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Roundmirrors · 2025-09-05T12:40:22+00:00

My best friend went into labour 5 days ago messaged me to say it was all happening, very exciting, she was about to go into hospital etc etc... we have been through thick and thin together and besties since we were little. It's now 5 days on and I still haven't heard anything more. I have messaged her, but she hasn't read my message (it has been received). I'm really worried about her/baby. Aibu to consider messaging her family members to check everything is ok? The more time passes, the more worried I am. It's just so unlike her to not message... 😢 Sorry title is wrong! Should say 'message my friend's family'!

Plastictreees · 08/09/2025 18:47

Pleased there’s a happy outcome. All the catastrophic predictions on this thread were wholly unnecessary.

lizhmj · 08/09/2025 18:58

The best outcome, I bet you sleep tonight.

Matsukaze · 08/09/2025 19:08

Roundmirrors · 08/09/2025 18:12

Hello - a happy update 🎉 🎉 🎉 Thankfully everything is now fine and both my wonderful friend and beautiful new baby are doing well ❤️ They are both home! Sorry I didn't update sooner - I've been at work.

It turns out that baby was born quickly after she messaged me, totally ok etc... but my friend took a turn and was very poorly. I won't go into details as it's not my story to share, but she was in hospital for a week and too poorly to message. She didn't even pick up her phone until she got home as it ran out of battery and she didn't bother charging it, because she understandably wasn't with it ❤️‍🩹

She even apologised for not getting in touch sooner - I of course told her not to be silly and I was just grateful she is fine!! I didn't tell her that I was starting to fear the worst ❤️ But hopefully she's going to go from strength to strength now. 💕 Thanks everyone.

Bubba is super cute and I can't wait for cuddles!!!
... I'm still don't think that I'll be getting my friends husbands numbers 'just incase' though 😂 😂 thanks mumsnet! X

Oh thank goodness! So relieved to hear everything is well, I've kept an eye on the thread. So sorry to hear your friend has had a rough time over the last week but glad that she is on the mend and that all is well with little one. Thank you for letting us know x

thepariscrimefiles · 08/09/2025 19:23

You sound so relieved and happy OP. I'm so glad that mother and baby are both doing well now. You're a very good friend!

NorthenAdventure · 08/09/2025 21:56

Yay! Lovely news!! ❤️

NorthenAdventure · 08/09/2025 22:02

LovelySunnyDayToday · 07/09/2025 21:46

FFS. If it was my best friend, I would absolutely respect the fact that she’s not in a place to talk and let her tell me when she’s ready for a face to face visit. That’s loving and putting someone else’s feelings before your own.

To visit unannounced now when there’s been no reply to texts would be all about OP’s feelings. Give her space to let you know when she’s ready. That’s what I meant by just popping on round would be obnoxious.

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Spot on! And it sounds like the OP did the right thing ... and all is fine now anyway. So glad 😊

Candlesmess · 08/09/2025 22:09

Great news.
Keep an eye on her.
This will have taken a lot out of her physically and emotionally.
She may get a bad dose of the blues.
Low iron levels can make post partum very challenging.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 08/09/2025 22:38

Thank goodness ! Thank you for updating us.

RisingSunn · 08/09/2025 23:14

Aw excellent! You sound over the moon and like such a lovely friend.

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Roundmirrors · 09/09/2025 07:52

Thanks all. Yes, my inkling that something wasn't right was correct... I'm just so unbelievably glad they're both home and fine now!! Phew!

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Roundmirrors · 09/09/2025 07:52

Thanks all. Yes, my inkling that something wasn't right was correct... I'm just so unbelievably glad they're both home and fine now!! Phew!

Oh thank goodness!!! 🎉🎉🎉

mumuseli · 09/09/2025 10:53

I’m so glad they are both okay now. Thanks for taking the time to update us.
Gosh yes you are right that most people’s first reaction here (including myself) was that something had happened to the baby… we were less likely to consider that the baby mum herself was unwell.
It’s made me realise that the standard message often sent out by birth partners saying “mum and baby are well” is important and relevant!

HardyCrow · 09/09/2025 13:31

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Rubbish

tinylegoscars · 09/09/2025 14:00

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Plastictreees · 09/09/2025 14:30

Someone being incapacitated due to ill health and having no battery on their phone is not them asserting their boundaries! It’s perfectly reasonable to contact a close friend in this instance, or family member to enquire about their wellbeing. Thankfully the situation that the OP described has been resolved.

From reading the bizarre responses on this thread I can see why many MNetters have no friends.

rainbowstardrops · 09/09/2025 14:43

I’m glad your friend and her baby are well and home now!

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247achybreakyheart · 09/09/2025 22:56

Roundmirrors · 08/09/2025 18:12

Hello - a happy update 🎉 🎉 🎉 Thankfully everything is now fine and both my wonderful friend and beautiful new baby are doing well ❤️ They are both home! Sorry I didn't update sooner - I've been at work.

It turns out that baby was born quickly after she messaged me, totally ok etc... but my friend took a turn and was very poorly. I won't go into details as it's not my story to share, but she was in hospital for a week and too poorly to message. She didn't even pick up her phone until she got home as it ran out of battery and she didn't bother charging it, because she understandably wasn't with it ❤️‍🩹

She even apologised for not getting in touch sooner - I of course told her not to be silly and I was just grateful she is fine!! I didn't tell her that I was starting to fear the worst ❤️ But hopefully she's going to go from strength to strength now. 💕 Thanks everyone.

Bubba is super cute and I can't wait for cuddles!!!
... I'm still don't think that I'll be getting my friends husbands numbers 'just incase' though 😂 😂 thanks mumsnet! X

Aw this is absolutely amazing news! Huge congrats to your friends & her beautiful new baby- I'm incredibly happy for you all- absolutely the outcome everyone was hoping & praying for so I'm so glad that's the case- give that baby extra cuddles from me plz 🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗💗

NorthenAdventure · 10/09/2025 00:07

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Yes I agree with you... and yep, turns out you were spot on 👌

NorthenAdventure · 10/09/2025 00:08

Plastictreees · 09/09/2025 14:30

Someone being incapacitated due to ill health and having no battery on their phone is not them asserting their boundaries! It’s perfectly reasonable to contact a close friend in this instance, or family member to enquire about their wellbeing. Thankfully the situation that the OP described has been resolved.

From reading the bizarre responses on this thread I can see why many MNetters have no friends.

Erm... have you read your own post?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

NorthenAdventure · 10/09/2025 00:09

mumuseli · 09/09/2025 10:53

I’m so glad they are both okay now. Thanks for taking the time to update us.
Gosh yes you are right that most people’s first reaction here (including myself) was that something had happened to the baby… we were less likely to consider that the baby mum herself was unwell.
It’s made me realise that the standard message often sent out by birth partners saying “mum and baby are well” is important and relevant!

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That's a really good point!

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Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 10:18

She WAS incapacitated! Obviously the OP is not going to be top priority when she’s just had a baby and is extremely ill 😪how obtuse and missing the point do you have to be. It’s resolved now so move on.

NorthenAdventure · 10/09/2025 18:49

Plastictreees · 10/09/2025 10:18

She WAS incapacitated! Obviously the OP is not going to be top priority when she’s just had a baby and is extremely ill 😪how obtuse and missing the point do you have to be. It’s resolved now so move on.

Obviously the OP is not going to be top priority when she’s just had a baby and is extremely ill 😪

But that's literally what she said? Not sure how she's missing the point 🤦🏼‍♀️