To not want to cook for my sister and nephew when she comes over?

[Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar]

My sister lives in Australia with my nephew, soon to be 12.
She's coming over for a visit next month and obviously we spend as much time as possible with her while she's here.
Last time she came was Easter last year and I had everyone round my house for an Easter roast.
My mum is asking me to get everyone at mine together again for a roast as I have the biggest house and my roasts are "amazing" (they are, even if I do say so myself 😜) and she's told my sister that she's sure I will do this and sister is now looking forward to a "proper British roast". Great.

Last time she was here, she came into my kitchen while I was cooking, opened the oven while my YORKSHIRES were in there (!!!!) and put in a cheese and tomato pizza. She then gave this to her son because "he won't eat roasts".
This pizza was not discussed with me, she didn't ask if she could shove it in my oven and made no attempt to get nephew to join in and eat what the rest of us were eating. I then had to try and get my kids to eat their vegetables while their cousin is sat two feet away, chowing down on pizza.

I don't want pizzagate happening again, and I don't want nephew eating something my kids would rather be eating right in front if them (they like roasts, but it's PIZZA) but sister will insist its necessary because nephew is autistic.

I have suggested that he eat before he comes but sister says she doesn't want him excluded (neither do I)

I've suggested we all just have pizza but sister wants her "proper British roast" and I love cooking for everyone and giving my family food cooked with love.

What to do?

There's a lot of anger on here about something for which there is an easy solution.
OP, good luck with your lovely roast, just go with the pizza situation and enjoy the time with your sister. 🌻

Some people really scare me. (Other posters, not the OP).

@seratoninmoonbeams

umm because OP’s sister insisted OP cook her a roast? Op was only doing as she’d been asked.

She sounds pretty rigid and fixed in thinking to me!
Sister coming over from Australia and OP wants to cook a roast because OP loves cooking roasts and hosting and cannot be flexible to accommodate a pizza for her nephew who has autism.
So many sensible suggestions on this thread for very very simple alternatives that would keep everyone, including OP, happy and she can still be the amazing hostess and bask in the compliments about her fantastic roast.

TBH I think many of us are parents of autistic children, and your distain and lack of understanding came across from your first post.

Cook nephews pizza in oven because he will only have a certain brand.

Get takeaway pizza for everyone else.

Easy.

No, it isn't.

I don't even know how to do that.

I can only guess this person meant to use quotation marks in their previous comment

@noworklifebalance

NO, OP cooked roast because her sister insisted she did. Read OP’s posts.

Op has explained her reasoning for the suggestion now

Stop coming up with reasonable solutions.. we need a problem to solve…. you’ve made it easy!

@SouthLondonMum22

OP’s sister wanted the roast and for OP to make it. OP wasn’t doing it for the good of her own health, she offered for pizzas all round, sister refused. If anyone is the selfish one here it’s the sister, not Op.

Some people on this thread are being accused of not understanding or appreciating the needs of children with autism and their parents. Personally, I would say there is a large number of people on this thread who do not understand the complications of cooking a proper Sunday roast from scratch for 18 people in a home kitchen, particularly from the point of view of getting Yorkshire puddings right. If you are a home cook who enjoys cooking a special meal and takes pride in serving up a delicious meal that most can enjoy, you certainly cannot let someone just "plonk a pizza" in the oven without a prior conversation, in those (or any, actually) circumstances, @hoohaal .

Order the kids dominos and chuck them infront of the telly then the adults can have a peaceful roast its one meal and its family coming all the way from Australia to see you. I.think cooking them a nice meal is the bare minimum considering how far they're traveling and the cost of that.

@Letsgoroundagainnow

OP wanted to do easy, it was sister insisting OP cooked roast.

Ni, please do come up with reasonable suggestions! That's what I wanted!!

Thank you!! Xx

@Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar I was going to make a similar suggestion to @Maray1967 about pizzas for the kids etc and Sis brings it etc.

I would also make it quite clear that part of the deal of you cooking two meals is that YOU heat the pizza and she doesn’t set foot in your kitchen and/or agrees that there is a 3 metre/10 feet approx exclusion zone round your oven, particularly when the Yorkshires are in (though they do survive pre-cooking if you want to).

Good luck OP!

I was replying to the quote thread, and the previous poster in that thread.

I'm pissed off on your behalf about the Yorkshires! Absolutely appalling behaviour to open the oven door during the sacred Yorkshire time.

Otherwise I agree with PP, kids get pizza party, grownups get roast. Easy.

Well, I’m glad you’re not my sister.

OP can say no. She doesn't have to make the roast just because sister wants one.

If OP wants to make the roast, fine. Takeaway pizzas for kids, favourite oven pizza for nephew which also solves issue of having enough room in the oven.

Still an easy solution.

I've suggested we all just have pizza but sister wants her "proper British roast" and I love cooking for everyone and giving my family food cooked with love.

reads to me like OP also wants to cook the roast.

Tell her to leave your bloody oven alone!!!

Don't get up at 04:00hrs, get a timer for the slow cooker if you want it on then.

Get a pizza delivery for the kids.

Cool your jets and have a nice time with your family.

Hmm. Shop bought pizza takes, what, 10 mins to cook? Shove them in while she's serving the roast. Done.

You cooking a roast isn't the only way she can eat one. Go out for a meal at the local pub on a Sunday, everyone can choose what they like, no drama.

I would ring round and ask parents with children roast or shop bought pizza, put pizzas in as soon as your yorkshires are out, not sure of the age of dc but you should be able to squeeze at least three in at a time, they can share the first batch, takes 10/12 minutes, recruit dsis to be on pizza cooking / cutting duty while you dish up the roast 💕💐