Upset about new top

[BykeP]

I bought what I thought was a lovely new top, it’s black, fluffy and sleeveless. DH thinks I look like Betty Rubble from the Flintstones and keeps saying Yabba Dabba Do every time I enter the room.

I don’t think this is funny but he won’t stop laughing. I said he is offending me and I find his comments hurtful but he said it’s too funny to stop.

I refuse to change my top but I think he is unreasonable? I can’t listen to Yabba Dabba Do anymore or be called Betty

I had a pink onesie. Whenever I wore it I was "Six Foot Baby". He ran and ran with it. Six Foot Baby became a crime fighting superhero. He even made up a theme tune.

Why???

I mean you obviously like the coat so why are you letting one silly comment put you off ever wearing it again? Do you not think that's ludicrously oversensitive? Especially for a £200+ coat that's now just gathering dust.

I've got an oversized camel trench coat and whenever I wear it my husband calls me Gene Hunt. It hasn't stopped me wearing it because I still love the coat!

It’s only funny if the person who is the recipient of the joke also finds it funny. Otherwise it starts to become pretty unpleasant.

if my kids were mocking somebody about their clothing and the other person was getting upset, I would tell them to stop it, however ‘funny’ it was. It’s called being a decent person.

I’m struggling to imagine such a garment! Please can we see it?!

Betty Rubble rocks!
take it as a compliment

Urgh, I really hate it when men try to control what their wives wear via insulting anything they don’t approve of until it’s rejected in favour of clothing style they want their wife to be dressed in. Always done as jokes and banter, but it’s not far removed from just telling you that you aren’t allowed to wear that.

A sleeveless black fluffy top? It doesn’t sound great…

I'm surprised at some of these comments. Maybe it's just my sense of humour, but I really don't think that the 'joke' was funny the first time, let alone subsequent times. I wouldn't be especially offended by it, but I just wouldn't find it amusing. People on this site seem to find a lot of things 'hilarious' which I don't find even mildly amusing.

Betty Rubble wore a blue dress. Wtf is he on about?

You clearly have a boring sense of style, like most on here tbh. I don't think that most people on here are all that stylish.

There’s a real lack of a sense of humour in others also.

I all seriousness it would annoy me. I have a beautiful A line black and white striped skirt. Dh screams “skunk” or sometimes “badger” if I wear it. Hence I’ve only worn it a few times as it puts me off it.

And others need to stop being so fucking uptight about everything.

I had a boyfriend once who said shitty things about what I wore. I didn't care and carried on wearing them, but we both married other people.

I don’t believe the poster said she was ‘upset’ or ‘hurt’ she said that she did not ‘feel the same’ about the Coco trousers after her husbands (funny) remark about Coco phoning in

@CatAsstrophe I think your username is funny too as it happens

That’s the advice you give someone dealing with bullying.

If the person you love “gives you a reaction” to your comment - ie is upset by what you said, what sort of person would continue to say it?!

“Ooh, don’t let him see he’s upset you, it’s normal to expect a man to enjoy upsetting his wife and so he’ll carry on being nasty to you for his own amusement.”

Raise your fucking standards.

Someone said they were upset by a comment their husband made. And a poster responded with laughing emojis. That is shitty behaviour.

My husband and I mock each other all the time affectionately and it wouldn’t bother us. But it bothered that poster and the emojis seemed inappropriate to me.

Anyway, I will leave it there. As I said, lack of emotional intelligence. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m sure that there are plenty of women who have a laugh at some of their partners clothing choices from time to time too.

So true! People are often crying with laughter and snorting their tea out of their noses about something extremely banal.

Wow, well that a load of bollocks. If my DH wears something awful, I’ll tell him and heaven forbid might make a joke about it. Similarly if I wear something he doesn’t like I would expect the same. We’re in an adult relationship where you can depend on your life partner to tell you when you look like an idiot. It’s called having each others back. It’s called being open and honest.

It's an internet forum.

Stop taking it so seriously.

I have a dress that my family say makes me look like a waitress. I have to put up with being asked what the specials are, all the time!

It cost me $240 so I wear it a lot!

@TimClaypole read their post again, they did not say they were upset you are just being argumentative

There have been numerous threads on here in the past where someone complaining about an article of their DH's clothing has been told to "accidentally" throw it away.

I don’t think so… make the joke once, if you must, but if someone doesn’t find it funny then best not keep repeating ‘yabba dabba doo’ at them over and over. Even if you don’t care about other people’s feelings then it’s for the best to not look like an idiot.