difficult it is for people like me. So many comments out there of just “put the fork down”. They really don’t have a clue. I look like a completely different person than I did before I had health issues.

Complet · 07/09/2025 22:12

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:37

I had two babies in 3 years, causing the weight gain.

How did having babies cause your weight gain? Genuinely curious.

Pepperedpickles · 07/09/2025 22:13

Complet · 07/09/2025 22:12

How did having babies cause your weight gain? Genuinely curious.

Hormonal changes can slow down and change metabolism. It’s why so many women put on weight around menopause too.

Paperpensanddustmotes · 07/09/2025 22:16

At my highest I was 178kg, I'm currently 133kg with a fair bit to go.

I grew up in a very poor household whose main meals were very beige, potato heavy with a mother who was overweight, overtired and overwhelmed and fed me adult sized portions from a very young age which meant I was 63kg by the time I was 10.

Throw in sexual abuse at 11-12, a court case and the subsequent fall out, which led to me eating my feelings as a form of self harm (no-one would want to go near a fatty right?), which then led to a binge eating disorder and a lot of secret binging... 114kg by the time I was 18.

My 20s were spent feeling suicidal and dealing with undiagnosed PTSD and the binge eating got out of control which got my to the 178kg. And add in PCOS to this lovely combo 😅

4 years ago I decided enough was enough, did a LOT of therapy and lost 15kg and then last year, I started MJ (which has genuinely been life changing) and now I'm steadily losing a 1lb /1.5lbs a week & haven't had a binge episode since my first jab.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/09/2025 22:19

I've been there.

Harder for a 6'5" ex to pick me up by the throat when in a 'roid rage that way. Add in the martial arts training (on my part) and it also made it a damn sight easier to heft him straight out of the front door and hold it closed afterwards. Wasn't actually 100kg at the time, was nearer 75kg, but within a year I'd become absolutely solid muscle underneath the fat, the 200 crunches followed by 200 dragon flags without breaking a sweat type of fit and strong.

Zero UPFs, as much of the highest quality meat, fish and vegetables I could find, everything wholegrain, zero alcohol or sugar outside what was naturally in food, just larger quantities as I was swallowing down my rage at his treatment of me whilst biding my time to slowly, gradually funnel as much of my money as I could get away with into a separate account for when he was finally out of my face. And then the fucker decided to make it easy for me and leave for some woman barely out of her teens but had inherited a flat, so appeared to be a more lucrative target than I was, so disappeared overnight.

Inconveniently enough, I then had a five year long flare of autoimmune disease, stopping me from exercising and I lost pretty much all of my muscle mass whilst having high doses of steroid injections every six weeks whilst going through the ridiculously lengthy process of trying every medication that was cheaper than biologics and having them fail. It's a lot harder to eat less and move more than I thought under those conditions.

Doctors were consistently extremely confused to see very healthy bloodwork - HbAC1 perfect, cholesterol perfect, bone density despite all the steroids perfect. And I was consistently extremely irritated by assumptions that I was bingeing upon biscuits, cakes, crisps, kebabs, burgers and gallons of full sugar Coke all of the time.

verybighouseinthecountry · 07/09/2025 22:25

A combination of age, stress and a nearby pound shop. I've been on a calorie controlled diet since 15th July, cut out all crap and I've lost 5lb 😭 Makes me think I shouldn't bother but I keep reminding myself I should continue for health reasons. If I continue at this rate it will take me about 5 years to reach my target!

ninjahamster · 07/09/2025 22:28

I’m about 114kg. Put on loads when I went on antipsychotic medication. Combined with the fact I don’t leave the house so don’t really exercise. Drink too much wine.
Don’t actually eat very much.

CaramelGhost · 07/09/2025 22:30

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:16

I am just asking as I am genuinely curious.

Eating more calories than you burn...you know this.

Usually using food as an emotional crutch or through boredom. It's not that mysterious

BoschMkII · 07/09/2025 22:33

Chemo, hormone treatment, steroids. Better fat than dead imo.

Someone2025 · 07/09/2025 22:35

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:13

It's a very genuine question I am curious about looking at all the various posts about weight loss and MJ.
I am genuinely curious to know about how do people get to that sort of weight and any piece of advice from their own experience. I used to be very lean but I am 2 stones heavier now but still in 60-70kgs range and trying to lose weight. I am from an ethnicity which doesn't gains much weight so even this weight is lots for me.

How does knowing how another person gained weight inform you of anything in relation to your own weight, people gain weight for any number of reasons, hormones, age, lack of exercise, medication, depression, anxiety, pregnancy, eating too much etc etc…….how did you gain the weight?

hellotomrw · 07/09/2025 22:36

Stress and kids. I had bot time for myself and threw everything I had into kids and work and eating came the only comfort for me

niadainud · 07/09/2025 22:37

ExtraOnions · 07/09/2025 21:20

…by eating more calories than I was using … the same way that everyone gains weight

Yes, but there's a difference between gaining a few pounds and being double your ideal weight.

jettisoned · 07/09/2025 22:37

Steroids and chemo

Bonjamin · 07/09/2025 22:37

HRT, menopause, significant stress. Despite gym x4 a week, healthy eating, no alcohol, minimal UPFs. Mounjaro has helped but hormones are a fucker.

cantpullthetrigger · 07/09/2025 22:38

I was 72-75kg stable weight pre-pregnancy but crept up to around 100 when I had my baby. I was mighty shocked when it didn’t come off easily after birth, and difficulties breastfeeding, poor sleep and lack of exercise and outdoor activity due to having a newborn during the pandemic really didn’t help.

Being in my forties I then found even when the was able to up the exercise it didn’t come off like it used to - my metabolism changed and I was eating less and doing the we use but not losing the weight - looking back seems this was the start of peri.

I’m now stable at 77kg, which is in normal range for my height, and I’m exercising and eating healthily. Shifting more would feel hard work but I’d love another 5kg off so let’s see.

SP2024 · 07/09/2025 22:38

I’m about 90kg atm. I weigh that much as I’ve had two babies in two years and IVF treatment. Two lots of breastfeeding for an year and babies who didn’t sleep for well over a year and it was all I could do to keep going, if I needed carbs to do that then I had them. I run 2/3 times a week for half an hour, I also lift weights and walk 10k steps every day. I’m not massively unfit (although I used to be more fit than I am now). I just ate too much and it’s hard to lose weight, especially when you have less time than before working full time with two kids under 3. I was never one of those who lost loads of weight breastfeeding either! I’m now about 2.5 stone away from the weight I’d like to be (which ironically is still over my ideal BMI but would put me at a size 10/12 and I found that easier to maintain than when I was within my BMI and could never eat out or drink any alcohol without putting on weight that week.

CaramelGhost · 07/09/2025 22:38

niadainud · 07/09/2025 22:37

Yes, but there's a difference between gaining a few pounds and being double your ideal weight.

If you do it every week, you'll continue to gain. It'a maths....

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 07/09/2025 22:38

JustCiri · 07/09/2025 21:37

I had two babies in 3 years, causing the weight gain.

I had 2 babies in 2 years and didn't gain weight.

We all have reasons WHY we do it, but eating (and drinking) too much is the underlying cause, for everyone.

For me the reasons I ate too much were the pandemic (no sport), perimenopause (reduced my metabolic rate) and a new relationship which thrived on a love of cooking and eating. All at once.

NanFlanders · 07/09/2025 22:41

Initially, antidepressant medication, I think. I always went to the gym and cooked from scratch, but did crave and eat lots of carbs. Went up and down between 90 and 100kg. Then my DD became seriously ill with anorexia and my attempts to keep things manageable with Slimming World went out of the window. So got up to 108kg. Thanks God, DD is doing well now and I am now 79kg after a year on Mounjaro. Won't be able to afford it now because of the massive price hike. I can't give up the ADs - I have gone into major depression whenever I have tried, so I'm hoping a switch to a Wegovy will at least help me maintain.

niadainud · 07/09/2025 22:42

CaramelGhost · 07/09/2025 22:38

If you do it every week, you'll continue to gain. It'a maths....

That's very true.

MeganM3 · 07/09/2025 22:42

Often it can be upbringing. If a child is shown an unhealthy way of life, that’s going to be their normal.
Junk food being normal, huge potion sizes, lack of healthy meals, eating for comfort or boredom.

Appin · 07/09/2025 22:43

I weigh 93kg. I've always been a lot heavier than I look- a few times health professionals have asked me to get back on scales to check. I wear a size 14 clothes.

I had cancer in my thirties and the time for surgery and recovery really set me back and I put a lot of weight on then.

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 07/09/2025 22:43

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