Upset about new top

[BykeP]

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

Raise your fucking standards.

Or just lighten the fuck up.

Not everything is serious. Not everything is bullying or abuse or nastiness. Sometimes people are just having a laugh.

I bet he loves pranks too.

Lack of emotional intelligence
in the OP you mean? I agree. If she had well developed emotional intelligence she wouldn’t let such a minor issue upset her. She would explore the option that maybe the DH had a point. And she certainly wouldn’t post about it on MN.

Exactly. So many threads on here about their husbands wearing ratty t-shirts or awful looking combinations of clothes.

If my DH thought I looked ridiculous I'd want to know.

Need to see a picture

Except on MN. It’s against the rules.

Didn’t need to - I’m old !! I think he’s confusing Betty Rubble with Barney Rubble, who wore something similar to OP’s description but it was brown. There wasn’t any character that I can remember who wore a black fluffy sleeveless top and Betty Rubble wore a blue dress.

Multiple times. With the same joke. When someone else is getting upset about it. I mean, other jokes are available.

I mean, evidently not.

I forgot.

Straight to jail.

You’re fine, loads of people on this thread think OP’s husband is hilarious.

If your husband joking about about you looking like a Flinstones character is genuinely upsetting you, I think there are bigger issues at play in your marriage, tbh.

One of the things that attracted me to DH is the fact that he can laugh at himself and doesn't take himself (or life) too seriously. I'm glad I don't have a marriage where you constantly have to check yourself in case you cause offence.

Sorry but 🤣🤣🤣

I still feel your pain though. I have a similar ‘comedian’ at home and sometimes it gets very wearing.

I wore a pair of dungarees last week with a tie dye t-shirt, didn't even realise the sleeves were mostly yellow. I got called a minion all day by the dc and dh 😂 I just said, well I rock the minion look actually.

YANBU though OP, if it's upsetting you and you have asked him to stop then he's just being mean now.

I had a beautiful black mohair knitted round-neck tank. I loved it. My 5-year old niece called it my baby chimp top.

Barney Rumble was, if I remember correctly, a much better husband than the rather grumpy & selfish Fred!

Years ago, I bought a loungewear set from the White Company. It was in the sale, but still cost me an arm and a leg.

First time I wore it, DH said I looked like Elvis. It made me laugh, but didn't stop me wearing it.

For a few weeks, I had to suffer that Elvis impression - "Uh huh", but thankfully it wore off quickly.

Did you read the post I was replying too? The poster was advising it was really important the OP didn’t give a reaction as he’d only do it more. That’s how you deal with bullies. The idea that you can’t let your DP see they have upset you as the obvious reaction of the man is to do it more is grim.

how low are your standards if that’s your advice?

the op should be able to let her DH know he’s upset her. His reaction to realising he’s upset her should be to be sorry.

The point isn’t if she’s right or wrong to be upset, if is upset she shouldn’t have to hide that from her husband of all people.

Oh dear! I would burst out with early Sonny and Cher tunes if I saw someone wearing that

“I was five and you were six we played on horses made of sticks….”

RIP Cher’s teeth. Unfortunately 😷too sad to show!

I don't think OP is that upset or she wouldn't have added that her DH almost fell off the breakfast stool when he saw her in it 😅

Yes, I read the post.

Not everything in life has to be so bloody serious.

If you can't have a laugh with your partner and tell them they look a bit daft in something then, honestly, what's the point?

I never said she had to hide her upset either, my point was that it's not a good idea to take everything in life so seriously. Not all actions that cause upset are intentional or nasty.

It’s the repeating it multiple times. It would be fucking irritating. It’s not that it was a particularly amusing joke the first time around.

Yep, and the best response to someone being irritating is to just ignore them.

Tell him to Yabba Dabba Don't!

Just remembered my ‘ Dennis the menace ‘ top ,
red & black horizontal stripes , I thought I looked the bees knees & it was the 90s but my bf at the time affectionately named it the above , but I quite liked the reference 😂

Sorry OP but I'm finding this far funnier than it ought to be. My DH wants to know why Im laughing so much
Yabbadabba doooooo 😅