men on mumsnet

[LittleMi55Nobody]

ladies..just wondering..are you fed up of men posting on mumsnet..why don't they start their own "dadsnet/mansnet" group..im getting fed up of obvious "male" comments undermining our woman issues....quite honestly id like them to fuck off cos im not interested in their opinons on womanship

The bottom line is MN profit from more users so they are not going to exclude men. And any drama caused by them only increases the sites profile anyway.

It’s a win win for MN.

This is true, I think. The threads where some form of controversy is created by MRA types popping up with some ridiculous notion tend to attract a lot of interest, as multiple women challenge them, and so encourage more participation than those where posters are largely in agreement.
They also make for an interesting read as we watch the MRA arguements annihilated by women. Though my preference on here is to hear the views of other women, those type of male posters do, stooge like, provide a springboard for some very useful contributions from women.

You don't know who is male or female on here though.
Half the time people get called a man just because someone thinks they don't post or think like a woman should (whatever that means 😁) and so they must be a man. Gets pretty tiring and boring pathetic after a while.

Here are only two examples; you as a male calling women 'bitter'.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 03/09/2025 09:02
I cant believe that on this site of all sites, people think in this way. It is hilarious and sad.
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There's a lot of bitter women on here.

and

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 03/09/2025 09:48
"informal response" clearly being shorthand for "an offensive stereotype that's demonstrably untrue but is nevertheless common here because MN is full of bitter women".

It's an interesting thing, I happen to post under a male username, people seem to think that this then gives them the right to say male privilege and my views are one sided. Yet, under a different username, with the same views, I'm applauded.

It's not necessarily the advice or opinion that is given, but the person (or who they believe) that the advice comes from, that people seem to have a problem with. For all you know. I'm a 26-year-old single woman with a quirky male user name, much like someone with the username Unicorn5648948 is not a unicorn.

You are a man and you do have male privilege and male views. That you sometimes try to hide makes you manipulative, not a victim.

Again, I could be anyone. Would you believe me more or less if i said i was a 26 year old woman from France now living in the UK as a Man, or is my username enough to condem me?

Never once did i say or imply i was a victim, A victim of what I'm not sure.

I'm saying, sometimes it's not how good the advice is, if it slightly differs from what they want ot hear or their views, it must be a man giving the advice. I see loads of posts on here stating just that, and then posters have to come back and say, Yep, I'm not a man, all because they have slightly differnt views and some posteres have a hard time accepting or just acknoewledging that, shock horror, that people of the same sex may have different views to them.

Unless I'm mistaken this is a public forum, i follow the same rules as everyone else, however i dont ever remember one of my posts being taken down by MN due to breaching MN rules, of which there are many on this very thread.

I'm happy for anyone to call me out or have discussion with me on anything i post. I dont edit my posts, if something is pointed out to me and my view, opinion or an apologiy is required I'd post it direct on the thread.

MRAs do tend to be men. Though I accept there may be the occasional woman who for some reason believes the rights and safety of men are under threat from women and/or the rights of men should be front and centre.
If any of the MRA posters are in fact women, I'd really be interested in what motivates them as women to be MRAs. Unfortunately they never give that perspective and tend to just say the same things as the men.

Whether the advice you or anyone else gives is 'good' is (unless it's on a matter of fact, not opinion) subjective. Generally when advising on a subjective topic you will get mixed reactions, with some people thinking its good advice and some not. You are making an assumption that people don't like your advice BECAUSE they think you're a man from your user name; when it's just as likely they dislike your advice AND think you're a man from your user name. It's quite arrogant of you to think your advice is so good the only reason women may disagree is because you're a man.

It's an open site but to be honest I come here to hear what women have to say and am not that interested in male opinions in this forum. As if we didn't have to listen to men enough in life!

I think you've hit the nail on the head. I don't care if people agree or not, but when they disagree and cite the very reason is because I'm a man ( or other posts as seen all over MN), that's a different story. At that point, it's not an assumption; they have directly stated their reasons.

Don't agree with me or my viewpoint, absolutely fine, I don't agree with theirs, but I'd not say I don't agree with them because of their sex - just because I have a different opinion on something, doesn't mean I'm correct and doesn't mean they are wrong.

Opinions are like arseholes, we all have one, but some people should really keep theirs hidden.

I'm the opposite as in I like to get a wide range of opinions from everyone.

I seem to be bombarded with men's opinions in every other area of life and so I like that mumsnet is the mostly a female perspective.

You've posted as a dad and a man numerous times. You are a man.

Women are allowed to disagree with you because you are man. Men and women do not ever have the same life experiences - I am entitled to dismiss your views on certain topics because you are a man if I want to.
Only men think that maleness is irrelevant.

I don't have an issue with them seeking advice etc but I do fucking hate reading a thread about harm being done to women and they charge in with their 'as a man' posts. I don't care to read their opinions on it.

Yep and then it's becomes about the man and his god given right to express his opinion wherever and however he wants. It becomes all about them, just like everywhere else.

I don't ask people if they are men based on their posts, as I think its pointless as if they are intent on pretending otherwise they're not going to be 'ah, you got me!'. However I would sometimes like to know.
I tend to post in a way that i think puts women and our rights front and centre, and if I get disagreement I'd genuinely like to know if it's really from a woman.
Not because I think I'm so right no woman could possibly disagree, but because I'd like to know what about a post I believe supports women a woman disagrees with. Thats about being open minded, wanting to learn. If women are saying something else about womens issues, have i got it wrong, etc.I'm interested in the views of all women, those that disagree as much as those that agree.
I admit to being far less interested in the views of men (on issues where a posters sex is relevant). Like this thread for example. I'm interested in why women want or don't want men on MN. Yet here we have men telling us why they want to be on here, which isn't the point of the discussion at all.

As someone who grew up with a violent and controlling father I am quite cynical of a lot of the men who post here. l recognise a pattern where they portray themselves in a reasonable light and their partners as unreasonable so they can receive sympathy and then go back to their wives and say, "See everyone else thinks you're mad or awful and feels sorry for me."

You could certainly argue that on a parenting forum dads have more in common with mums than non-parents.

Only on threads where the subject matter relates to parenting issues. On the vast number of threads that don't, women will tend to have more in common with each other. I doubt anyone would have any issue with a dad's opinion on how to encourage a three year old to eat vegetables, or whether Centre Parcs was better than Butlins, yet for some reason you get fewer 'man here' posts on those threads than you do on the ones relating to adult relationships or social issues that impact women.

Ah yes! Quite enjoy the sad sack ‘Why is she so cold and distant’ posts - yet they never want to listen to people offering the wife’s hypothetical POV or ways to potentially address it (which you’d imagine would be why they’d post on a female-centric forum) but to garner sympathy and attention from the ‘poor you’ posters. Then they start replying to them at a 3:1 rate, and you can almost hear the opening DM getting formulated.

Not a fan of the knee-jerk man-hating either though. We all have our own cross to bear, as my mum used to say.

Only a woman would think womenness is irrelevant?

I get this is predominantly a woman's forum, I generally pipe up on some of the more (choice words carefully) unhinged comments on here, some of the things I've read are completely bat shite crazy and utter fiction. IMO. But I'd not say i agree with a poster just because they are a man, or disagree because they are a woman. I take very little from a username.

I specifically set my username to identify myself as a man, not because I believe my opinion carries more weight or should not be subject to disagreement. But to specifically say someone doesn't agree with me because I'm a man or my opinion is irrelevant does nothing for either of the sexes.

I used to use a MN name which was taken from a character in a show who happened to be male and if people started to disagree with me they'd start using the name as if it proved I was a man.

There lots of areas of the forum where a certain type of posters response is more helpful. On the investment chat threads I much prefer to hear from wealthy posters men or women. No point having investment advice from someone on minimum wage for example.