To think I don’t have a alcohol problem

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So I do tend to drink everyday. Never to the point of not being able to walk, being sick etc. I don’t wake up and crave it, I just crave the feeling of being chilled out and being able to deal with stress better. DH thinks I am an alcoholic and has been going mad at me

No idea but I am sure alcoholics can word anything to make them think they are not an alcoholic

But if the alchohol is the thing that can give u that feeling then its the alchohol you are craving.

No judgement from me. I know i drink more than I should

But drinking alcohol every day is problematic

I think that if you crave the feeling that alcohol gives you, you drink every day AND your husband is concerned, then you may have a problem.

Try not drinking for a couple of weeks and see how you go. If the thought fills you with horror, then you may have your answer.

It isn't healthy to drink alcohol every day. You should have at least 2 alcohol free days a week for your liver to try and be healthy. You say you don't crave it but you are craving it, it just doesn't look like what you maybe think an alcoholic does.
Most alcoholics aren't how they look on TV, there are many functional alcoholics that go to work, manage their families etc. but the problem is that it escalates and causes relationships to be damaged and damaged to your health.
I think you need to be honest with yourself about how much you need it, how much you drink and speak to your GP.

How much do you drink every day? If it's one glass of wine, I think you're OK, although your liver would appreciate a couple of days a week off. If it's more, then I would say you do have a problem. Have you worked out roughly how many units you're drinking a week? That should give you a guideline.

You do have an alcohol problem because the amount you drink is causing your husband to be concerned. That is a problem.

There are online questionnaires that should give you an indication if you have a problem, Such as this one. https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/tools/drinking-check/#/overview

However, I suspect your husband might be right, if he is really concerned.

Drinking everyday is not particularly healthy. How much are you drinking as there is a big difference between having 1 glass of wine with dinner and one bottle a day. You say you dont crave it but when was the last time you didn't drink? Can you go a day without alcohol? I think it would be a good idea to re assess your relationship with alcohol.

"I drink everyday."

I didn't need to read any further.

How would you feel if you couldn't have a drink)?

Yes you do have a problem.You are depending on a drink every day.How many units are you drinking a week.Can you go without for a month?Really think about it and if your DH is concerned then address this with him.Seek help before you are drinking more every day which will happen.Good luck ,being dependant is not a place you want to be in.

If you drink alcohol every day because you need it to relax if you are not already an alcoholic you are on the brink of it.
I have seen this before and dependency creeps up on you while you don't realise it. And denial is common too.
Try and have at least a couple of alcohol free days a week and then if you can limit yourself to having alcohol on only a couple of days a week

You may be surprised how many units you are actually drinking. The online drinking calculators can help.
Depending on how much you are drinking can you make some changes to cut down? You may have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

Bafflingly blind if you think drinking every day is ok because you don’t get fall down drunk. Don’t drink anything till this time next week. If you can’t do that then visit your GP and seek support.

DH rarely drinks so I think that’s why he gets so weird about it. I don’t drink Sundays as that’s when DH is at home all day and I don’t really think about it. I just play games on my phone and/or read and I don’t tend to think about it. I just get so relaxed after a few and I love the feeling. If I do have a problem (and I am not afraid to admit it, I will go to the gp)

When you've decided that the bar for having a problem is set at vomiting and not being able to walk...it sounds like there's a problem.

I’m a teacher and drank pretty much every day over the 6 weeks. I went out last night and didn’t drink as I knew it was becoming a habit. It is a problem. Could you not drink for a week? If you can’t then yes, you have a problem.

Generally it's not simply the amount, it's the dependence on it. If you can't/don't want to do without it, and would lie to others/yourself about it, you are in problem territory.

Most people don’t “think about it” at all.

You’re drinking every day and you’re upsetting those closest to you with your drinking. You have an alcohol problem.

As someone who drinks frequently i do think its worth thinking about this. I make a point of not drinking a couple of times a week because I dont want to feel dependent, even it is only on one or two glasses.

In my case I realised its very much linked to cooking di ner which actually helped me to realise its less dependency and more habit , but it still needs to be managed and watched.

What is your dh's issue? Is it jist the fact you do or does he feel your behaviour is impacted? Do you say no to things in evening because you cant drink? Are tou less able/willing to engage with family life?

If you don’t have a dependency you’re on your way to developing one. Take this as an opportunity to act and change the course you’re on. For your sake and for your loved ones.

Interesting that the day you don't drink is when he's at home. But it doesn't look like you do anything together in that time. When you drink when he's not there how many do you have?