Woman shouted because Dd wee’d in the car park

[Hetoldherthatmagicdoesntexist]

Dd, 6 and I were at the supermarket today
We were in a rush, had walked all the way back to car, I was struggling with three large bags, putting them in the boot.
Dd was moaning and difficult most of the day, she said she was desperate for the toilet. I said to just wait a moment as I had to put the bags in etc and we’d go back. She started getting upset saying she was really desperate and about to wee and could she wee by our car quickly. I let her.
As I was fastening her car seat, an older woman walked past and shouted’There are loos inside you know!’ in not a very nice way. I shouted back ‘Excuse me?’ She said she was just saying there were loos inside that can be used (again, it wasn’t said in a nice way’ I said to her ‘She’s 6 years and was desperate and couldn’t hold it in, she’s 6!’ She pulled a face and got in her car.
Dd was upset and asked if she’d done something wrong and felt scared of the mean lady.

It really pissed me off, was I out of order??

You should ask about kids sitting inside shopping trollies next OP. That really gets a bunfight started 🤣🛒🛒🛒

I thought you were going to say she was 3.
YABU. A 6 year old could have held it and walked back into the shop. 6 years old are too big to be peeing in car parks.

I can’t believe the reactions on here. It’s not ideal but a desperate child even of six years old is a desperate child. One of my children had bladder issues and would often get caught short. Don’t worry about it OP, I wouldn’t have batted an eyelid, just seen a stressed mum trying to do her best with her child.

Peeing in public is antisocial behaviour and you’re the unreasonable one not the woman passing by. I wouldn’t have said anything myself but I would have thought you were lazy not taking your dd back into the toilets. Nothing you’ve said in your defence is a good excuse for this behaviour.

In many areas you can get fined for urinating in public because it’s disgusting. While nobody is likely to fine a child it’s a life lesson in common decency that your child (and I guess you) ought to learn.

I can’t either. Shocking, shocking amount of horrible judgements & lack of empathy.

And yet men pee where ever they damn well please. I live rurally far away from public toilets, and often see men peeing by the side of the road, not bothering to even to his why fact. If people see woman squatting to pee in the way men do they hurl abuse but men get a free pass.

Nobody is likely to fine a child because most reasonable people (outside of this pile on) understand the difference between adults & kids.

And there is a hell of a difference between an adult who can’t be arsed to use a toliet & a child who has left it too late.

*hide the fact

I always had my children go to the loo before going out. Always. Because I did not want to find myself in a situation where they urgently needed to wee.

Piss in a car park is disgusting, it leaves a horrid smell. If it had been in the nature it would have been absorbed so really different.

Why didn't you just go back towards the shop with your daughter to visit the loo @Hetoldherthatmagicdoesntexist ? I get it that you wanted to leave but it's really not acceptable to pee in a car park and I think you know that.

I think you could have done better though I appreciate the difficulty. You could have taken her to a quieter spot if not the toilets or anticipated this if you know your child can’t hold.
Someone else now has to step into her urine in the car park . She’s not 2, she will have to hold it at school.

Wild wee on Dartmoor with no toilets around- fine. But sorry OP I've got 2 under 3 and I keep a potty in my car for this reason. I think at 6 I'd expect my children to hold on for a minute or so unless there are medical issues that you haven't mentioned.

Because the child couldnt hold it long enough to make it to the shop

So you have never had a child over 3 but feel qualified to say how you think they should act?

You know your child has difficulty so you need to pre empt this and go before you leave the house and the supermarket

This thread!😂

Do l care about a small child being caught short and having a wee in a car park?

Not in the least. Accidents happen. She’s 6 This thread is just a massive pile on.

I’d have told the interfering woman to fuck off in her shoes. The child is 6. It was none of that woman’s business.

Obviously everyone on MN has perfectl children who never need a wee suddenly.

What a nasty society we seem to live in now,

Not pleasant of you to allow that. At 6 she should have had warning and been able to wait.

That is ridiculous. At 6 it is absolutely a reasonable expectation for her to hold it until she gets inside to the toilet. You were in the car park of a supermarket not the middle of nowhere!

Unless there is a huge backstory….you didn’t have circumstances beyond laziness.

It’s the way of the internet threads start going one way & people join the pile on.

Yet another person will probably be along in a minute to sternly inform you that 6 does not meet their definition of a “small child”.

Yes, perfect children & perfect mothers who never get caught out.

I suspect some posters have babies & toddlers & think a 6 year old is a grown up monster & not as cute as their little ones therefore hang her! And others miss having young kids themselves. People always project their stuff.

Quite. You have to wonder about the delicate mentality of people who are so desperately offended by a young child caught short in a car park, with a busy mum obviously struggling with shopping.
Ridiculous responses, lacking all sense of proportion.
YANBU.

My DD, when little, could also not hold it when it got to a certain urgency. She had MANY medical tests to get it diagnosed. Because of that, when we were somewhere, I would ask when we got there, and before we left, if she needed the bathroom. I did that until she was old enough and could sense it better.

Does your DD hold it through the night? See, because mine actually had the condition, she could not. So, again, we worked out a way to cope until she got old enough.

Sorry, but I would NOT have allowed her to pee in a parking lot. If you know she is like this, it's up to you to help her not feel the need to pee in a parking lot. She really is not that "little".

Ds is 3 and had to the other day when I'd already strapped his younger sibling in the car.
That is the only situation I would! 6 and just her, she can find a toilet

With everything going on in the world, this isn’t that deep.

Child needed a wee.

We all wee.

I bet of this was midnight the car park would be full of men walking home from the pub peeing in the car park.

Small child in daylight??

But she’s not allowed to be a “young child caught short” because posters have decided that 2/3 is the cut off for “small child” and children above that should be able to hold it 100% of the time or undergo medical investigation.

And she can’t be a “busy mum”, she has to be told she is “.lazy” and “ridiculous”.

Think you for being a voice of reason in a pile on.

If this sudden urgency to urinate has been going on for so long, why have you not taken your DD to a doctor?

Your defence is that she was desperate and she is only 6……….but how much longer are you going to carry 9n allowing this?

And actually, urinating in public is an offence.