Back to school skinnies - what to say

[broadly]

Private school (relevant as this relatively is expensive) - mums arriving back significantly smaller than they were before the summer.

Do I say anything? Like they look great? Or just ignore it. None of them are really good enough friends to openly ask about WLI, and I wouldn't ask how. But just to acknowledge?

It's called poor communication! Some people do love an inflammatory WLI thread though.
So no-one has lost 10ish stone then? Just a normal amount to lose at a healthy rate over the summer?

WLI is not a normal way to lose weight (yet), its exceedingly fast for people who have previously 'tried everything' but are suddenly succeeding and arriving back at school looking HALF the size

Most people on WLI are losing about 2lbs a week. It took me 6 months to lose 3 stone on WLI. No one is HALF the size in 8 weeks. Or was that just more hyperbole?

I’ve recently lost weight on WLI. I love when people say “you look great” but i hate when they want to talk about how, ask me if I’m in the jab etc.its too personal for small talk.

Unless you're really good friends, don't say anything. Might be something positive like healthy living and exercise, or could be cancer, bereavement or stress.

It was, dear

I’m on WLI. I am 49 years old. I’ve lost (and regained) more than 20kg (3 stone) about 7 times in my adult life. I’m only 5foot tall so that weight makes a huge difference to my appearance.

When my kids were at school (private as it happens) I’d HATE going back to school after summer hols because I’d either have gained or lost significant weight and ever single pound would register on every face of every parent I spoke to. So humiliating.

As you might have guessed from my weight loss history, I have tried every single weight loss plan going. No bitchy little air quotes needed, @broadly. I’ve done low carb, WW, calorie counting, fasting, 5:2, Dukan, South Beach, Scarsdale (god, does anyone remember that one?!) … the list goes on. So I’m not ‘suddenly successful’ in using WLI. Christ only knows, I KNOW HOW TO LOSE WEIGHT.

Will I be able to maintain the loss beyond the 6 months I’ve currently maintained (on a lower dose)? I don’t know.

But THANK FUCK I won’t have kids at school anymore so I don’t have to worry about the likes of people like YOU canvassing opinions on how you should react to my weight.

My weight, my size, my health are no one’s business. There is no need to comment at all. Get a life, you utter weirdo

Over a million users in the UK so it's not an unusual weight loss tool.
So you're back to saying people have lost half their body weight in two months? Or just talking bollocks so everyone says oh wow yes you must comment loudly about their huge weight loss?
Are you actually after advice about what to say to people about their weight - the answer is still nothing, obviously - or did you just want to start another boring I hate WLI thread?

God, no. Why would you comment? Do you come back after Christmas and tell them all they’ve overdone the liqueur chocolates?

Yes Im wondering whether to comment on it or not.

No, I do not know their exact measurements, weight, dress size or fucking shoe size lol

You look fabulous. I’d take that and it could mean skin / hair / outfit. But there is no call to comment. “Nice to see you” is also good 👍🏻

Well the overwhelming consensus is no, so hopefully you've got your answer and don't need to write any more hyperbolic nonsense about your acquaintances' bodies, stressing how giant the big fat fatties were to start with.

I had a sleeve before we broke up so have lost a lot and had some lovely "you look great did you have a nice holiday!" Comments

thsts all that's needed

Your words, not mine!

😘
What funny hobbies some people have.

Do you know what? The gym is my hobby😁

Have you suddenly lost weight though? A change is what OP is asking about.

I have lost weight before and it’s hard work and it’s motivating and encouraging when someone acknowledges it.

or did you just want to start another boring I hate WLI thread?

I’m putting money on it being that one.

Mine too! And I’m on WLI.

I wouldn’t mention it beyond “You look fab, did you have a good holiday?”

I and a work colleague have both lost a fair amount of weight this year. He was always very open about how he was doing it, I likewise, so it became an appropriate topic of conversation. But I still wouldn’t come out of nowhere with, “Hey, have you lost even more weight?”

Struggling to see the relevance of the private school mention! Who cares? Let them get on with it. I don’t understand the obsession with weight.

My kids are at an expensive private school and I've lost five stone on WLIs (over a year, not the summer!). I would hate it if a random school gate acquaintance that I chat to at pick up commented on my weight. Everyone so far has the good manners not to. I've had (and say to others) 'you look well' or a compliment on an outfit. No mention of my body. I don't know why anyone would find this difficult?

Why would you think it's ok to comment on anyones especially when you barely know them.

Its not difficult to compliment, if you must, without mentioning weight.

Private is irrelevant. Parents at non private also lose weight.

Some people become very cross when fat people lose weight.

Ugh don’t say anything.