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MemorableTrenchcoat · 02/09/2025 18:19

heroinechic · 02/09/2025 18:11

I didn’t vote because whilst I think she was being unreasonable to not message privately, she really isn’t being unreasonable to be irritated by the pervs at the school gate.

Re your comment about her being a single mum, perhaps she reflected on her choice and realised that he fell below her standards?

I’d be pretty embarrassed if my DH was engaged in a conversation like that tbh.

But he wasn't engaged in such a conversation. Someone made an unsolicited comment to him. What is there to be embarrassed about?

Laura95167 · 02/09/2025 18:19

I think it was wrong to call YOU out publicly for someone else's behaviour hes your DH not your naughty dog. If she wanted to make a public comment she should have dont that to the men at the time once the children were inside

But I bet your DH was not an innocent bystander who got interrupted before he could tell his dad mate that its inappropriate to perv on the teachers. I bet the other woman's DH told a similar tale about how he was the innocent bystander.

As for what you do, id ignore her. This way if handling it doesnt show her in a great light either. Suggest your DH avoids this other dad in future. You OP are the only one who has my sympathies

SaladAndChipsForTea · 02/09/2025 18:19

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:08

My DH would never, he isn’t that sort of man.

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Not my Nigel.

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Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

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childofthe607080s · 02/09/2025 18:20

You just reply - yes DH thought it was rather unpleasant too ?

SemperIdem · 02/09/2025 18:20

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

Working for a FTSE 100 doesn’t make your husband immune from being an arsehole. HTH

SeagullSam2027 · 02/09/2025 18:21

Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

Others may disagree.

Rhaidimiddim · 02/09/2025 18:21

namechangedforvalidreasons · 02/09/2025 17:53

Was right with ya til the final line. Is this a wind-up?

Thecsame. What has being a single mum got to do with the issue.
And good on her for telling the sexist bloke off - I'd be wanting to shake her hand.
The WhatsApp messages though - a bit OTT.

Whosunreasonable · 02/09/2025 18:21

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 17:52

I’ve been working today so my DH did the pick up.

I received a notification that I’d been tagged in the school Mum’s WhatsApp group. For transparency, I’ve copied it here:

“@(me) and @(another Mum) if your husbands want to comment on Miss X’s TITS then I suggest they do so when other parents are not in earshot!!!”

The other Mum saw this before I did and replied to say she had no idea what she is on about but would have appreciated a message privately.

The reply:

“I think you need to reflect on what type of men you have settled for as they are disgusting!”

Anyway, I sent on to DH to ask what on earth happened. He said a Dad he was stood waiting with asked him if he had seen our DS’s new teacher. DH said no as he didn’t do the morning drop off. The Dad basically replied something along the lines of you’ll be in for a treat as she has massive tits and before DH could reply, a Mum who overheard (not the one who sent the messages above) snapped at him to shut up.

AIBU to find the Mum completely out of order to have sent those messages? She has an absolute cheek to say what she has about me needing to ‘reflect’ and it’s rich coming from someone who is a single bloody Mum herself!

What has her being a single mum got to do with anything?
Bit judgemental don't you think???

Stowawaysue · 02/09/2025 18:21

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

but you did make it op
and it speaks volumes about you
and all the other detail - well it just confirms how trashy all this sounds.

Quackedout · 02/09/2025 18:21

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

@Dannii93 I think you're digging yourself a hole here, your husband sounds guilty as charged. And you slate single mums, and now adding hes a bigwig anyway

Digdongdoo · 02/09/2025 18:21

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

Lol OK. FTSE 100 or not, he's a twat and you're horribly judgemental. You're obviously as bad as each other, not so much picked wisely as birds of a feather.

BotterMon · 02/09/2025 18:22

You all sound as bad as each other.

Minnie798 · 02/09/2025 18:22

I can't stand people who do things like this so publicly. Intentionally trying to humiliate others on social media/ what's app groups ( especially a school parents one).
If it's any consolation, I'd read something like that and wonder what on earth she was playing at. Tagging you and another mum, it was just malicious and she could have told you both about this privately at school drop off. But only an announcement would do apparently.

ilovesooty · 02/09/2025 18:22

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:05

He is alive. And as my DH put it when I got home she’s probably bitter she can’t get any one else so gets her kicks out of pulling stunts like this!

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I can't believe I just read that.

Stowawaysue · 02/09/2025 18:22

Ok… op has just revealed herself as all nonsense

read her last paragraph about her dh.

You went too far op. You’ll know for next time

Didimum · 02/09/2025 18:22

Several things going on here.

No, OP. You should have made the single mum comment. But you are fuming (and yes, rightly so), so I think we should all let some things slide when we are fuming.

I’d have responded something like ‘Hi @X, why are you blaming a woman for a man’s behaviour?’

Other posters not believing your husband wasn’t involved – you know your DH best, and MN hates men, so make of that what you will. My DH was once caught up in something not dissimilar when a gross man made another comment to him. Before I knew it I had a few friend ‘warning me’ that my DH was inappropriate – little did they all know I was standing behind DH and the guy at the time without anyone knowing and heard the whole exchange. So! No, often gross men don’t care who they say gross things to because they are dumb as fuck.

KilkennyCats · 02/09/2025 18:22

FTSE 100 firm 😁
Does he work for Tesco, op?

SallyD00lally · 02/09/2025 18:22

Ahh bless his innocent little socks.

Still, if she knew how you've spoken about single mothers, she would've been better off tagging him and suggesting he reflects on who he's settled on.

SussexLass87 · 02/09/2025 18:22

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

Broken home?

And why do we need to know he works for a FTSE100?

Sounds like a Daily Mail sad face article!

diddl · 02/09/2025 18:22

I wouldn't have thought it's the sort of thing you would say without knowing your audience...

CherrieTomaties · 02/09/2025 18:23

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

So all kids from single parent households come from “broken homes?”

Jesus Christ you’re not making this any better for yourself.

Keep on digging the hole.

PinkArt · 02/09/2025 18:23

Dannii93 · 02/09/2025 18:19

Bloody hell I wish I never made the single Mum comment now! There’s nothing wrong with that, I respect people for leaving abusive situations. Obviously in some instances where that isn’t the reason then it’s just sad because it is the kids who are penalised by a broken home. Luckily I have picked wisely (so far!) with DH.

It’s fairly rare he does the school run given he’s often on business internationally with his position at a FTSE 100 firm, in hindsight I wish he was today!

Could you clarify which of the multiple insulting comments about single mums it is that you regret making?

MemorableTrenchcoat · 02/09/2025 18:23

diddl · 02/09/2025 18:22

I wouldn't have thought it's the sort of thing you would say without knowing your audience...

Eh? Some blokes (and women, for that matter) will say stuff like that to anyone within earshot.

Stowawaysue · 02/09/2025 18:24

I often wonder about these Ops

Imagine your life being so… empty that you get your kicks from making up shit like this

you probably do have a genuine thread in you op… and it belongs on the Mental Health board