to think you still take a gift to a party?

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My dc has a number of 18 year old and 21 year old parties taking place in the coming weeks and I enquired as to what gifts they were getting.

They said it’s not a thing to take gifts for the birthday person or the host.

And I said have I taught you no manners and they said if it was older people (40+) inviting them for dinner or similar they would take flowers/wine but not for parties.

AIBU to think a small gift should be taken?

YABU no one does gifts any more
YANBU gifts are still the done thing

I hope the obligatory gift giving is fading out. I have a friend who brings a gift every time she visits; even just for coffee. It’s slightly embarrassing now and also means I have to think to take something in return each time I visit her. It actually makes me feel less close to her as it’s so transactional. Mind you she is someone who calculates the cost of gifts given and received at birthdays and Christmas….

That sounds exhausting!

Yes my DD is 18 soon and would definitely take a gift. Rude not to imo.

But it is a social expectation to take a gift to a wedding!!

Sure, but I don’t agree with it and I think it’s an unreasonable expectation so I don’t do it.