Woman shouted because Dd wee’d in the car park

[Hetoldherthatmagicdoesntexist]

Dd, 6 and I were at the supermarket today
We were in a rush, had walked all the way back to car, I was struggling with three large bags, putting them in the boot.
Dd was moaning and difficult most of the day, she said she was desperate for the toilet. I said to just wait a moment as I had to put the bags in etc and we’d go back. She started getting upset saying she was really desperate and about to wee and could she wee by our car quickly. I let her.
As I was fastening her car seat, an older woman walked past and shouted’There are loos inside you know!’ in not a very nice way. I shouted back ‘Excuse me?’ She said she was just saying there were loos inside that can be used (again, it wasn’t said in a nice way’ I said to her ‘She’s 6 years and was desperate and couldn’t hold it in, she’s 6!’ She pulled a face and got in her car.
Dd was upset and asked if she’d done something wrong and felt scared of the mean lady.

It really pissed me off, was I out of order??

I would probably have been too scared and just looked at you with disgust but my god would I have judged you and your daughter.

Luckily you can get your kicks here anonymously 😆

Totally agree. I bet if one of her school friends had been there with you two, she would magically have been able to to hold it to walk back to the shop. If she’s incontinent to the extent that she can’t, she needs to be in pads/nappies.
Does she pee in the school playground if she doesn’t want to walk to the toilet? Would she pee in the street if out for a walk and 5 minutes from home? I actually can’t believe people line the OP exist. Well I can but it’s grim.

I actually can’t believe people line the OP exist.

You read the news or at least come across it occasionally? There are murderers, rapists, pedos out there but you cannot believe that people like the OP exist?

Still haven't seen a single suggestion as to what OP should have done instead given that she didn't believe her daughter would have made it to the bathroom.

@Velmy there hasn't been one.

Sorry, but you are old enough to know when your daughter is getting desperate.

You've had enough parenting experience by the time your child is 6.

There are public standards others like to keep in place and no amount of excuses will exonerate you.

It's probably not nice to hear but I think it's needed so you understand why people are reacting in a certain way.

Polite society is that way for a reason.

Unless you’re in the countryside in the middle of no where this is really not ok.

I was expecting a toilet training 2-3 year old and a potty was forgotten. Unless there were special considerations (in which case, some sort of potty or nappy should be on hand), 6 is far too old.

@Tiddlywinkly if you have a potty where do you dispose of the wee? The toilets in my supermarket are at the back of the shop.

I had one that was a potty/ trainer toilet seat with a disposable liner. A bit like this https://www.amazon.co.uk/Travel-Potty-Liners-Disposable-Biodegradeable/dp/B09LMPTSZH/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?crid=30G6LSZR2KKK0&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Fm5SoLGs_nsoeuo9VHh9_NHDqeAKJNQvvohjhgC_qE012h0ZG6F7DjlSfdpWsA13rf0qEqIWsvNkkqP9F6PrWM0q2jq25Gaisqqgiwv7X_naium6fVQ6t4NOm9U-NFucl8-iU2EBtFHwQt_y4s9GsNWWW6I-yxDevMRcsJeg0q38UuDoiLoDPRDc1VMozwTXqJZv42DLi6vCToD55Rw81w.fn863vxuNbwvf4x0ByKN_9YoOhQx1WhLFqCe_O0Gb5o&dib_tag=se&keywords=travel+potty+with+disposable+liner&qid=1757132240&s=baby&sprefix=travel+potty+with+disposable+liner%2Cbaby%2C162&sr=1-12

In the car park - gross.

Under a tree or bush - okay.

@Tiddlywinkly so you take the wee home with you?

At that age I would be expecting children to have accidents (yes some children don't mature as quickly as others & need further help) or waiting for the toilet

I wouldn't expect them to take their pants down & pee in the public carpark while others are walking around

You daughter learnt a hard lesson on public acceptability & other peoples standards tell her it's ok but something yous are not going to do again & reinforce "this is why people wait"/"why we need to stop for toilets even if your not yet ready"

This thread is unbelievable. I have a 7 year old who very occasionally can’t hold it. And what would have happened if I hadn’t let him pre in said car park is that he would have wet himself on the way to the toliet and ended up with pee on the supermarket floor.

And contrary to what people here seem to think he has never had a problem in school etc.

It’s a child who cant hold it, regardless of what you think they “should” be able to do.

Please though do tell what OP should have done?

Yes I did. No leaks

I still haven't got over the shock of seeing a woman squatting and peeing in a service station car park only yards from the entrance whilst presumably her friends were finding it hilarious.In broad daylight. Absolutely disgusting. Maybe in future factor in a toilet trip as you leave the supermarket. 6 is old enough to hold it and I say that as an adult with an overactive bladder who when I need to go I really need to go.

This thread is unbelievable

It's standard Friday night fare, presumably some posters hit the wine & feel the need to lash out.

There has been a spate of posts lately that are not normal child hood development but relate to inappropriate behaviour in public (I.e. 10 year olds naked at the beach) and now this.

This isn’t a typical post from mumsnet. I think whoever posted it was trying to get other parents to talk about their children peeing in public.

Six year olds don’t behave like this.

that is completely out of order. If she can’t hold her wee more than 60 seconds though you do need to seek medical help

Six year olds don’t behave like this.

@Muffinmam Are you paediatric doctor?

If she can’t hold her wee more than 60 seconds

It's gone down to 60 seconds now. 😆 Why do so many posters just make things up?

I work in a school with 6 year olds and this does happen. Probably around once per term. Without exception it is boys though 😆Never had a 6 year old girl drop and wee in the playground. The woman shouting will have probably been a reminder to DD to go when she needs and I’d have used the shouting as an opportunity to discuss that, as if she was so desperate she couldn’t make it back to the shop then she’d have needed pretty badly while passing the toilets in the shop but just hasn’t asked to go for whatever reason. Assuming no SEN/medical issues of course but presumably if either of these then you need to take a bit more responsibility to prompt her to go where toilets are available

FFS where exactly do you expect a dog to wee? Should one carry a bloody hosepipe to wash it down with just listen to yourself ! OP you should have gone back into the supermarket

I work in a school with 6 year olds and this does happen. Probably around once per term. Without exception it is boys though

I've experienced it with girls

Why do some people think the only children entitled to have needs are cute little toddlers?